Top Dating Coach of 2006

The Top Dating Coach of 2006... make your opinion count in my poll below. Polling closes midnight the 6th of January. (Please post a comment on why you voted for your particular dating coach, it may help others find more success as you've had!)

Riding off Thundercat's Top Pickup Artists of 2006, I thought that there is more to dating than picking up girls from boyfriends and taking them to bathrooms, so I thought the concept of an overall Dating Coach would be awesome. These are the best instructors based on performance, innovation, and content of advice. Remember, not the most popular perhaps, but the person of the year who has given the most relevant and useful advice for the improvement of YOU (that you've found to work), not particularly the whole community.

Let's see who wins!



Donovan

New Year's Eve Pickup Guide

Lance Mason's guide for New Years:

Let's face... no guy wants to be alone on New Year's Eve.

There's nothing worse than standing alone by yourself at Midnight while everyone else around you is kissing, and if you've been studying PickUp 101 Material, it should NEVER happen to you.

And I've got a little known secret to tell you... New Year's Eve is one of the best
nights of the year to hook up.

This is the ONE NIGHT that it's finally 'okay' for women to act out on their romantic and sexual desires. So don't let that special someone (or those special people!) down this holiday season.

I put together this Guide to Hooking Up New Year's Even to help you as you head out to one of the biggest celebrations of the year.

And remember the single most important thing is to have FUN!


Tip #1: Have transportation home planned.

Don't underestimate the power of a designated driver and one empty seat on New Years Eve. I don't know how it is in your town, but in San Francisco getting a cab on New Years from 2 to 3 a.m. is next to impossible.

Having a ride planned out gives her an easy excuse to ditch her friends and catch a ride with you!


Tip #2: Pick a large venue and stay there.

It's better to go to one big party the whole night then to go to several small parties over the course of the night. As the night progresses, things tend to favor those who have been the most social all night.

Women you flirted with earlier will come back to talk to you. Even the people you haven't talked to will start to recognize you as one of the more social people in the room.

This helps tremendously, and is all lost if you jump from party to party.


Tip #3: Have a goal in mind.

Are you looking to set up a bunch of dates for the New Year, to get a girlfriend, or to just have fun and hook-up for the night? It's worth mentioning that if you don't know what you are looking for you won't know when you have found it.


Tip #4: Countdowns are for wimps.

If you have a girl attracted to you and have been talking to her a while DON'T wait till midnight to get the kiss. If she likes you then practically any line works here. You can look at your watch and say, "Damn, it's only 10:30!".

Then pause and say, "I'm not waiting" and go in for the kiss.

You can even (*very* deliberately) set your watch forward (or backwards) to Midnight in front of her, give her an innocent "Oh I guess I'm supposed to kiss you now" look and go in for the kill. All done calmly with a smile, a sense of humor, and a "take it or leave it" attitude.

Once you've gotten to that point, keep escalating. Usually I say "Never fully make
out in a bar", but tonight is different.

It's New Years Eve! Go for it!


Tip #5: Hang out with the cool kids.

No matter what your age, only go out with cool friends who will support your goals.

Remember, women *will* judge you by your friends. If their are people in your life
who aren't quite up to par with you socially, this is the wrong night to spend time with them.

On the other hand, if you can go out with your best 'wingmen' definitely do it, it
could very well have to do more with your success then where you go.

By the way, I'm not just talking about wingmen here. Other single girl 'friends' and
couples can help you as much as (or even more then!) your male friends with game.


Tip #6: Don't overdo the banter!

I affectionately call New Years Eve amateur night.

I don't mean to disrespect anyone with that statement - I'm just trying to accurately assess what makes meeting girls on this night different. Clearly one of the biggest distinctions is that this is the one night where EVERYONE goes out.

Frankly, many of the people you'll see out drinking, dancing, and hooking up haven't
been out all year.

And I not just talking about guys either.

Many of the hot women you'll meet on New Years hardly ever go out. This is especially true with the most successful, most attractive women since they are often too busy working on their career and their bodies to hit the bar every weekend.

The end result is that many desirable women out on New Years are much less exposed to the attraction techniques we teach.

That means you probably need a lot *less* of your attraction techniques then normal.

Remember, once a woman likes you, you need to move into rapport, escalate things
physically, or risk losing her interest.

After all, women want to hook up on New Years as much as we do, and once she likes you she's thinking "What's next?" If you answer question with more entertaining stories or harmless flirting she is likely to lose interest.

In this environment whatever skill you have will be much more effective.

Now these women aren't that easy to spot. Unlike the guys who rarely hit the singles
scene, these girls know how to dress, how to socialize, and usually even know how to
dance.

So take it easy with the attraction techniques and escalate early, you won't need
as much as you might think.


Tip #7: After you make out with a girl, figure out the logistics ASAP.

If you want to bring a girl home with you, you definitely don't want to wait too long to broach the subject. If you are going to meet lot's of resistance, it's better to know that early on while you can still move on if you choose. If you wait till the end of the night you could miss out.

Find out who she is with, what their plans are, and what commitments she has sooner
rather then later. Is she driving anyone home? Is anyone planning on giving her a
ride? Is she there with protective friends or relatives that you might have to make a good impression on?

These are all questions I like to get to the bottom of right away after a little new
year's kissing. No waiting required.

The after party is at your house, right?

So all you need to do is say, "Hey, we're having an after party later, did you guys all come together?" Her answer will give you an early indication of what the chances of her coming back with you are. If you do this early in the night, you are not looking for a "Yes", just a "maybe" and some more information about what the logistics are.


Tip #8: Keep an eye on your target

I'm a big fan of "takeaways" (also known as giving girls "the gift of missing you") but I am real careful using these techniques in extremely chaotic environments.

If you've found the girl you *really* want, keep an eye on her!

Leave her for a second and you may lose sight of her. Lose sight of her, and she could be lip locked with another guy by the time you find her again.

Trust me even after you've met another girl, you'll still think about the one that got away.


Tip #9: Have fun!

Don't work so hard on your game and push your goals so much that you forget to have a good time. Being the funnest guy in the room will do more for your night, and your results, then all the other tips combined.

Doctor Paul "Seventh Sense" Seminar

Doctor Paul, who is the pimp daddy of all dating guru's, has got a seminar coming in Chicago soon. Worth the flight... he's got some of the most groundbreaking ideas (scientifically based) that get results! Fun guy.

Details:

Dr. Paul presents...

The Seventh Sense Seminar Friday, Saturday, & Sunday Feb. 2nd - 4th, 2007 in Chicago, IL. USA!

If you are ready to explore all parts of sexual attraction, dating, relationships and masculine power. This program is designed to give you more than skills. You will learn about mastering your instincts with women.

