How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You

I want to talk about the concept of "flirting", and why it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.

To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication.

If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.

If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you're either going to have to become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful with women.

I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.

Think of flirting like playing.

Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight" with your friends?

What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real" wrestling?

And how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?

The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're serious.

Flirting is similar.

If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi, you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.

On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realize that you're probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.

By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to be "cute".

One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."

Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humor.

It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.

This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.

So let me explain this whole thing a different way...

If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.

When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind and cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.

One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.

I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're a failure.

But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you. If you want to see some video clips of me TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out the examples:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/

Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialog. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier...

Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"

Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."

Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan"

Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."

Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."

Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."

Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend."

Me: "That's all the more reason."

...do you get what's going on here?

I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).

If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two.

When you ask for something and she says, "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you."

In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.

When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate.

And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.

There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.

If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it.

If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.

There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.

It will set off all of your conversations with women on the right foot, and start a dialog that creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.

Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get amazing responses.

One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body language as you do it...

And in order to project these things, you need to have the right understanding and BELIEFS about how male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be able to project them throughout your conversation with women.

The program you need to get if you want to learn how to FLIRT with women is my famous "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.

One of the SPECIFIC things that I saw guys who were "naturals" with women doing... and one of the things that I later learned to do... is what I call "being Cocky & Funny".

You've probably read about the technique in these newsletters I send you.

This is essentially my FAVORITE "technique", and the reason why is because it's FUN... and it WORKS.

It's fun for you, it's fun for her, and it works like MAD to spark and build ATTRACTION.

If you've tried being Cocky & Funny with a woman and seen that SPARK in her eye... and the smile on her face... then you KNOW how powerful this is.

Well, this program will take your basic skills and SUPERCHARGE them. I'll teach you everything from the foundations of humor and laughter... all the way to specific word-by-word lines for the most common situations you find yourself in with women.

Go check it out, and watch some video clips here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/

Oh, and if you haven't gone and downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to get your ass in gear and do that right now. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Get it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend

David D

Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women

Cocky & Funny technique with women, and you really liked the results? Would you like to learn how to MASTER the technique, and create SUPER attraction with women? If so, then I want you to take a minute and look at THIS:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/

WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT

I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.

It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.

I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.

I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."

Well, was I wrong.

You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...

I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.

Why?

ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.

So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).

First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.

If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.

If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."

But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.

So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.

Here's a cocky statement:

"Her dress makes her look fat."

Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:

"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."

Get it?

Start with arrogance, then add humor.

So why does it work to attract women?

Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:

COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.

Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.

Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.

If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:

"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."

There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.

(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)

Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.

Here's a low-risk example:

Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:

"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)

She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."

To which you can respond with:

"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)

This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.

One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...

Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."

DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.

In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."

Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.

And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.

As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".

So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.

And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!

In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.

If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.

This program features me and several amazing guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to master the technique... along with DOZENS and DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and "comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.

Go watch some of the preview video clips, and see for yourself how valuable this program is:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/

David Deangelo's Cocky Comedy Program (Video)

It's been too long for me to post these videos from Cocky Comedy.

I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.

Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program


David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)

Getting Back Into "The Game" With Women

***QUESTION***

Hi,

I've read your newsletter for a few months now and just recently got your book which is fantastic. First off a little background here. I was married for 11 years (I'm 33) and basically was either dating or married to same person for 13 years. I have been divorced now for a few months, and was actually separated for over a year before I got divorced. Having been out of the dating scene for so long I was pretty much clueless (a lot has changed). I've always been a very funny guy and cocky to an extent, but in many ways what you would consider a "wuss". I've always considered myself a nice guy, considerate, caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be. I've realized that those qualities are great of course, but don't help a lot in the dating scene. Once I started more of the cocky routine, it's been amazing. Like I said, I've always been funny so I guess I have a head start already.

Anyway, I've had some really "hot" dates in the past couple months with the help of your book, but one of the biggest problems I have in getting dates is the fact I have been divorced and have 4 kids. I don't consider this a problem whatsoever, they're a huge part of my life, but I know the way women think sometimes and view this as "baggage". Is there any advice you could give me on how I can incorporate some of your philosophies and techniques into over coming this persona of "baggage" and help me attract more women?

