The Top Dating Coach of 2006... make your opinion count in my poll below. Polling closes midnight the 6th of January. (Please post a comment on why you voted for your particular dating coach, it may help others find more success as you've had!)
Riding off Thundercat's Top Pickup Artists of 2006, I thought that there is more to dating than picking up girls from boyfriends and taking them to bathrooms, so I thought the concept of an overall Dating Coach would be awesome. These are the best instructors based on performance, innovation, and content of advice. Remember, not the most popular perhaps, but the person of the year who has given the most relevant and useful advice for the improvement of YOU (that you've found to work), not particularly the whole community.
Let's see who wins!
Donovan
Sunday, December 31, 2006
Saturday, December 30, 2006
New Year's Eve Pickup Guide
Lance Mason's guide for New Years:
Let's face... no guy wants to be alone on New Year's Eve.
There's nothing worse than standing alone by yourself at Midnight while everyone else around you is kissing, and if you've been studying PickUp 101 Material, it should NEVER happen to you.
And I've got a little known secret to tell you... New Year's Eve is one of the best
nights of the year to hook up.
This is the ONE NIGHT that it's finally 'okay' for women to act out on their romantic and sexual desires. So don't let that special someone (or those special people!) down this holiday season.
I put together this Guide to Hooking Up New Year's Even to help you as you head out to one of the biggest celebrations of the year.
And remember the single most important thing is to have FUN!
Tip #1: Have transportation home planned.
Don't underestimate the power of a designated driver and one empty seat on New Years Eve. I don't know how it is in your town, but in San Francisco getting a cab on New Years from 2 to 3 a.m. is next to impossible.
Having a ride planned out gives her an easy excuse to ditch her friends and catch a ride with you!
Tip #2: Pick a large venue and stay there.
It's better to go to one big party the whole night then to go to several small parties over the course of the night. As the night progresses, things tend to favor those who have been the most social all night.
Women you flirted with earlier will come back to talk to you. Even the people you haven't talked to will start to recognize you as one of the more social people in the room.
This helps tremendously, and is all lost if you jump from party to party.
Tip #3: Have a goal in mind.
Are you looking to set up a bunch of dates for the New Year, to get a girlfriend, or to just have fun and hook-up for the night? It's worth mentioning that if you don't know what you are looking for you won't know when you have found it.
Tip #4: Countdowns are for wimps.
If you have a girl attracted to you and have been talking to her a while DON'T wait till midnight to get the kiss. If she likes you then practically any line works here. You can look at your watch and say, "Damn, it's only 10:30!".
Then pause and say, "I'm not waiting" and go in for the kiss.
You can even (*very* deliberately) set your watch forward (or backwards) to Midnight in front of her, give her an innocent "Oh I guess I'm supposed to kiss you now" look and go in for the kill. All done calmly with a smile, a sense of humor, and a "take it or leave it" attitude.
Once you've gotten to that point, keep escalating. Usually I say "Never fully make
out in a bar", but tonight is different.
It's New Years Eve! Go for it!
Tip #5: Hang out with the cool kids.
No matter what your age, only go out with cool friends who will support your goals.
Remember, women *will* judge you by your friends. If their are people in your life
who aren't quite up to par with you socially, this is the wrong night to spend time with them.
On the other hand, if you can go out with your best 'wingmen' definitely do it, it
could very well have to do more with your success then where you go.
By the way, I'm not just talking about wingmen here. Other single girl 'friends' and
couples can help you as much as (or even more then!) your male friends with game.
Tip #6: Don't overdo the banter!
I affectionately call New Years Eve amateur night.
I don't mean to disrespect anyone with that statement - I'm just trying to accurately assess what makes meeting girls on this night different. Clearly one of the biggest distinctions is that this is the one night where EVERYONE goes out.
Frankly, many of the people you'll see out drinking, dancing, and hooking up haven't
been out all year.
And I not just talking about guys either.
Many of the hot women you'll meet on New Years hardly ever go out. This is especially true with the most successful, most attractive women since they are often too busy working on their career and their bodies to hit the bar every weekend.
The end result is that many desirable women out on New Years are much less exposed to the attraction techniques we teach.
That means you probably need a lot *less* of your attraction techniques then normal.
Remember, once a woman likes you, you need to move into rapport, escalate things
physically, or risk losing her interest.
After all, women want to hook up on New Years as much as we do, and once she likes you she's thinking "What's next?" If you answer question with more entertaining stories or harmless flirting she is likely to lose interest.