Read more on Dr Paul's website...

Don't Despair:The Change Is Happening

Sometimes we put a lot of burden on ourselves in this community. Everything is our fault with women, and we have the power to change our destiny. All true statements.

I've noticed, for myself, it can be overwhelming at times when it seems you've been doing all you can do.

Don't despair. Change is happening, and you're the one making a better life for yourself. Few people care about your immediate success but you... and your future girlfriends. They want a quality man that they can share those special moments in life with.

Become the man you would want to be with if you were a woman.

So don't get down on yourself for not picking up that 10 at the club last night. Work on it. Play with it. Don't take yourself so seriously, and have FUN.

It's all about experiences.

Donovan

Mystery Method Relationship Seminar Redux

Got a email from Savoy (CEO of Mystery Method).

There are only 6 spaces left at the January 27th, 2007 relationship seminar in Los Angeles, he expects them to be full by Boxing Day.

Visit:

www.themysterymethod.com/rm.htm

To see if it's what you're looking for. Then EMAIL me attractionchronicles @ gmail.com to claim your discount.

Hurry and register, this seminar is also personalized coaching after the seminar with Savoy.

Donovan

Present for Christmas? (Video)

Possibly a better present than Thundercat's suggestions on the subject? :)

How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You

I want to talk about the concept of "flirting", and why it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.

To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication.

If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.

If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you're either going to have to become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful with women.

I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.

Think of flirting like playing.

Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight" with your friends?

What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real" wrestling?

And how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?

The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're serious.

Flirting is similar.

If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi, you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.

On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realize that you're probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.

By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to be "cute".

One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."

Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humor.

It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.

This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.

So let me explain this whole thing a different way...

If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.

When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind and cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.

One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.

I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're a failure.

But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you. If you want to see some video clips of me TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out the examples:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialog. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier...

Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"

Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."

Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan"

Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."

Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."

Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."

Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend."

Me: "That's all the more reason."

...do you get what's going on here?

I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).

If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two.

When you ask for something and she says, "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.

When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate.

And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.

There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.

If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it.

If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.

There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

It will set off all of your conversations with women on the right foot, and start a dialog that creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get amazing responses.

One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body language as you do it...

And in order to project these things, you need to have the right understanding and BELIEFS about how male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be able to project them throughout your conversation with women.

The program you need to get if you want to learn how to FLIRT with women is my famous "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.

One of the SPECIFIC things that I saw guys who were "naturals" with women doing... and one of the things that I later learned to do... is what I call "being Cocky & Funny".

You've probably read about the technique in these newsletters I send you.

This is essentially my FAVORITE "technique", and the reason why is because it's FUN... and it WORKS.

It's fun for you, it's fun for her, and it works like MAD to spark and build ATTRACTION.

If you've tried being Cocky & Funny with a woman and seen that SPARK in her eye... and the smile on her face... then you KNOW how powerful this is.

Well, this program will take your basic skills and SUPERCHARGE them. I'll teach you everything from the foundations of humor and laughter... all the way to specific word-by-word lines for the most common situations you find yourself in with women.

Go check it out, and watch some video clips here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/

Oh, and if you haven't gone and downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to get your ass in gear and do that right now. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

David D

Happy Birthday

No... this isn't the blog's annual birthday. It's mine! I'm a year older and... wiser.

A big THANK YOU goes out to all my loyal readers here at The Attraction Chronicles. You definitely make my life brighter, and happier.

You guys are awesome, and this new year in my life is going to be better than the last! A lot of traveling, new hobbies, and new girls.

The Mystery Method Way: Pursuing vs. Chasing:

It’s Sunday afternoon. You met a great woman on Friday or Saturday night, and followed the Mystery Method perfectly. You opened, you created attraction, you qualified, and then you started to build comfort. The situation wasn’t right for you to take it further, so you casually invited her to join you for some exciting event on Monday. She gave you her number.

You phone. It rings a few times and goes to her voicemail. You leave a message. She doesn’t call you back. It’s now Tuesday. What do you do?

1. Maybe call her again next week, but that’s it. You need to have the frame that you have lots of women interested in you and are busy, or else she won’t stay attracted to you anyway.

2. Call or text every day or two with a variety of different approaches, to see if any of them make an impact. Delete the number after a few weeks if you don’t get anywhere.

3. Call every day until she answers. Once in a while call three times in a row to see if that works. After a week or so, drop back to once a week or so. Don’t give up until YOU are no longer interested.

What’s the right answer? Don’t look ahead…

Actually, any of them could be the right answer. In the right context, all of these are okay. Too many beginners in the Mystery Method are too inflexible with the frame that “I have value…she has to come to me” and default to (A). Yes, this is a good frame, and it’s important. However, sometimes you need to do a little bit of pursuing as well.

Why is this? If you obviously have value, why should you have to pursue a woman? Why does she want you to? In short, it’s because this shows that you are genuinely interested in her. In fact, the more value you have, or appear to have, the more a woman will want to see you put in a bit of genuine effort to pursue her. She recognizes that you can have easy conquests, and she doesn’t want to be easy.

Why else? Some women are simply flaky and scatterbrained (so are some men). She may adore you, but you called when she was having dinner, and then she met up with a friend, and now it’s the next day, and she could call you, but now she’s distracted and, anyway, if you’re really interested in her you’ll call again, right?

Why else? She wants to play the traditional female role of being chased. It’s exciting for her, and built into millennia of social programming. It’s not a great frame for men to be in, which is why we short-circuit it when we first meet a woman by disqualifying ourselves during the attraction phase. That’s easy in public, where you can plausibly start a random conversation with an attractive woman without being interested in her (until she wins you over, of course…). It’s not easy on the phone. By calling, you are confirming your interest. That’s why it’s so important to qualify her when you first met, so she feels comfortable with your interest in her, but it does mean that you might feel a little bit of “back to square one” on the telephone. So, yes, she may make you work for it by not returning your phone call. Don’t take it personally.

Why else? Some women are taught “not to call guys”. Yes, it’s pretty silly, but there is just as much silly dating advice for women as there is for men (both you and I are lucky that we found the Mystery Method). There’s nothing you can do about this. Call them. You can fix their silly ideas later.

Now, we covered ages ago some of the crucial tactics to making you she does answer the phone when you call (programming your number into her phone, telling her when you’re going to call, planning a specific event, making her verbalize some anti-flake routines, texting/calling that night, etc.) as well as how to leave a message (leave hooks, cut yourself off, etc.) so we’ll assume that you’ve done all of this, and are still not getting her on the phone. You can give up, of course, and focus your energies on new women. This is totally fine. But you can also set aside a few minutes a day with your “cold” phone numbers and do some of this:

* Vary the time of day when you call. Morning, afternoon, evening, night. If you’re getting nowhere, try calling at 1am. You’ll wake her up, so make sure you can be immediately entertaining from the second she answers. (Start with a high-energy, funny, short routine. Don’t even introduce yourself).