On a side note. This is a strange success story here (if you can consider it that haha). Like I said before I was married, and she is a really beautiful woman. Just for the hell of it I decided to start using the c&f routine on her every chance I could (we still get along pretty good as "friends", btw). I thought it would be good "practice". Anyway, last weekend I was over dropping off my kids, and she says "JC". I said, "what?". I walk over to her bedroom (where she was at) and she says out of the blue "get on the bed now!" She was kidding and it threw me for a loop, but I just said "in your dreams!" Shocked she said, "WHAT?" I replied with, "maybe in our next lifetime". I then proceeded to end the conversation and leave quickly after that (had a date haha). Two nights ago she calls me at home, and basically asked me out. I said what the hell! So, we went out last night (kids were at her sisters), and let's just say that after 3 years of not having sex with her, I forgot what I was missing!! So there's one for you, "how to get your ex wife in bed with you again!!" LMAO In case you're wondering, no way no how, will I ever go back to that relationship (but sex on the other hand...hell yes!). There's a different kind of "success" story for you!

J.C.

>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:

In your email you point out something very, very, VERY interesting. You say:

"I've always considered myself a nice guy, considerate, caring, etc. You know, how mother taught you to be. I've realized that those qualities are great of course, but don't help a lot in the dating scene."

Well said.

It is SO important that guys understand the distinction between "dating scene" and "long-term relationship scene" when it comes to women and interacting with them.

Many of the things that make a long-term relationship great will KILL your chances
INSTANTLY with a woman that you don't know. I'll talk about this more in a moment.

I think that as guys, most of us want to do the right thing, treat others well, and live with integrity.

There are of course exceptions to this rule, but I think that most of us know at a very deep level that treating others well, being honest, having integrity, and living an authentic life leads to happiness... while being dishonest, treating others poorly, putting our integrity aside for selfish reasons, etc. leads to that constant, negative, dragging state of body and mind.

The problem arises when we go out into the world to find a mate. It matters not whether we're looking for a wife or a one-night stand...

As soon as we see a really attractive woman, most of us guys become nervous, self conscious, and insecure. We feel excitement and fear at the same time. The first impulse is to approach and give compliments in a way that says "You are a beautiful goddess, and I am a mere mortal man... Please, if you would, see your way clear to give me a chance to show you how much I adore you."

If the goddess indulges us for a moment, the next impulse is usually to provide gifts and food, and to show her what a great provider we are.

Of course, not every man experiences things in exactly the same way, but you can probably empathize with what I'm saying.

Here's the deal:

I USED TO BE EXACTLY LIKE THIS. I know EXACTLY what it's like to want a woman's attention but not know how to get it... so I'd give compliments, offer gifts and food, and try every other "nice" trick in the book.

I did this for a long time. Many years, in fact.

I used this strategy long enough to realize a few key things:

1) Approaching women this way doesn't usually work. They immediately sense your insecurity, and mentally classify you as "average" and "like the other 10 guys that approached her today", etc.

2) ATTRACTION is a completely illogical process. ATTRACTION also isn't a choice. ATTRACTION is a response to certain things... and it happens on it's own.

3) Being a good guy is an important part of life. Treating others well and always doing the right thing leads to things like: A) Liking yourself, B)Happiness, C) Good friendships, etc.

4) Being a "nice guy" when it comes to women and dating, especially when it is used enough to make you qualify as a WUSSY, is a REALLY REALLY BAD idea.

5) There are certain techniques that can be learned which will help you get past the initial meeting and dating period... and help you not only stand out as a "not average" guy, but also create the magical emotion of ATTRACTION inside women.

6) The great news is that you don't have to be ultra handsome, rich, or famous to do it.

The gist of what I'm saying is that if you know how to create this ATTRACTION inside of women, then you can overcome just about any "social stigma" that might be attached to you (yes, even 4 kids!).

Some people get upset when they read about my techniques... they don't like the idea of making fun of a woman, busting her balls, being Cocky and Funny, etc.

They just want to "be themselves" and have a woman "like them for who they are".

Most of the time, it's because they don't really GET that the woman should be having FUN when you do these things... and if you want to learn how to bust on women and be Cocky & Funny WITHOUT upsetting women.

Where was I... Oh yes...