In this environment whatever skill you have will be much more effective.
Now these women aren't that easy to spot. Unlike the guys who rarely hit the singles
scene, these girls know how to dress, how to socialize, and usually even know how to
dance.
So take it easy with the attraction techniques and escalate early, you won't need
as much as you might think.
Tip #7: After you make out with a girl, figure out the logistics ASAP.
If you want to bring a girl home with you, you definitely don't want to wait too long to broach the subject. If you are going to meet lot's of resistance, it's better to know that early on while you can still move on if you choose. If you wait till the end of the night you could miss out.
Find out who she is with, what their plans are, and what commitments she has sooner
rather then later. Is she driving anyone home? Is anyone planning on giving her a
ride? Is she there with protective friends or relatives that you might have to make a good impression on?
These are all questions I like to get to the bottom of right away after a little new
year's kissing. No waiting required.
The after party is at your house, right?
So all you need to do is say, "Hey, we're having an after party later, did you guys all come together?" Her answer will give you an early indication of what the chances of her coming back with you are. If you do this early in the night, you are not looking for a "Yes", just a "maybe" and some more information about what the logistics are.
Tip #8: Keep an eye on your target
I'm a big fan of "takeaways" (also known as giving girls "the gift of missing you") but I am real careful using these techniques in extremely chaotic environments.
If you've found the girl you *really* want, keep an eye on her!
Leave her for a second and you may lose sight of her. Lose sight of her, and she could be lip locked with another guy by the time you find her again.
Trust me even after you've met another girl, you'll still think about the one that got away.
Tip #9: Have fun!
Don't work so hard on your game and push your goals so much that you forget to have a good time. Being the funnest guy in the room will do more for your night, and your results, then all the other tips combined.
Let's face... no guy wants to be alone on New Year's Eve.
There's nothing worse than standing alone by yourself at Midnight while everyone else around you is kissing, and if you've been studying PickUp 101 Material, it should NEVER happen to you.
And I've got a little known secret to tell you... New Year's Eve is one of the best
nights of the year to hook up.
This is the ONE NIGHT that it's finally 'okay' for women to act out on their romantic and sexual desires. So don't let that special someone (or those special people!) down this holiday season.
I put together this Guide to Hooking Up New Year's Even to help you as you head out to one of the biggest celebrations of the year.
And remember the single most important thing is to have FUN!
Tip #1: Have transportation home planned.
Don't underestimate the power of a designated driver and one empty seat on New Years Eve. I don't know how it is in your town, but in San Francisco getting a cab on New Years from 2 to 3 a.m. is next to impossible.
Having a ride planned out gives her an easy excuse to ditch her friends and catch a ride with you!
Tip #2: Pick a large venue and stay there.
It's better to go to one big party the whole night then to go to several small parties over the course of the night. As the night progresses, things tend to favor those who have been the most social all night.
Women you flirted with earlier will come back to talk to you. Even the people you haven't talked to will start to recognize you as one of the more social people in the room.
This helps tremendously, and is all lost if you jump from party to party.
Tip #3: Have a goal in mind.
Are you looking to set up a bunch of dates for the New Year, to get a girlfriend, or to just have fun and hook-up for the night? It's worth mentioning that if you don't know what you are looking for you won't know when you have found it.
Tip #4: Countdowns are for wimps.
If you have a girl attracted to you and have been talking to her a while DON'T wait till midnight to get the kiss. If she likes you then practically any line works here. You can look at your watch and say, "Damn, it's only 10:30!".
Then pause and say, "I'm not waiting" and go in for the kiss.
You can even (*very* deliberately) set your watch forward (or backwards) to Midnight in front of her, give her an innocent "Oh I guess I'm supposed to kiss you now" look and go in for the kill. All done calmly with a smile, a sense of humor, and a "take it or leave it" attitude.
Once you've gotten to that point, keep escalating. Usually I say "Never fully make
out in a bar", but tonight is different.
It's New Years Eve! Go for it!
Tip #5: Hang out with the cool kids.
No matter what your age, only go out with cool friends who will support your goals.
Remember, women *will* judge you by your friends. If their are people in your life
who aren't quite up to par with you socially, this is the wrong night to spend time with them.
On the other hand, if you can go out with your best 'wingmen' definitely do it, it
could very well have to do more with your success then where you go.
By the way, I'm not just talking about wingmen here. Other single girl 'friends' and
couples can help you as much as (or even more then!) your male friends with game.
Tip #6: Don't overdo the banter!
I affectionately call New Years Eve amateur night.