* Call from different numbers

* Try sending text messages – some people simply prefer these to phone calls

* Don’t ever acknowledge that you are calling and she isn’t returning your calls. Adopt the frame – to yourself – that she is just a flaky woman and it’s kind of cute. Don’t let it cross your mind that she might not actually be interested in you.

* Don’t ever say “this is the last time I’m calling” or “I’m calling to leave you another message” – see above. And if you do get her on the phone, don’t even bring up the subject of your previous calls or texts.

* If you phone, and it goes directly to voicemail (and doesn’t ring at all), hang up.You got a free pass. If it doesn’t ring, it won’t show up as a missed call on her phone. She won’t see that you called. If it does ring, leave a message.

On the other hand, don’t turn “pursuing” into “chasing”. If she tells you not to call, stop calling. Don’t be creepy.

eHarmony Review

Well, Thundercat posted an article on his blog about eHarmony. From what he was saying, it sounds like the worst site on the Internet. Not only is it a waste of time (literally - time consuming to setup an account), but it also seems like there's nothing but freak show, desperate women on there. AFC's we need you, go over to this site, eHarmony and do some charity work.

In the end, Thundercat ended up saying:

"Over all, I’d say that eHarmony is one of the WORST dating sites for guys out there. Personally, I think that company is kept afloat by a gaggle of desperate, ugly women who struck out on all the other dating sites out there. If you’re looking to get some quality results with online dating, go for a site that gives you more freedom and better search quality, like Match or Yahoo. And if you don’t want to pay for it, stick to MySpace."

If you want the edge with online dating, like a total system with secret techniques and results based on experience from experts, check out David Deangelo's "Meeting Women Online" DVD set. Really awesome stuff.

Donovan

Texting Eliminates Flakes

There are lots of theories on how to get the solid date and avoid flaking, but recently I've tested and proven an approach that works every time.

You have to just assume you KNOW when you're together whether or not it's on for the future. You can feel how strong the connection is. If it's really there, just don't screw anything up. Send her a cute SMS the next day, let her reply, then SMS telling her when you'll call. Then call, have a short, fun chat, and set the date and time to meet again.

Don't overthink this stuff or try to overgame with phone and SMS. This may be the biggest community-induced mistake I have had to undo. If she gave you her real number, she already likes you. So just assume all you need to do now is make it easy for her to get in contact with you.

Use text first. Calling first is always more of a risk because people do NOT answer their phone unless they know the number (and people like me don't answer their phone even if they know it, choosing instead to time-shift with voicemail).

The text allows her to see who it is, and lets her THINK and FEEL about you before replying. It lets her remember. It also prepares her to talk to you, so she's looking forward to it.

Personally I have always HATED the phone. I hate when the phone rings, I hate talking on it, I hate not being able to see the person, etc. But I love little notes. That's what text is. Little love notes passed in class to keep the fire going until you see each other again.

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Here's my classic failsafe... I've probably sent some variation on this 1000 times.

"hey cutie... it's weird... i was just thinking of you... :-)"

With text, be quick and cute. Don't go for too cocky. Remember, cocky doesn't work without body language and non-verbal cues. Your text should be like a cute little note you drop in her purse that pings her to remember the good feelings she had when with you. That's all.

My RULES for text messages:

1. I always address them with pet names like darlin', sweetie, cutie pie, sexy, gorgeous, adorable brat, etc.

2. I use proper grammar. I don't use the normal abbreviations. If you do, U R 2 stop. I do abbreviate stuff like family to "fam", San Francisco to SF, etc. I hope I don't have to say this, but NEVER USE LEET SPEAK (wikipedia it if you don't know). Know the difference between "your" and "you're", "to" and "too", etc. A side rule to this, the more sexual the message, the more proper the grammar you should use. Which feels sexier, "I want 2 slowly kiss Ur lips…" or "I want to slowly kiss your lips…"?

3. Sign your name when it is the first one or two text messages you send (credit: Robert1). All you do is write your text, then at the end add "-Sean." Replace "Sean" with your own name though, or include my cell phone number in the text if you don't.

4. I use a lot of smiley faces This replaces the big friendly smile you would have on your face when you deliver a banter line. Text messages should basically be banter lines. I do not use any other faces other than smiley faces. No winky face no "P" face (I actually don't even know what this is supposed to mean), etc. Some might disagree, but personally I think this borders on leet speak, which is not ok. Furthermore, I want my words to convey my message. If my words, punctuation and a smiley face aren't enough, then I feel I am doing something wrong.

5. I use rich descriptions. If I do say how I am doing, I make it descriptive. In response to "how R U?" I might reply "Just saw the sunset over the bay, the sky's glowing orange - looks incredible!"

6. Jump on the offers a girl makes. An "offer" is a term from improv acting. It is when one actor says something that describes something about the other actor.

Example, one actor says to the other, "I like that large funny hat you have on", the other actor then would go on with that theme of wearing a large funny hat.

It is a little different with text messages, but if a girl sends you something that you can make fun and sexy, do it. For example, I got a text message from one of the girls the other night, "buenas noches. Dulces suenos guapo." [translates: good night. Sweet dreams, handsome]. I replied the next morning by writing, "good morning, beautiful. Have a good day." Except I wrote it in french. I took her theme, and replied in a way that was similar, but original and charming.

Your TOOLS:

Brevity: You have to say everything very quickly. If you can't say it in about 10 to 20 words, then rework it until you can. It is ALWAYS possible to flirt in less than 12 words, in my opinion. If you don't think so, "you are a dork :) " (see, it is that easy). Get rid of everything and anything that is not necessary, by not necessary I mean not flirty and fun.

Punctuation: The main punctuation techniques I use are CAPS, ellipses… exclamation!!! Question marks?? both?!?!, [brackets], and (parenthesis). And smiley face as I mentioned before :) These all have different emotional effects, use them! Caps are REALLY EXCITING!! Wtf?!? [roll my eyes] don't make me.. come over there… and wrap my arms around you… (I won't spank tooo hard)

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Don't be a fool, stay in school! - Van Wilder

Donovan

Inside Mystery Method

I've recently spoken to my friend Savoy, CEO of Mystery Method. He told me of exciting stuff happening over there, and about a new blog featuring his adventures in his dating life, and the running of a pickup business. Check it out here.

Donovan

How To Pickup Women in Supermarkets

The latest and greatest from Lance Mason

Here's how I get my shop on.