Of course, these same guys ALMOST ALWAYS like to buy women flowers and dinner, give compliments, accept manipulative behavior... and generally do ALL KINDS OF THINGS that I consider "very manipulative" and "not-at-all-being-yourself" kinds of behavior.

Go figure.

The point is that when you made the comment about the qualities that make up "nice guy" don't really help you out when it comes to women and dating, you REALLY hit the nail on the head.

It's not that you have to be an abusive-loser-jerk, but you must realize that there are certain qualities that aren't what one might consider "nice-guyish" that PUSH THE ATTRACTION BUTTONS inside of women.

These are the things like being Cocky and Funny, teasing women, busting on them, and generally being a challenge.

If you decide that a woman you've met is "long term" relationship material, then you can start doing the things that you'd do with someone who has earned your respect and trust. It's at this point that doing "nice guy" things makes more sense.

BUT WATCH OUT! Don't unexpectedly turn in to Mr. Wussy just because a woman wants to have a relationship with you. Nothing can make a woman want to be "just friends" faster...

No matter what you do, you still must maintain a balance.

So to answer your question about how to overcome the objection to four kids...

First, realize that the women you're meeting fall into roughly a few categories:

1) Those that aren't interested at all, no matter what. Maybe they're gay, happily married, not interested... or all of the above.

2) Those that are interested in being with you for some short term fun, but aren't interested in a relationship at all.

3) Those that are interested in short term fun while they're single, but would like to pursue a relationship if they meet a good match. Here we have two sub- categories: A) Those that object to the four kids thing, and B) Those that don't.

4) Those that are only interested in a long-term relationship. We also have the sub-categories here... Those that object to the kids, and those that don't.

My first question to YOU is: "Which type of woman are YOU looking for?"

Sounds to me like you're looking for a #3, option B... a woman who's interested in some short-term fun, who would like to pursue a long- term relationship if she meets a good match... and is open to the kids. (If you're only looking for a woman who's after short term fun, then the kids don't really matter. Just don't bring them up.)

My perspective: Date some women, and BLOW THEIR MINDS with the techniques you've learned. Use the Cocky and Funny material... dial up the ATTRACTION... if you get physical with them, make it UNFORGETTABLE.

My experience is that if a person is REALLY ATTRACTED to another person, they'll put aside all obstacles in order to be with the object of their desires.

Yes, this means 4 kids and an ex.

If I were you, I'd project the attitude that you're not interested in any woman that can't adapt to the situation. Communicate that YOU'RE the one doing the selecting, and it will cancel out a woman's objections before they even arise. Think about it.

I personally know guys that have gotten past "obstacles" that almost seem IMPOSSIBLE to overcome...

Raise YOUR OWN standards, and you'll find that this has a magical effect on the way women treat you.

If you're reading this right now, and you're in a situation in life where you'd like to get back on track and start having more success with women and dating, then it's time for you to take action.

Just sitting around HOPING that something will happen or that you'll "get lucky" isn't going to do it.

If you just WAIT for something to happen, there's a VERY LIKELY chance that you'll either wind up ALONE for a VERY long time... or you'll wind up with a woman that you don't really enjoy that much.

It's up to you to actually take responsibility for this area of your life... and to go get yourself an education on how to be successful with women and dating.

The best place to do it?

Check out my best-selling, Double Your Dating ebook. It gives you the basics of attraction and dating. Are you letting time slip away? Act now, and download it here.

David Deangelo

Top 10: Ways To Make Her Remember You

If you want to be successful with women, it’s critical that you STAND OUT from other guys... and make a woman remember you. Unfortunately, 99% of men do the exact same things when trying to meet women... so they are forgotten about almost instantly. Use these tips to separate yourself from the pack and let her know that you are her BEST possible choice.

Number 10: Start a stimulating conversation

Most guys make the classic mistake of talking about BORING and PREDICTABLE topics on dates. "What do you do?"... "Where do you live?"... "Do you have brothers and sisters?"... These are all questions that do NOTHING to separate you from all the other guys she's dated. It's far better to think of topics that would actually be FUN and INTERESTING to talk about.

Humans -- and women in particular -- love to talk about drama, comedy, adventure, and scandal. With this in mind, try teaming up with her and playing “psychology experts” with society. Guess what's going on with another couple nearby... or discuss some current celebrity gossip. Women find this stuff FASCINATING... and it will make her find YOU exciting.