I don't mean to disrespect anyone with that statement - I'm just trying to accurately assess what makes meeting girls on this night different. Clearly one of the biggest distinctions is that this is the one night where EVERYONE goes out.
Frankly, many of the people you'll see out drinking, dancing, and hooking up haven't
been out all year.
And I not just talking about guys either.
Many of the hot women you'll meet on New Years hardly ever go out. This is especially true with the most successful, most attractive women since they are often too busy working on their career and their bodies to hit the bar every weekend.
The end result is that many desirable women out on New Years are much less exposed to the attraction techniques we teach.
That means you probably need a lot *less* of your attraction techniques then normal.
Remember, once a woman likes you, you need to move into rapport, escalate things
physically, or risk losing her interest.
After all, women want to hook up on New Years as much as we do, and once she likes you she's thinking "What's next?" If you answer question with more entertaining stories or harmless flirting she is likely to lose interest.
In this environment whatever skill you have will be much more effective.
Now these women aren't that easy to spot. Unlike the guys who rarely hit the singles
scene, these girls know how to dress, how to socialize, and usually even know how to
dance.
So take it easy with the attraction techniques and escalate early, you won't need
as much as you might think.
Tip #7: After you make out with a girl, figure out the logistics ASAP.
If you want to bring a girl home with you, you definitely don't want to wait too long to broach the subject. If you are going to meet lot's of resistance, it's better to know that early on while you can still move on if you choose. If you wait till the end of the night you could miss out.
Find out who she is with, what their plans are, and what commitments she has sooner
rather then later. Is she driving anyone home? Is anyone planning on giving her a
ride? Is she there with protective friends or relatives that you might have to make a good impression on?
These are all questions I like to get to the bottom of right away after a little new
year's kissing. No waiting required.
The after party is at your house, right?
So all you need to do is say, "Hey, we're having an after party later, did you guys all come together?" Her answer will give you an early indication of what the chances of her coming back with you are. If you do this early in the night, you are not looking for a "Yes", just a "maybe" and some more information about what the logistics are.
Tip #8: Keep an eye on your target
I'm a big fan of "takeaways" (also known as giving girls "the gift of missing you") but I am real careful using these techniques in extremely chaotic environments.
If you've found the girl you *really* want, keep an eye on her!
Leave her for a second and you may lose sight of her. Lose sight of her, and she could be lip locked with another guy by the time you find her again.
Trust me even after you've met another girl, you'll still think about the one that got away.
Tip #9: Have fun!
Don't work so hard on your game and push your goals so much that you forget to have a good time. Being the funnest guy in the room will do more for your night, and your results, then all the other tips combined.
Wednesday, December 27, 2006
Doctor Paul "Seventh Sense" Seminar
Doctor Paul, who is the pimp daddy of all dating guru's, has got a seminar coming in Chicago soon. Worth the flight... he's got some of the most groundbreaking ideas (scientifically based) that get results! Fun guy.
Details:
Dr. Paul presents...
The Seventh Sense Seminar Friday, Saturday, & Sunday Feb. 2nd - 4th, 2007 in Chicago, IL. USA!
If you are ready to explore all parts of sexual attraction, dating, relationships and masculine power. This program is designed to give you more than skills. You will learn about mastering your instincts with women.
Read more on Dr Paul's website...
Details:
Dr. Paul presents...
The Seventh Sense Seminar Friday, Saturday, & Sunday Feb. 2nd - 4th, 2007 in Chicago, IL. USA!
If you are ready to explore all parts of sexual attraction, dating, relationships and masculine power. This program is designed to give you more than skills. You will learn about mastering your instincts with women.
Read more on Dr Paul's website...
Saturday, December 23, 2006
Don't Despair:The Change Is Happening
Sometimes we put a lot of burden on ourselves in this community. Everything is our fault with women, and we have the power to change our destiny. All true statements.
I've noticed, for myself, it can be overwhelming at times when it seems you've been doing all you can do.
Don't despair. Change is happening, and you're the one making a better life for yourself. Few people care about your immediate success but you... and your future girlfriends. They want a quality man that they can share those special moments in life with.
Become the man you would want to be with if you were a woman.
So don't get down on yourself for not picking up that 10 at the club last night. Work on it. Play with it. Don't take yourself so seriously, and have FUN.
It's all about experiences.
Donovan
I've noticed, for myself, it can be overwhelming at times when it seems you've been doing all you can do.
Don't despair. Change is happening, and you're the one making a better life for yourself. Few people care about your immediate success but you... and your future girlfriends. They want a quality man that they can share those special moments in life with.