Supermarket is a super-normal situation. Act super-normal. Forget the crazy stuff. Just be friendly, flirty, and the show you have some manners.

And keep this in mind... the supermarkets are full of single girls on weeknights after work. Single girls who are waiting to meet someone charming, confident, and yes, NORMAL.

Now's your time to shine.

Follow these steps, and make sure you put "hottie" on your shopping list this week.

1. Walk in and grab a cart. It makes a difference. Even if you're just there to
practice flirting, make it look to everyone, especially yourself, that you fit in.

2. Head towards the back of the store so you can see who's in which row. Walk along
shopping, and keep your eyes open. When you find a girl you like, start walking towards her.

3. Be observant. Look at where she is. It always helps to be aware of the situation.

4. Make a comment on anything appropriate to the situation.

You don't need your opener to be clever. Just appropriate. The trick is to get her
attention, and then start having fun.

5. Here's how it works when you add some banter to your shopping cart.

"Wow, you got a lot of good food there.
I usually just buy beer and a pack of
Twizzlers."

"Yes, well..."

Now turn on the big smile.

"Perfect. I'll be over for dinner at 7:30...
no, 8. And I'll bring the wine this time...
you just cook that special thing you made
for us last week."

Now is when she smiles and plays along. Keep playing with it. Talk about how the
dinner last week was great, and you're really looking forward to a special night. Laugh and smile and enjoy it. If you have fun, she'll have fun.

Once she's smiling and having fun, the next step is easy.

Just introduce yourself. Then talk to the girl. Have a conversation, and see if there's something there.

Tested and approved.

Now, because I'm in a good mood, I'm going to give you one more super-bonus line to use.


"My buddy is having a girl over for dinner.
What should he make?"

"Well, girls always like pasta..."

"Actually, I didn't need to know that.
I just made that up so I could come over here
and flirt with you. Did you not get that? Here,
let me try again.

How you doin'?" :-)


Now I want to see some replies with your ideas as well. Let's make the supermarket the new disco.

Yeah baby!

Tell me your best lines. Get out there and start having fun, and let us know what's working best for you.

Lance

Dating Do's and Dont's (Video)

How the times have changed... but not by that much! =)

The Bullshit Business of Love! (Video)

I found this video online from Penn and Teller (Showtime Series) talking about the woman that wrote "The Rules", the truth behind John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus". Funny stuff, and truth to it!

Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women

Cocky & Funny technique with women, and you really liked the results? Would you like to learn how to MASTER the technique, and create SUPER attraction with women? If so, then I want you to take a minute and look at THIS:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/

WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT

I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.

Here's a cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.

If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.

This program features me and several amazing guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to master the technique... along with DOZENS and DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and "comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.

Go watch some of the preview video clips, and see for yourself how valuable this program is:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/

Pickup101 Instructor on Beauty and the Geek?

I've just heard that a Pickup101 instructor will be appearing on CW's Beauty and the Geek... he's one of these guys apparently... my guess is it's one of those two Asian guys...



Donovan

Loverboy's Tribute to Sarging (Video)

I posted this up on the blog about a year ago, but it was removed from Google about a month later. I think it's an awesome video signifying what can happen when you resolve to do something, and fix the situation your in! Kudos Loverboy!

David Deangelo's Cocky Comedy Program (Video)

It's been too long for me to post these videos from Cocky Comedy.

I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.

Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)

Can You Program Yourself To Meet Women?

I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don't even recognize within ourselves.

Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down.

1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?

2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?

3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?

4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?

If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).

I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them...

I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.

I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.

And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.

Let me give you a little Tough Love:

NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN YOU.

Really.

If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.

It just doesn't matter. No one cares.

THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.

And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU.

Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."

Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be."

Nope.

You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.

It just ain't gonna happen that way.

If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it...

YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.

And what's the best way to do it yourself?

This is a fantastic question...

There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point...

1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.

Here's a little story.

I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.

As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.

It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...

When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.

And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.

Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually.

The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.

I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.

I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.

You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend."

So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."

You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world.

This is a big step in changing some of your programming.

2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.

One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.

When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.

Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.

So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.

If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and get my eBook, Double Your Dating... that will help a LOT. It's here.

3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.

I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.

You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.

Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.

At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.

But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do).

The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.

Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down.

JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.

If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.

Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together...

It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women.

Repeat: It took me YEARS.

Years of trial and error.

I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.

Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more.

As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.

One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.

It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important:

That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines".

And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue...

It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women.

Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.

I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.

Your Friend,

David Deangelo

Five Fundamentals to Get Girls Today

(by Sean Newman, Pickup 101 Senior Instructor)

The dreaded death of mojo.

We all face it.

You wake up and the first thing you think is "I have to go back out there and do it again."

Doesn't matter if you've been picking up girls your whole life, or if you just started. The strong pull to do nothing never goes away.

Entropy. The tendency of ordered systems to fall apart and settle into inactivity.

Sloth. The desire to stay in bed and do, as we all learned from "Office Space," nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.

But the girls are out there. They are there every morning getting coffee, waiting for trains and busses, walking to work, walking their dogs, doing stuff. Commerce. Activity. Life.

And you know that when you are having a good day, it can be easy to just strike up that flirty conversation and spark something. We've all had at least one night, maybe with good friends at a party, or a bar you really like, when it seems like no thing to turn your volume up a little bit more and run your silly fun little lines on the cutie who catches your eye.

We all already have mojo. But we don't control when it's on, and when it's off.

What do you do on those days when your mojo is sleeping?

How do you wake it the fuck up?

Here's are the 5 Fixes I use to get myself going every day.

It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this or how good you are at it. Remember, the best pickup artists in the world don't even think of it as pickup. It's not something they do. It's just something they are, every minute, every day.

Do these five things, and you'll peg your switch to ON all the time, and you'll never let an opportunity pass by again.

1. Say Hi to people and give smiles every single day.

Simple smiles and greetings, especially in places where that is not expected, change the way you feel. When you talk, you are out of your head. And your head is a very comfortable, but lonely, place to be. If you're only motivation for doing pickup is to bust a nut, you'll never be happy. But if you can consider that being a nicer, friendlier person is a gift to others, it takes the pressure off you.

2. Flirt before noon.

I don't wait for Friday or Saturday night to roll around. I schedule visits to places every morning where I know I'll run into cute girls, so I can keep approaching and keep re-enforcing good habits and good results.

The nice thing about flirting with girls in the daytime is that all you need is one banter line, and you are almost always going to get a smile.


3. Walk, and walk with a purpose.

Be aware of your body language every day. If you catch yourself feeling nervous or stressed, get up and walk around. Force a smile onto your face. Breathe deep and slow. Get moving.