Number 9: Be "Cocky & Funny"

There's a magical formula that's like CRACK for attraction, and it's called "Cocky & Funny." The secret is to have both arrogance and humor in just the right amounts and you'll drive women absolutely CRAZY for you. But you want a balance of both. Too much cocky, you'll seem arrogant and insecure. Too funny, and you'll come across as goofy. Instead, start off by coming up with an arrogant statement, and then say it in a funny way.

For example, "That girl has a big butt" becomes "J-Lo is in the house." Use this formula when you're with a particularly attractive woman, and not only will it help you laugh and relax, but you'll spark that magical feeling of attraction deep inside her.

Number 8: Work on your beliefs

Most men don't know this, but one of the best things you can do to make a woman remember you is to work on your BELIEFS. What a man believes about himself, and about women, is SO powerful that if you don't have the right beliefs, no amount of techniques, pickup lines, or "moves" is going to help make you memorable to her.

One way to rewire your brain so you believe positive things is to repeat silently to yourself: "I don't let women use their looks to get special privileges with me," or "I'm a confident guy and could care less what others think," or even "I live in my reality, and she's a guest." When you start to honestly believe powerful things about yourself and your relationship with women, your success will SKYROCKET.

Number 7: Do you want to be a lover or a provider?

Most men don’t realize that when a woman meets a man who could be a potential mate, she subconsciously categorizes him as either a “Lover” or a “Provider.” The “Lovers” are the men she is intimate with, and the “Providers” -- you guessed it -- are the men she sees as being good providers for her and her future children. We could talk about why women categorize men this way all day long, but for now let’s just talk about why a woman will put a man into one category versus another.

If you show a strong command of body language, sexual awareness and confidence, then she'll feel instant ATTRACTION and see you as a Lover. But try to win her affection with attention, compliments, dinners, gifts, and other favors, and she will see you as a Provider. When it comes to the “dating game,” Lovers are pursued and Providers do the pursuing.

If she sees you as a Provider, a woman will withhold sex, play hard to get and test you to see how good of a provider you'll be. If she sees you as a Lover, she’ll have a tendency to get physically involved with you very quickly, and YOU will be in control of where the relationship goes. Now... which guy do YOU want to be?

Number 6: Start the date at your place

The secret to getting a woman back to your place starts way BEFORE the date or meeting. On the phone you can say, "Why don't you just stop by my place, ring the bell and we can leave... I know a great coffee shop down the street." When she shows up, let her in for just a minute... then quickly leave. This sets up in her mind that you're not needy or trying to take advantage of the fact that she's in your house.

When you're out with her, make it a point to NOT get too "touchy feely" and she'll feel even more comfortable with you. When you go back to your house to drop her off, look at your watch and say "Well, I have some things I need to do... but OK, you can come in for a few minutes..." Use a tone of voice that says "You talked me into it," and she'll feel comfortable and compelled to check out your pad... and hopefully more.

Number 5: Never whine about the following things...

A sure way to KILL the attraction a woman is feeling for you is to WHINE. So never complain, whine or even mention: being single... being lonely... having bad luck with women... how long it's been since you've had a date... etc. You may think that putting yourself down or being "honest" about your situation will help her open up to you, but all it'll do is turn her OFF... and make her turn to the waiter and say, "Check please!"

Number 4: Ask direct questions by acting suspicious

Most men have a lot of anxiety about asking certain questions that are "taboo." But if you want to ask a woman her age, if she's single, or any other "not usually asked directly" type of question... just use a somewhat suspicious, direct tone. Put your eyebrows together, lean your head back slightly, and in a tone that says "I suspect something..." ask your question quickly and directly.

You can get almost any question answered if you seem like she's acting suspicious, and you're trying to get to the bottom of the issue. You'll be blown away -- women will answer any type of question -- from how old they are all the way to if they're bisexual or not -- right at the beginning of a conversation with this technique.

Number 3: Prime the pump

Some guys ask, "How am I supposed to play hard to get and act like she's picking up on me, when I don't even know if she likes me?" The answer is to "Prime the pump." Give things a little push by interpreting her comments and behaviors as signs that she is coming on to you, and then resist them.