Become the man you would want to be with if you were a woman.
So don't get down on yourself for not picking up that 10 at the club last night. Work on it. Play with it. Don't take yourself so seriously, and have FUN.
It's all about experiences.
Donovan
Thursday, December 21, 2006
Mystery Method Relationship Seminar Redux
Got a email from Savoy (CEO of Mystery Method).
There are only 6 spaces left at the January 27th, 2007 relationship seminar in Los Angeles, he expects them to be full by Boxing Day.
Visit:
www.themysterymethod.com/rm.htm
To see if it's what you're looking for. Then EMAIL me attractionchronicles @ gmail.com to claim your discount.
Hurry and register, this seminar is also personalized coaching after the seminar with Savoy.
Donovan
There are only 6 spaces left at the January 27th, 2007 relationship seminar in Los Angeles, he expects them to be full by Boxing Day.
Visit:
www.themysterymethod.com/rm.htm
To see if it's what you're looking for. Then EMAIL me attractionchronicles @ gmail.com to claim your discount.
Hurry and register, this seminar is also personalized coaching after the seminar with Savoy.
Donovan
Monday, December 18, 2006
How To Use Flirting To Make Her Want You
I want to talk about the concept of "flirting", and why it's SO important that you understand exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you're either going to have to become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight" with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real" wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi, you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realize that you're probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a different way...
If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind and cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're a failure.
But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you. If you want to see some video clips of me TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out the examples:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/
Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialog. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier...
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."
Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan"
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."
Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend."
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).
If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and she says, "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you."
In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate.
And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
It will set off all of your conversations with women on the right foot, and start a dialog that creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get amazing responses.
One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body language as you do it...
And in order to project these things, you need to have the right understanding and BELIEFS about how male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be able to project them throughout your conversation with women.
The program you need to get if you want to learn how to FLIRT with women is my famous "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.
One of the SPECIFIC things that I saw guys who were "naturals" with women doing... and one of the things that I later learned to do... is what I call "being Cocky & Funny".
You've probably read about the technique in these newsletters I send you.
This is essentially my FAVORITE "technique", and the reason why is because it's FUN... and it WORKS.
It's fun for you, it's fun for her, and it works like MAD to spark and build ATTRACTION.
If you've tried being Cocky & Funny with a woman and seen that SPARK in her eye... and the smile on her face... then you KNOW how powerful this is.
Well, this program will take your basic skills and SUPERCHARGE them. I'll teach you everything from the foundations of humor and laughter... all the way to specific word-by-word lines for the most common situations you find yourself in with women.
Go check it out, and watch some video clips here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/
Oh, and if you haven't gone and downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to get your ass in gear and do that right now. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Get it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend
David D
To begin with, women know what flirting is and they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than they do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension, you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and sexual tension work, then you're either going to have to become famous or make a LOT of money to be successful with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to "play fight" with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestling and "real" wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to humans (and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing" and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say, "Hi, you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say, "Hi, I realize that you're probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is flirting.
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling jokes, or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called "Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful, concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a specific kind of humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write in because they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it's obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a different way...
If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting in a Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind and cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to "get it". In other words, you have to actually get out there and practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try a cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a loser." Instead of just realizing that they need more practice or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they take it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're a failure.
But take my word for it... once you learn how to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you. If you want to see some video clips of me TEACHING Cocky & Funny then go here and check out the examples:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/
Here's an example of some of one of my favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give it to you in the form of a sample dialog. Keep in mind, I might have a
conversation like this one with a woman that I just met five minutes earlier...
Her: "I have a good job, and I make good money"
Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money."
Her:
Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such."
Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you."
Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money."
Her:
Me: "That's all the more reason."
...do you get what's going on here?
I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, Cocky & Funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce, and breaking up over her not supporting
me, etc.).
If the above example doesn't make any sense to you, then take that as a sign that you need to get out and practice more. Try it on a waitress or two.
When you ask for something and she says, "I'm sorry, we don't have that", just say, "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you."
In fact, you can say this in just about ANY situation with ANY woman where she's saying something that you don't like, and it's funny.
When you communicate like this, you're FLIRTING, you're TEASING, and you're initiating a DIFFERENT KIND OF COMMUNICATION than what most men initiate.
And as soon as the woman you're talking to "engages" you in this kind of dialogue, THE GAME IS ON.
There are a LOT of ways you can flirt, and a lot of ways you can be Cocky & Funny that DON'T REQUIRE WORDS.