4. When in doubt, just make her smile.

Every passionate relationship begins with the man doing something to make the woman feel good. There are lots of ways to start this... banter and teasing, sexy eye contact, or absolute sincerity. If you get stuck, or in your head, stop thinking about it as a pickup, and set your goal just at making her smile. Be selfless. You are a gift you share with women.

5. Go back to basics.

Instead of trying to run a scripted 20-minute stack, just do the pieces. Go back to warmups like you learned in Art of Attraction. Stop cute girls and ask them what time it is. Willfully lose yourself in the city so you can ask directions.

And when you really need a karmic boost, go with the old standard sincere compliment.

"I know this is a little random, but I had to tell you that you are very cute."

Start it by acknowledging that what you are about to do is a bit unusual. This shows your social intelligence and puts her at ease. Then tell her just what you think. Every healthy man finds attractive girls cute. There's always something there that catches her eye. And you know she spends most of her time and money working on it.

So tell her. Be a man who makes his world better, and you will find the world making things better for you.

These five fixes may sound a little too basic. I know, you want the super-advanced magic words to make panties just melt right off her thighs.

The truth is there are no magic words. There are no shortcuts, and there is no new technology that makes girls want sex more than ever before.

There are only fundamentals, and guys who do them well. Make these fundamentals part of your daily routines, and watch your results, and your total happiness, skyrocket.

It's pure pickup karma. The more good you do for others selflessly, the more it comes back to you. Stop worrying about how to get her home that night or destroy her boyfriend or overcome her socialized resistance.

Do it for her, not for you. You will get more comfortable and more confident, and then when you see that smoking hottie across the bar and know you have to wade through a see of stalkers to get to her, you'll have your mojo running high and a real smile on your face.

Mojo makes you a superhero. Learn to build it and bank it, and you can do anything.

PickUp101 on CNBC Money (Video)

Lance and his henchmen from PickUp101 were featured on CNBC's On The Money yesterday. You can check out the video below:

http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=c6714218-cb17-4f68-a5be-db40a8a2dd02&f=00&fg

They also just released a new Physical Confidence program. Very professional.

http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence

Enjoy.

The Truth By Playboy (Stephen Nash)

Stephen (PlayboyLA from The Game) just blogged a very revealing post on his experiences with the community, and how not to get fooled.

Why You Might Be Wasting Your Time

I tend to meet with client once per week these days, and a very common theme has emerged. Many of them emerge from working various programs, attending various workshops, reading every book known to man, only to be more frustrated and downtrodden because it doesn't seem to work out for them.

The carrot can't be caught in other words...

Not to entirely frustrate you, but usually guys who are good at the 'game' were good at it already...or pretty good at it already...the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place. Let me repeat that:

"the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place"

In other words, your diagnosis might be a bit off.

The community - whether it's a competing company, a web-board, a lair..whatever - thrives on dangling a carrot out there in front of you claiming that your life will change in 13 seconds if you just buy this product...etc...

This methodology is certainly lucrative - just ask Tony Robbins - but it doesn't usually translate into success. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX TO YOUR PROBLEM...and anyone who claims otherwise doesn't deserve your attention, money, time, or bandwidth.

Most of what you read online is total BS by the way - the webboards which feature endless posts by supposed experts are normally 30% truth. I have watched so many guys doctor and change their posts to relay a much larger, and more glorified representation of the truth. HB6's suddenly are HB9's etc.

So, what follows is a reasonable expectation for you - something actually attainable - and not something designed to get you to purchase my products.

1) Begin - analyze your social life. How many friends do you have? How many are male and how many are female? How often do you see them? How often do you go out with a friend or a group of friends? How do you meet new women (if at all)? How do you make friends? If you have had a relationship, how did it happen? (In my experience, a guy tends to meet women the same way his entire life - so, if the last 9 girlfriends you had were met via another friend, my money is on the next one happening that way IN SPITE of how you feel about cold approaches).

2) Once you have written down some honest answers, give yourself SMALL goals to reach with a month's time to reach them. So, if your social circle is 5 people - try to double it in a month's time. Within a month, your circle has grown to 10...

3) If you don't meet 5 new people on a weekly basis, your social life is not active enough. If that is the case, you need to branch out. Here are some ideas:

- classes
- events
- openings
- parties
- hobbies
- friends
- cold approach (notice how this is one of 7 ways...)

MOST couples come together via social circle - NOT THROUGH COLD APPROACHING - so, why waste your time trying to get good at that when you can easily get good at the others, meet TONS of new women (and make cool guy friends) and improve your lifestyle as a result?

Why put your life on hold just to get laid? Why not accelerate your life forward, and then get laid or even....meet someone for a relationship...

4) Lead your social circle - study all about John Goddard, make your list, get started and then invite everyone else to come along for the ride...LEAD in other words. Become the magnet to mission, purpose and excitement.

5) And by the way - what IS your mission or purpose in your life anyway?? Do you know? If not, now would be a good time to write a bit about that and start to get an idea...nothing as unattractive as a loose balloon being blown about by the wind...

6) Go to a tailor and get fitted for your sizes right away. Never buy clothing that doesn't fit again.

7) Get in shape - go to the gym MINIMUM 3 times per week. And if you want to know...I swim...and love it...great for the mind, body, joints, you name it.

8) Clean your apartment - do it tonight. Wash the dishes when you're done eating, and make your bed in the morning.

9) Go to the dentist, and have your teeth cleaned. Be sure to correct any bad breath issues you may have. You might be the nicest, coolest, most handsome guy in the world - and with bad breath, you'll never see approaching lips...

10) Stop wasting your time doing things you like, and only go things you love...

Now remember, set reasonable expectations on your progress. Nothing worthwhile is going to happen in even a month. But a year from now - and trust me, that is not long and is WAY shorter than the amount of time needed to get good at the cold approach - you can expect very significant progress and change, if you are diligent and disciplined.

If you want a girlfriend, and a healthy relationship - YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME DOING COLD APPROACHES. You must create a lifestyle and image which are attractive and healthy - you can't have a healthy relationship with another until you have one with yourself - which means honoring your deepest wishes, and the precious time you have here on earth (this is first and foremost)! Stop wasting time...start really living, and watch as your entire framework for relating to women change.

And to finish the first paragraph - my job, as a reporter recently noted, is to rewire guys away from the community beliefs, into beliefs which actually serve and are rooted in REALITY...that's what I do about once per week...not bad, but a shame that so many well-intentioned guys get such bad direction from other equally clueless guys...



For an example of such a website: www.spiritual-seduction.com (this 19 year old has been in the community for less than 6 months, hardly a "guru") Thoughts, comments?