When she does anything that could be interpreted as showing interest in you, say "You're moving kind of fast for me," or "I don't think this relationship is going to work out" in an over-the-top, teasing sort of way. Or if you want to tell her you like her, turn it around instead and say, "You like me," with a smirk on your face. Don't be afraid to provide that initial spark or spin that gets things headed in the direction YOU want.

Number 2: Hold her hand

Holding hands early on makes a woman feel safe and it warms her up to you. While you're holding hands, why not try reading her palm in a creative, funny way... as you lightly brush your finger tips across it. Or massage her hand a little while saying, "This will help you relax." After you hold her hand, give it back to her, then start up again. This way she'll feel more comfortable with your touch... she'll look forward to it later.

Number 1: End it right

Many guys do an OK job of being cool on a date, but they end up blowing it BIG TIME at the end by turning into a wussy... acting needy... or just freaking out. Don't make this mistake yourself. Always be the one to end your time together. Have something to do, somewhere to go, someone to see, etc. Say to her: "Now don't call me three times a day... I had fun too, but no stalking." Or tell her: "I'm busy tomorrow, but if you tempt me with a good enough offer, I might make time for you the next night..."

For more great tips on making a woman remember you, getting phone numbers and e-mail addresses from women quickly, for great, inexpensive or even free date ideas, and how to take things to a "physical" level smoothly and easily, be sure to sign up for my FREE Dating Secrets Newsletter - Click Here.

Great Conversation Topics For Dates

Great Conversation Topics For Dates
This was definitely something I liked this weekend from our mate David D.

***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***

Dave,

In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn 'what topics fascinate women.' I found this newsletter specifically interesting because ive found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing secrets," but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

M.G. Gainesville, FL.


>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:


This is a great question.

There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:

1. The HOW.

2. The WHAT.


"THE HOW..."

Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?

Well... partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):

- Your body language

- Eye contact

- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating

- Flirting

- Sending mixed messages

- Directing the conversation

- Dealing with common questions and topics

...and many other things.

My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.


"THE WHAT..."

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.

But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?

Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.

If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:

- Drama

- Conflict

- Romance

- Famous people and their lives

So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.

Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.

Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".

These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic
mind.

2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what's going on.

Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.

Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.

Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to discuss the BODY LANGUAGE of the people around
you... and comment on what it means.

3. Make fun of someone famous.

Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named
Jennifer.

All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.

It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.

4. Talk about other people's love lives.

Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then
volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.

Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually
lesbians.

But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.

...I think you "feel me".

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE
THEM.

The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what
else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way...

Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars
and your secret love: wrestling.

NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.

You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY
disappear.

Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.

If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.

If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.

If you'd like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use
for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Download it here:

http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/

I'll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

David D.

Is Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo Worth Buying?

I've been in the community for a little while now. About two years ago I started with an e-book called Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo, a lot of you have heard of this. When I first opened the e-book I was amazed, I felt that my eyes have seen the light, and I began to understand a new found world of seduction and the "secrets of women".

That's until I found more material.

Then it became a virus of information seeking, always looking for the new "hidden tactics". I started reading all of these e-books, and got even more confused. Until I learn't the proper way to do things...

Now, I had success that I never thought possible. Before reading David DeAngelo's Double Your Dating, I hadn't even kissed a girl. Then a month after reading, I had a two week long relationship with a hot woman. It was working to some degree. I moved onto more advanced material. It is foolishness to skip ahead to advanced material before you have a foundation of what's going on between men and women.

This brings me to discussing the topic that David DeAngelo's material is irrelevant or a waste of time.

I believe that notion is wrong for a number of reasons.

The first reason is that he provides a framework for understanding human relations that you really can't find elsewhere. He has a lot of theory in Double Your Dating that helps build a foundation for what you will find the REAL WORLD. The second reason is it gives you a insight into what you need to do to become a MAN. Typically men are ass-kissing losers, that supplicate themselves tremedously around women. This is unattractive and "I'll be the king of all masturbaters the rest of my life" approach. Don't be a WUSSY (according to David DeAngelo).

Now, the problem I see with most guys that download the Double Your Dating e-book is that they go to the opposite side of the spectrum and start being verbally unattractive to women. Throwing out cocky and funny like its just in fashion, and making themselves seem super insecure to these women. This is not what the e-book teaches. He gives a road-map to being an alpha-male, not a cocky and funny machine gun.