If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it.
If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major "ah ha!" realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that
she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny, and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you.
There are a MILLION ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you NEED TO START DOING IT RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING OF YOUR INTERACTIONS WITH WOMEN.
It will set off all of your conversations with women on the right foot, and start a dialog that creates sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
If you DON'T learn how to communicate with women like this you'll have BORING, "NORMAL" conversations that NEVER lead to sexual tension and ATTRACTION.
Remember, women can tell INSTANTLY whether you're flirting with them or not. If you are, and you're doing it in a subtle, charming way, you'll get amazing responses.
One of the keys to flirting and creating ATTRACTION effectively, is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body language as you do it...
And in order to project these things, you need to have the right understanding and BELIEFS about how male/female ATTRACTION works... and then be able to project them throughout your conversation with women.
The program you need to get if you want to learn how to FLIRT with women is my famous "Cocky Comedy" DVD/CD program.
One of the SPECIFIC things that I saw guys who were "naturals" with women doing... and one of the things that I later learned to do... is what I call "being Cocky & Funny".
You've probably read about the technique in these newsletters I send you.
This is essentially my FAVORITE "technique", and the reason why is because it's FUN... and it WORKS.
It's fun for you, it's fun for her, and it works like MAD to spark and build ATTRACTION.
If you've tried being Cocky & Funny with a woman and seen that SPARK in her eye... and the smile on her face... then you KNOW how powerful this is.
Well, this program will take your basic skills and SUPERCHARGE them. I'll teach you everything from the foundations of humor and laughter... all the way to specific word-by-word lines for the most common situations you find yourself in with women.
Go check it out, and watch some video clips here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/CockyComedy/
Oh, and if you haven't gone and downloaded my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then you need to get your ass in gear and do that right now. You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Get it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend
David D
Sunday, December 17, 2006
Happy Birthday
No... this isn't the blog's annual birthday. It's mine! I'm a year older and... wiser.A big THANK YOU goes out to all my loyal readers here at The Attraction Chronicles. You definitely make my life brighter, and happier.
You guys are awesome, and this new year in my life is going to be better than the last! A lot of traveling, new hobbies, and new girls.
Friday, December 15, 2006
The Mystery Method Way: Pursuing vs. Chasing:
It’s Sunday afternoon. You met a great woman on Friday or Saturday night, and followed the Mystery Method perfectly. You opened, you created attraction, you qualified, and then you started to build comfort. The situation wasn’t right for you to take it further, so you casually invited her to join you for some exciting event on Monday. She gave you her number.
You phone. It rings a few times and goes to her voicemail. You leave a message. She doesn’t call you back. It’s now Tuesday. What do you do?
1. Maybe call her again next week, but that’s it. You need to have the frame that you have lots of women interested in you and are busy, or else she won’t stay attracted to you anyway.
2. Call or text every day or two with a variety of different approaches, to see if any of them make an impact. Delete the number after a few weeks if you don’t get anywhere.
3. Call every day until she answers. Once in a while call three times in a row to see if that works. After a week or so, drop back to once a week or so. Don’t give up until YOU are no longer interested.
What’s the right answer? Don’t look ahead…
Actually, any of them could be the right answer. In the right context, all of these are okay. Too many beginners in the Mystery Method are too inflexible with the frame that “I have value…she has to come to me” and default to (A). Yes, this is a good frame, and it’s important. However, sometimes you need to do a little bit of pursuing as well.
Why is this? If you obviously have value, why should you have to pursue a woman? Why does she want you to? In short, it’s because this shows that you are genuinely interested in her. In fact, the more value you have, or appear to have, the more a woman will want to see you put in a bit of genuine effort to pursue her. She recognizes that you can have easy conquests, and she doesn’t want to be easy.
Why else? Some women are simply flaky and scatterbrained (so are some men). She may adore you, but you called when she was having dinner, and then she met up with a friend, and now it’s the next day, and she could call you, but now she’s distracted and, anyway, if you’re really interested in her you’ll call again, right?
Why else? She wants to play the traditional female role of being chased. It’s exciting for her, and built into millennia of social programming. It’s not a great frame for men to be in, which is why we short-circuit it when we first meet a woman by disqualifying ourselves during the attraction phase. That’s easy in public, where you can plausibly start a random conversation with an attractive woman without being interested in her (until she wins you over, of course…). It’s not easy on the phone. By calling, you are confirming your interest. That’s why it’s so important to qualify her when you first met, so she feels comfortable with your interest in her, but it does mean that you might feel a little bit of “back to square one” on the telephone. So, yes, she may make you work for it by not returning your phone call. Don’t take it personally.