For more Stephen Nash and his thoughts on the game, community and dating, check out his Seduction Master's Interview here.

Underground Zan Footage in Chicago (Video)

Whoever put this online is awesome. I spoke to Zan briefly, and I need to get his seduction master's interview finished soon for you all.

This video was secretly recorded via PalmPilot after he spoke at a David Deangelo seminar in Chicago.

He speaks on some great points

* Being genuine
* Sincerity
* Internal game



I hope you enjoyed it.

Definitive Guide To Natural Bar/Club Game

I've managed to pull up a really old post from a former PUA named Craig (from Elimidate). He has since retired from the community but this is one of the most comprehensive guides to natural bar/club game I've seen.

Craig's Method...The Natural Way

One of the main reasons why I succeed in bars and most go home alone is because I have a system, one that has taken me years to perfect. When I was first starting out in the game I tried all kinds of crazy things to meet women, from giving them business cards to doing card tricks, even trying to hypnotize them! I had a few successes here and there, but what always bothered me was that the techniques just didn't seem natural. Not to mention the fact that when I ran out of lines I would get run over. I knew there were guys out there who got hoards of women without even trying, and that was my ultimate goal.

A few years ago I had a major realization and I started pulling women like crazy. It came at a very frustrating time in my life, when I was about to throw in the towel and give up on being the guy who has women all over him.

My major turning point came when I decided to throw all I thought I knew about meeting women in the trash. I was so frustrated with the rejections and my weak successes that I decided I was just going to go out and have a FUCKING AWESOME TIME! I decided that if I didn't come home with anybody it wouldn't matter anymore, because I would have a blast, and make everyone in the bar have a better night because I was there!

I didn't get laid that first night, but I met more girls than I ever had before and I could not believe the positive responses I was getting. Girls were picking up on the vibe that I was only there to have a good time, and I was having such a blast that it was contagious! Girls that I talked to early in the night were coming back up to me and striking up conversations!

Its been many years since I first started on my path to mastery, and these days whenever I go out, I meet a lot of women, whether I want to or not! When I set out to write this book I took a hard look at what I do now compared to what I did then, and hopefully what I've found will help you to reach your goals faster than I did.

As you know my goal has always been to become a natural seducer, and when I was starting out I tried to watch the guys that got a lot of women in the clubs and learn from them. The problem was that I couldn't for the life of me figure out what they were doing that was so different. They usually weren't the best-dressed guys in the house, and almost never the best looking.

It didn't hit me until I started picking up all kinds of women that there was a distinct format to my style, and that format is the foundation of my success. There are dozens of little things I do to enhance my game, but they alone do not get me laid. You have to bake the cake before you can put on the icing!

The Circle Format

One thing I noticed when I first started doing this is that losers the in a club would stand around and drink and watch, while guys with game would walk around and make things happen. The guys with lots of game would be sitting at a table with different beautiful women around them all night like they were famous. That is where I wanted to be, and I discovered that you have to put a lot of walking and talking to get to there.

The thing I like about most clubs and bars is that they are built in a way that creates a good flow around the inside, and you can usually walk around the whole place in a big circle without having to backtrack. Walking around the club in big circles is the basis of my format, and it's what you DO when you are walking around that makes all of the difference.

When you first arrive at a venue you have to set a presence for yourself, and it's important to get in the right state of mind before you walk in. Think of yourself as the owner of the club, because tonight, the place is yours! Say it aloud! Whenever I walk through the doors of a club, I stop, look around, and say 'MY HOUSE!'

After you are inside and you check you coat, get your drink, etc., start your walk around the club. When you see a girl or group of girls you want to meet, go in and say something funny or interesting that isn't something they have already heard ten times that night.

An example conversation could go like this:

Me: (serious look) Hey! Are you guys going to like me better the 3rd time you see me?

Girls: Huh? What do you mean?

Me: Well I've already walked past you guys twice and you guys haven't said hi to me or hello or grabbed my ass or anything! What's goin on?

Girls: (laughing) Hi my name's Jen, and this is Carrie. What's yours?

Me: Craig. Nice to meet you. Now, next time I see you all I'm going to expect a warm welcome!

Here comes the MOST powerful part of this technique. After you exchange a few laughs MOVE ON OUT! This is huge because every other guy they have ever met has leached on at the first sign of acceptance and tried to hang out with them all night! How desperate is that? By ending the conversation first you have shown them that you are a secure guy who doesn't care if he sees them again, or if they talk to other guys. And why should you? You have many more groups of women to approach!

The whole idea here is to get them laughing, show them you are a fun guy that they would want to hang out with, then leave with them wanting more! In sales this is called a takeaway.

Do the same thing with the next group. If a girl is by herself don't leave her out of the loop, but don't use that as an excuse to latch on. If a conversation is going really well with a certain group or girl, it is ok to keep it up, just make sure that you are the one to end it and that you end it while both of you are still laughing and having fun.

This structure eliminates a lot of mistakes and conveys a lot of important things. Lets take a look at what's going on here, and why this works:

You are showing every woman you meet that you are a fun guy with a great personality.

Since you are only talking to each group for a short time and you are the one that is ending the conversation, you show them that you aren't desperate for their attention and you create a challenge. You leave them wanting more!

You will be seen talking to lots of women, which will make you look desirable and create competition. This is known as 'Social Proof', and creates a presence with everyone around you.

· You are creating a familiarity with these women, so the next time you see them, it's like you are old buds! The hardest part is behind you!

Best of all, this format allows you to meet tons of women while naturally walking around the club having fun. You are going to have a GREAT time and meet LOTS of people!

I relate this structure to fishing, because it reminds me a TV special I saw once on sharks. When scientists want to catch some sharks to study, they dump a bunch of blood and fish guts in the water to get them all riled up. There's no real meat in there, but it lets the sharks know that there is something around, and it gets them alert and looking for food.

This is what you're doing with your initial approach and takeaway. You are letting the girls know you're in the house and that you are different from the rest of the guys, and you keep them wanting more. I think they said it best in the movie 'Swingers'. It's all about letting the girls know that you're money and you're ready to party!

Starting the Frenzy

By the time you are finished with lap number one you will probably have talked to 10-20 girls, some alone and some in groups. There is no set time frame for how long this should take, because every club is different and some conversations will last longer than others. Sometimes I will finish my first lap without doing any approaches because there are no hot women in the bar. In those cases the first lap is usually my last!

On your second go-round you are going to see a few or all of the girls you met on the first pass, depending on the size of the club. Of course some of them will be in the bathroom, on the dance floor, gone home, etc., but new girls are always emerging to take their places. Don't get lazy and leave them out of the fun!