David DeAngelo writes about alpha body language, and how to hold yourself in a variety of situations. Leaning back and slower eye movement are among some of the advice Deangelo brings to the table. He does offer suggestions of things to say, how to ask a woman out, basic interactions to generate serious attraction, and characteristics of a engaging conversation.

If you're looking for a step-by-step guide, then Double Your Dating is not for you. However, if you are NEW to the community, I would definitely read the e-book Double Your Dating first, then move on to more routine based procedures, or natural conversation based skills. This does two things.

One, Double Your Dating helps you conquer your inner issues. It will give you a road-map to all the beta behavior you could be portraying, once you know what they are you can start eliminating them.

Second, Double Your Dating helps you the basic understanding of what attraction is, how it is developed, and how you can implement certain ideas into your thinking. For example, I had know idea why women LOVED bad boys. I had NO CLUE. It baffled me. When I was a jerk to women, they were simply repulsed. I never had the chicks flocking to me. David DeAngelo explained that.

Ok, I've ranted enough.

Do yourself a favour and if you haven't already, and pay the meager $20 and download his e-book with the bundle of freebies that come with it. Do something to get your life in order, because when all is said and done, ACTION is what will make you a success with women.

P.S. Just remember to ONLY sprinkle cocky and funny into your reactions for added potency. Spices lose their bite when you use them constantly, and it shows your a bad cook. (Beautiful metaphor huh?)

Meet David Deangelo

David Deangelo

David DeAngelo is a leading dating advice expert based in the United States. He has applied various schools of thought, psychological theories and his own experiences and opinons in his "Double Your Dating" products. Originally a student of Ross Jeffries and using the nickname Sisonyph, DeAngelo's ideas were first widely published and publicized in the underground seduction newsletter called Cliff's List.

DeAngelo's commercial career began with the release of his first book "Double Your Dating" in 2001. Since then, he has released many products aimed at helping men become successful with women and dating.

According to DeAngelo, women do not feel attraction to men consciously, instead dating and forming romantic relationships with men to whom they are attracted unconsciously. Furthermore, while some believe that good looks are what attracts women to men, DeAngelo disagrees, arguing that physical features have very little to do with attraction. One of DeAngelo's favorite lines is: "Attraction isn't a choice".

Because most men are unfamiliar with what causes attraction according to DeAngelo, women dictate when and where relationships are formed. Furthermore, since attraction is unconscious, DeAngelo claims, attempting to appeal to women using reason will therefore be unsuccessful. DeAngelo implores men to become successful by taking charge and shifting the balance of power from women to themselves.

DeAngelo often uses simplified terms in his material to describe both "incorrect" and "desired" male behavior.

Some of these include:

The Inner Wuss: a character trait of men developed through time that causes them to become submissive around women in order for them to get the women's approval. DeAngelo claims that women prefer men who will stand up to them (see also: Nice guy syndrome).

Status: a perception of how important a person is to society. DeAngelo believes that most of status is determined by a man's actions, and that men should learn to communicate higher status as a means of attracting women. He claims that communicating higher status to a woman creates attraction.

Confidence: a loosely-defined term used to describe the outward reflection of men who have high status (see above). While some define the term as being happy with one's life and circumstances, DeAngelo uses it more often to describe those who may not be completely happy with their lives but are not rattled by unfortunate events and women's "tests".

Cocky and funny: describes a technique that involves making socially inappropriate, arrogant and humorous comments at certain times in a conversation.

Counterintuitive behavior: DeAngelo's description of some of his techniques to attract women, as they are the opposite of what most people think is attractive. Examples of such behavior include teasing a woman offhandedly and refusing to compliment her appearance.

Life changes: DeAngelo reiterates that the purpose of his programs is to effect a complete personality and lifestyle change among men that will help them achieve romantic success. He, and many of his followers, state that they disapprove of men who utilize his teachings for physical pleasure only.

Emulate the Successful: DeAngelo encourages the following and emulation of those successful with women. Interviews with those very successful (who have usually changed their dating lifes completely) are available for purchase.

Related David Deangelo links:
Double Your Dating eBook
Meeting Women Online Program
Cocky and Funny Program
What People Think of David Deangelo