Why else? Some women are taught “not to call guys”. Yes, it’s pretty silly, but there is just as much silly dating advice for women as there is for men (both you and I are lucky that we found the Mystery Method). There’s nothing you can do about this. Call them. You can fix their silly ideas later.
Now, we covered ages ago some of the crucial tactics to making you she does answer the phone when you call (programming your number into her phone, telling her when you’re going to call, planning a specific event, making her verbalize some anti-flake routines, texting/calling that night, etc.) as well as how to leave a message (leave hooks, cut yourself off, etc.) so we’ll assume that you’ve done all of this, and are still not getting her on the phone. You can give up, of course, and focus your energies on new women. This is totally fine. But you can also set aside a few minutes a day with your “cold” phone numbers and do some of this:
* Vary the time of day when you call. Morning, afternoon, evening, night. If you’re getting nowhere, try calling at 1am. You’ll wake her up, so make sure you can be immediately entertaining from the second she answers. (Start with a high-energy, funny, short routine. Don’t even introduce yourself).
* Call from different numbers
* Try sending text messages – some people simply prefer these to phone calls
* Don’t ever acknowledge that you are calling and she isn’t returning your calls. Adopt the frame – to yourself – that she is just a flaky woman and it’s kind of cute. Don’t let it cross your mind that she might not actually be interested in you.
* Don’t ever say “this is the last time I’m calling” or “I’m calling to leave you another message” – see above. And if you do get her on the phone, don’t even bring up the subject of your previous calls or texts.
* If you phone, and it goes directly to voicemail (and doesn’t ring at all), hang up.You got a free pass. If it doesn’t ring, it won’t show up as a missed call on her phone. She won’t see that you called. If it does ring, leave a message.
On the other hand, don’t turn “pursuing” into “chasing”. If she tells you not to call, stop calling. Don’t be creepy.
You phone. It rings a few times and goes to her voicemail. You leave a message. She doesn’t call you back. It’s now Tuesday. What do you do?
1. Maybe call her again next week, but that’s it. You need to have the frame that you have lots of women interested in you and are busy, or else she won’t stay attracted to you anyway.
2. Call or text every day or two with a variety of different approaches, to see if any of them make an impact. Delete the number after a few weeks if you don’t get anywhere.
3. Call every day until she answers. Once in a while call three times in a row to see if that works. After a week or so, drop back to once a week or so. Don’t give up until YOU are no longer interested.
What’s the right answer? Don’t look ahead…
Actually, any of them could be the right answer. In the right context, all of these are okay. Too many beginners in the Mystery Method are too inflexible with the frame that “I have value…she has to come to me” and default to (A). Yes, this is a good frame, and it’s important. However, sometimes you need to do a little bit of pursuing as well.
Why is this? If you obviously have value, why should you have to pursue a woman? Why does she want you to? In short, it’s because this shows that you are genuinely interested in her. In fact, the more value you have, or appear to have, the more a woman will want to see you put in a bit of genuine effort to pursue her. She recognizes that you can have easy conquests, and she doesn’t want to be easy.
Why else? Some women are simply flaky and scatterbrained (so are some men). She may adore you, but you called when she was having dinner, and then she met up with a friend, and now it’s the next day, and she could call you, but now she’s distracted and, anyway, if you’re really interested in her you’ll call again, right?
Why else? She wants to play the traditional female role of being chased. It’s exciting for her, and built into millennia of social programming. It’s not a great frame for men to be in, which is why we short-circuit it when we first meet a woman by disqualifying ourselves during the attraction phase. That’s easy in public, where you can plausibly start a random conversation with an attractive woman without being interested in her (until she wins you over, of course…). It’s not easy on the phone. By calling, you are confirming your interest. That’s why it’s so important to qualify her when you first met, so she feels comfortable with your interest in her, but it does mean that you might feel a little bit of “back to square one” on the telephone. So, yes, she may make you work for it by not returning your phone call. Don’t take it personally.
Why else? Some women are taught “not to call guys”. Yes, it’s pretty silly, but there is just as much silly dating advice for women as there is for men (both you and I are lucky that we found the Mystery Method). There’s nothing you can do about this. Call them. You can fix their silly ideas later.