The girls that you are seeing for the second time already have a good impression of you, and now they've seen you talking with lots of other women, so they view you not only as ok to be seen with, but also as desirable to the opposite sex. I don't need to tell you that this is a good thing!

Now that you have gotten things brewing, it's time to pull out the bait and see if she grabs it! Your bait is what you do when you see a girl or group of women you have already approached. The goal here is to have a conversation start naturally, like it would if you had met them before.

Your bait can be the same type of thing you did the first time (Eg. Get her laughing with a joke about something in the club, tell a short funny story, ask her a question, etc.) or something on a smaller scale, like a look and a smile. Other things you could do would be to give her a high five, touch her glass with yours as you walk by and say 'cheers', or my personal favorite, and accuse
her of following you, and tell her to stop!

From now on every time you see her throw her some kind of bait and see if she grabs on to it. By throwing the bait you are giving her an easy way to start talking to you, and that is what you are waiting for. For instance, if you make a joke, see if she makes a funny comment back. If you touch her glass and say 'cheers', she might ask you what you're drinking. She may say something unrelated to your bait, like 'Nice necklace' or 'Where did you get that ring?' If she asks you a question it's always a good sign. One that I here all of the time is, 'You look familiar' 'Where do I know you from?' To this I answer, 'Do you watch adult movies?'

If she doesn't take the bait keep on walking! Some girls will take the bait right away and a conversation will start naturally, and other conversations might not happen until you have seen them 5 or 6 six times. That's a good thing, because every time you see her you are reminding her about you and building anticipation.

The most important thing you are doing here that most guys miss is that you are setting yourself up as a challenge. People don't value what they don't have to work for, and to most women, especially attractive women, men are too easy!

Imagine if you were a beautiful woman, and you had guys kissing your ass and begging to be with you your entire life. It gets old fast, and when a woman like this meets a man who doesn't put her on a pedestal and makes her chase after him, it drives her crazy!

Every woman loves a challenge, and this will separate you from 99% of the guys out there. Ask a few girls you know about this, and ask them to describe how a man can be a challenge to them. You will gain some really valuable insight.

The familiarity that this method creates is one of the reasons why it is so effective. If you do your job on the first contact with a new girl, or group of girls, the next time you see them they will remember you and all of their walls will have come down.

This plays a HUGE part when you are dealing with groups, because when women go out they will naturally try to keep their friends together and keep them from getting hit on. If you approach the group as a whole a few times and show them what type of person you are, it will make it much easier to isolate your target when that time comes. Instead of the girls being cautious about their friend leaving, they will be jealous!

Reeling in the Fish

After a few rounds in the club you are probably going to have a one or two women that you have a really good feeling about. Maybe the two of you had a great conversation, maybe she 'accidentally' touched your arm a few too many times, or maybe she is just the hottest woman you've talked to all night. Either way, it's time to close the deal!

Now that you have it narrowed down it's ok to seek your woman out, and the sooner the better. Make sure you stick with the bait formula. When you find her say something funny, ask her a question, or make a comment about something to give her the opportunity to start a conversation.

If she's with her group of friends, it's time to isolate her and make your move! You don't have to take her away from her friends completely, but it is important to get into a one-on-one conversation with her.

Remember, the main reason her friends may try to 'cockblock' is because they aren't sure if their friend is into you and they want to 'save' her. Hopefully when you were making your rounds you talked to the group as a whole, or they at least saw their friend give you a positive reaction. This familiarity will give you a big advantage.

Ending Conversations

It's always good to end a conversation first, and a great way to do it is to say, 'Hey it was nice meeting you, I'm gonna catch up with my friends. Maybe I'll see you later.

Saying 'maybe' is very important. It shows that you don't care if you do see her again, and it leaves her wondering if you will. If you say, I'll catch up with you later, she knows that she is gonna see you again and it removes part of the mystery and the challenge that women need to feel attraction.

On Group Approaches and Cock Blocks

If a girl is with her friends but they are out of earshot or already talking to others, it is ok to single her out and talk to her by herself. If her friends come back and interrupt don't worry about it. It's their job to watch out for their friend. Think nothing of it and include her friends in the conversation.

If one of her friends completely captures her attention for more than a few seconds, don't stand around like a puppy! If you were just throwing a little bait and the two of you hadn't really started talking yet, keep right on walking without saying anything. If the conversation was flowing nicely you can do one of two things.

Your first option is to end the conversation as you normally would, but shorten it to, 'Maybe I'll see you later' and walk away. If it's really on or it's getting late and your not sure if you will see her again, turn away at least 90 degrees and do something. Light a smoke, order a drink, check your phone, etc, and wait for HER to come back to YOU. If she doesn't come back, either start talking to someone else or walk away. When you see her again she will respect you for being your own person and not waiting around like a chump.

On-Going Cycle

The nice thing about this cycle is that it doesn't limit itself to one night, because you are always meeting new girls and throwing bait to old ones. I used to live in a smaller town with only 3 bars, and at the end of every night there would be certain girls that I had talked too only once and others that I had talked too 3 or 4 times a night for months.

Some of the girls would come around eventually and we would end up hooking up, while others became great bar buddies that would introduce me to their cute girlfriends! Damn I love this stuff!

When I moved to a bigger city I thought it would be different since there are literally hundreds of bars here, but I learned that every town has it's own bar scene and you will always run into a lot of the same people. The cycle continues!

The Natural Way

When I go out to a club I look like a normal, social guy that happens to get a lot of women. No one would ever label me a 'Lounge Lizard' or a 'Pimp', because to the untrained eye and the women around, it appears as though I am just hanging out like everyone else, and having a little bit more fun. This is very important because if a woman thinks you are a pick up artist and you do this all the time, you will have to work ten times harder to make it happen.

I have a friend that I go out clubbing with all of the time, but we never really talk about techniques since we have very different styles. He overheard me explaining this method to someone and said, “You mean you are actually doing something when you are walking around like that?” And I hit the town with this guy all the time!

This format is designed to be a natural way to meet women. If you want to grab a drink or have a smoke along the way, feel free. You are there to have a great time! If you run into some of your buddies, by all means stay and have a beer. If you run into some girls that you know, stay and chat longer because the other girls in the club will see you (social proof) and your girlfriends
may know some cuties that you should meet!

Lance Mason's New Product (Video)

This is a 2-1/2 minute video from the new Physical Confidence program by Pickup 101, done in the style of a Hollywood movie trailer.

It's pretty cool, I think you'll enjoy it.

This clip will give you a much better idea of what the Physical Confidence product is all about.



http://pickup101.com/physicalconfidence

I've Never Had An Orgasm

I read that statement at the UK iVillage's Relationships Sex section today.