Now, we covered ages ago some of the crucial tactics to making you she does answer the phone when you call (programming your number into her phone, telling her when you’re going to call, planning a specific event, making her verbalize some anti-flake routines, texting/calling that night, etc.) as well as how to leave a message (leave hooks, cut yourself off, etc.) so we’ll assume that you’ve done all of this, and are still not getting her on the phone. You can give up, of course, and focus your energies on new women. This is totally fine. But you can also set aside a few minutes a day with your “cold” phone numbers and do some of this:
* Vary the time of day when you call. Morning, afternoon, evening, night. If you’re getting nowhere, try calling at 1am. You’ll wake her up, so make sure you can be immediately entertaining from the second she answers. (Start with a high-energy, funny, short routine. Don’t even introduce yourself).
* Call from different numbers
* Try sending text messages – some people simply prefer these to phone calls
* Don’t ever acknowledge that you are calling and she isn’t returning your calls. Adopt the frame – to yourself – that she is just a flaky woman and it’s kind of cute. Don’t let it cross your mind that she might not actually be interested in you.
* Don’t ever say “this is the last time I’m calling” or “I’m calling to leave you another message” – see above. And if you do get her on the phone, don’t even bring up the subject of your previous calls or texts.
* If you phone, and it goes directly to voicemail (and doesn’t ring at all), hang up.You got a free pass. If it doesn’t ring, it won’t show up as a missed call on her phone. She won’t see that you called. If it does ring, leave a message.
On the other hand, don’t turn “pursuing” into “chasing”. If she tells you not to call, stop calling. Don’t be creepy.
Thursday, December 14, 2006
eHarmony Review
Well, Thundercat posted an article on his blog about eHarmony. From what he was saying, it sounds like the worst site on the Internet. Not only is it a waste of time (literally - time consuming to setup an account), but it also seems like there's nothing but freak show, desperate women on there. AFC's we need you, go over to this site, eHarmony and do some charity work.
In the end, Thundercat ended up saying:
"Over all, I’d say that eHarmony is one of the WORST dating sites for guys out there. Personally, I think that company is kept afloat by a gaggle of desperate, ugly women who struck out on all the other dating sites out there. If you’re looking to get some quality results with online dating, go for a site that gives you more freedom and better search quality, like Match or Yahoo. And if you don’t want to pay for it, stick to MySpace."
If you want the edge with online dating, like a total system with secret techniques and results based on experience from experts, check out David Deangelo's "Meeting Women Online" DVD set. Really awesome stuff.
Donovan
In the end, Thundercat ended up saying:
"Over all, I’d say that eHarmony is one of the WORST dating sites for guys out there. Personally, I think that company is kept afloat by a gaggle of desperate, ugly women who struck out on all the other dating sites out there. If you’re looking to get some quality results with online dating, go for a site that gives you more freedom and better search quality, like Match or Yahoo. And if you don’t want to pay for it, stick to MySpace."
If you want the edge with online dating, like a total system with secret techniques and results based on experience from experts, check out David Deangelo's "Meeting Women Online" DVD set. Really awesome stuff.
Donovan
Monday, December 11, 2006
Texting Eliminates Flakes
There are lots of theories on how to get the solid date and avoid flaking, but recently I've tested and proven an approach that works every time.
You have to just assume you KNOW when you're together whether or not it's on for the future. You can feel how strong the connection is. If it's really there, just don't screw anything up. Send her a cute SMS the next day, let her reply, then SMS telling her when you'll call. Then call, have a short, fun chat, and set the date and time to meet again.
Don't overthink this stuff or try to overgame with phone and SMS. This may be the biggest community-induced mistake I have had to undo. If she gave you her real number, she already likes you. So just assume all you need to do now is make it easy for her to get in contact with you.
Use text first. Calling first is always more of a risk because people do NOT answer their phone unless they know the number (and people like me don't answer their phone even if they know it, choosing instead to time-shift with voicemail).
The text allows her to see who it is, and lets her THINK and FEEL about you before replying. It lets her remember. It also prepares her to talk to you, so she's looking forward to it.
Personally I have always HATED the phone. I hate when the phone rings, I hate talking on it, I hate not being able to see the person, etc. But I love little notes. That's what text is. Little love notes passed in class to keep the fire going until you see each other again.
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Here's my classic failsafe... I've probably sent some variation on this 1000 times.
"hey cutie... it's weird... i was just thinking of you... :-)"
With text, be quick and cute. Don't go for too cocky. Remember, cocky doesn't work without body language and non-verbal cues. Your text should be like a cute little note you drop in her purse that pings her to remember the good feelings she had when with you. That's all.