I found that pretty disturbing.

I remember one of the points Neil Strauss made, at the Mystery Method seminar in Vegas in response to a audience members question about women not sticking around after they've had sex, was "Is she having orgasms?"

Within the community we tend to be fairly self-improvement orientated which is great. We tend to put responsiblity in our own actions and not the womans. For the most part I think this is absolutely what we need to do. Sometimes, however a woman doesn't have orgasms like we would expect. I think the main cause of it, is an emotional connection and sexual technique.

In response to that woman's question... the following was given (which I think is valid):

Don't panic. There's almost certainly nothing wrong with you or your partner. But unlike men, most women have to learn to have an orgasm because each woman has a slightly different way of getting there. And you have to experiment in order to find out what works for you.

The first thing to realise is that for most women, intercourse alone doesn't bring them to orgasm. The secret to female orgasm is the clitoris - a small sensitive part of your genitals just above your vagina, that's the equivalent of the tip of a man's penis.

Now when your partner is penetrating you, he usually won't be touching your clitoris at all. There are three ways you could get the stimulation you need. First, by getting so worked up before intercourse that you're nearly at the point of orgasm - and then penetration finishes you off. Second, by either you or your partner sliding your hand down and touching your clitoris during intercourse. Or third, by finding a position for intercourse that means your clitoris is being stimulated, because your man's penis touches it as he slides in and out. But as I said, all of these need a lot of experimentation.

For an easy guide to sexual technique and the a guide to giving women that ultimate orgasm/s. Check out Secret Orgasm Tips that I've been referring guys to for awhile now.

Donovan

Physical Confidence (Video)

Check out the latest video from Pickup101. What do you guys think?



There's a sneak peek page at Pickup101's new Physical Confidence page below:

http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence/index.html

Coming soon... an Seduction Master's Interview with Lance Mason.

3 Secrets of Meeting Women Online

If you've "tried" online dating, and not gotten the results that you wanted... or you'd like to learn how to write online personal ads that get MASSIVE RESPONSE, then go read this:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/


***SUCCESS STORY***

Well I have to say I was a little skeptical about your book at first. I've never been very successful with women. I've always been the shy, quiet type that treat women like a prize and act like a wussy. Well after a few newsletters I decided to give it a shot. Well it all made sense to me so I got your CD series and it's even better then the book. So I decided to try the C&F method.

I've been on some dating sites for a few years and occasionally I would get a response. A little over a week ago I changed my profile so I wasn't such a wussy and pleading with women with how good of a catch I'd be (as most women say they want a nice guy) In less then a week, I've gotten 5 responses. It's amazing. I'm only about half way through with the CD's too can't wait to see what else they hold.

JN from NY

>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:

Oh, Ye of little faith...

Remember something.

Women are always INTERPRETING everything you say.

In other words, they want to know what things MEAN.

When you say, "I'm a great guy" in your profile, a woman reading it says to herself, "yeah, right... If you were a great guy, then you wouldn't need to SAY it. You're probably a loser who WISHES that he were a great guy."

On the other hand, if you write a Cocky & Funny profile that talks about how picky you are and that you're trying this online dating thing as a last resort because all the attractive women you meet bore you... then a woman will think to herself, "Ah ha! A challenge! I'll bet you that I can get his attention...".

Great job, and keep me posted on your future success stories.

David

PickUp 101 Then & Now

Hey guys.. check this out!



Here's a behind the scenes look at one of the top workshop companies in the community, something you rarely get to see.

Lance Mason (PickUp 101) is getting ready to release a new product called "Physical Confidence". It's about body language, self confidence, inner game, and kino.

During an interview about this new home study program, Lance said this is the product he's always wanted to make, but it has taken over 2 1/2 years, thousands of hours, and at least one previous version that he was too embarrassed about to ever sell.

It wasn't the material that was bad, it was the production quality. And according to Lance, the original Body Language DVD was just a nightmare to get from idea to finished product. Besides involving a girl he was dating at the time as the videographer, 2 hours of material was lost when the laptop hard drive went to the great electronics depot in the sky. PickUp 101 was a labor of love back then, so Lance didn't really have money to hire a real editor and actually tried to do it himself before realizing the production was doomed.

"I was so excited about this project until we had a screening for some of my workshop clients. The guys were brutally honest about the production quality, and in retrospect their honest comments still drive me to constantly improve my products. What amazed me was every one of them said they would buy it in spite of how it looked, but I realized we could never release it as a product."

To show what he's talking about, Lance released these shots from the old version and also sent some from the soon to be released product. Cool! You don't often to get a peek behind the curtains like this.

And this is a part of community history here, Lance's original Body Language DVD was filmed in November of 2004. For those of you with short memories, that's almost a year before Neil Strauss released "The Game".

In these screen shots you can see just how... ummm... rough around the edges Lance's first attempt at making a product was.

It's funny to see Lance speaking on camera for the first time. He get's the information across okay, but seems a little flat onscreen. His example student, Nate, was even funnier, he truly needed Lance's help (as an aside, Lance worked with this guy extensively and he went on to become an instructor. He even did demo's of some really tough sets on the Fearless First Impressions product. Hard to believe watching him in this video...)


Lance Mason's Orginal Body Language DVD
Nice Curtains...
And this one. A girl Lance was dating helped film this thing (probably Lance's first mistake). Look at her sticking the other camera in the frame of the shot!!!



Lance Mason's Original Body Language DVD
Now That's Professional Camera Work...


One good thing, at least Lance was dating hot chicks, even if they aren't so good at videography



Lance Mason's PickUp 101
She Definitely Works Better In Front of the Camera
Funny thing is, as goofy as this original body language DVD is, it's still the best thing I've seen on how to quickly change your body language to radiate confidence with women.

Contrast then & now.... The new version was shot on location at Project San Francisco by a professional audio/video crew during a 2-day special topics workshop (The original was filmed in Lance's bedroom with sheets as a background). Over 30 men were in the audience (not just Lance's roommates snickering as they passed his room).

Also in the new version, Lance has 3 hot women who are front and center contributing to the content instead of being 'behind the scenes'.

Here are some shots from the soon to be released Physical Confidence body language program.


Lance Mason's Physical Confidence Program
Lance Makes A Point For The Guys



Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
Insight From The Lovely Ladies



Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
The Reward For Having Good Body Language

Now the best part about all this is that Lance told me that he's agreed to release his grungy old ORIGINAL body language video along with his shiny new Physical Confidence program. He's ONLY doing this for the guys who pre-order the Physical Confidence program in it's pre-release before Thanksgiving.

I don't know about you... but I can't wait to get my hands on the newer edition...