You have to just assume you KNOW when you're together whether or not it's on for the future. You can feel how strong the connection is. If it's really there, just don't screw anything up. Send her a cute SMS the next day, let her reply, then SMS telling her when you'll call. Then call, have a short, fun chat, and set the date and time to meet again.
Don't overthink this stuff or try to overgame with phone and SMS. This may be the biggest community-induced mistake I have had to undo. If she gave you her real number, she already likes you. So just assume all you need to do now is make it easy for her to get in contact with you.
Use text first. Calling first is always more of a risk because people do NOT answer their phone unless they know the number (and people like me don't answer their phone even if they know it, choosing instead to time-shift with voicemail).
The text allows her to see who it is, and lets her THINK and FEEL about you before replying. It lets her remember. It also prepares her to talk to you, so she's looking forward to it.
Personally I have always HATED the phone. I hate when the phone rings, I hate talking on it, I hate not being able to see the person, etc. But I love little notes. That's what text is. Little love notes passed in class to keep the fire going until you see each other again.
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Here's my classic failsafe... I've probably sent some variation on this 1000 times.
"hey cutie... it's weird... i was just thinking of you... :-)"
With text, be quick and cute. Don't go for too cocky. Remember, cocky doesn't work without body language and non-verbal cues. Your text should be like a cute little note you drop in her purse that pings her to remember the good feelings she had when with you. That's all.
My RULES for text messages:
1. I always address them with pet names like darlin', sweetie, cutie pie, sexy, gorgeous, adorable brat, etc.
2. I use proper grammar. I don't use the normal abbreviations. If you do, U R 2 stop. I do abbreviate stuff like family to "fam", San Francisco to SF, etc. I hope I don't have to say this, but NEVER USE LEET SPEAK (wikipedia it if you don't know). Know the difference between "your" and "you're", "to" and "too", etc. A side rule to this, the more sexual the message, the more proper the grammar you should use. Which feels sexier, "I want 2 slowly kiss Ur lips…" or "I want to slowly kiss your lips…"?
3. Sign your name when it is the first one or two text messages you send (credit: Robert1). All you do is write your text, then at the end add "-Sean." Replace "Sean" with your own name though, or include my cell phone number in the text if you don't.
4. I use a lot of smiley faces This replaces the big friendly smile you would have on your face when you deliver a banter line. Text messages should basically be banter lines. I do not use any other faces other than smiley faces. No winky face no "P" face (I actually don't even know what this is supposed to mean), etc. Some might disagree, but personally I think this borders on leet speak, which is not ok. Furthermore, I want my words to convey my message. If my words, punctuation and a smiley face aren't enough, then I feel I am doing something wrong.
5. I use rich descriptions. If I do say how I am doing, I make it descriptive. In response to "how R U?" I might reply "Just saw the sunset over the bay, the sky's glowing orange - looks incredible!"
6. Jump on the offers a girl makes. An "offer" is a term from improv acting. It is when one actor says something that describes something about the other actor.
Example, one actor says to the other, "I like that large funny hat you have on", the other actor then would go on with that theme of wearing a large funny hat.
It is a little different with text messages, but if a girl sends you something that you can make fun and sexy, do it. For example, I got a text message from one of the girls the other night, "buenas noches. Dulces suenos guapo." [translates: good night. Sweet dreams, handsome]. I replied the next morning by writing, "good morning, beautiful. Have a good day." Except I wrote it in french. I took her theme, and replied in a way that was similar, but original and charming.
Your TOOLS:
Brevity: You have to say everything very quickly. If you can't say it in about 10 to 20 words, then rework it until you can. It is ALWAYS possible to flirt in less than 12 words, in my opinion. If you don't think so, "you are a dork :) " (see, it is that easy). Get rid of everything and anything that is not necessary, by not necessary I mean not flirty and fun.
Punctuation: The main punctuation techniques I use are CAPS, ellipses… exclamation!!! Question marks?? both?!?!, [brackets], and (parenthesis). And smiley face as I mentioned before :) These all have different emotional effects, use them! Caps are REALLY EXCITING!! Wtf?!? [roll my eyes] don't make me.. come over there… and wrap my arms around you… (I won't spank tooo hard)
Sunday, December 10, 2006
NEW! Mystery Method Relationship Seminar
Would you like to learn how to handle a girlfriend?
Would you like to know how to handle multiple long-term relationships?
As I talk to guys, I notice that the community is extremely focused on pickup. We gotta realize that pickup is only PART of seduction, the other part is RELATIONSHIP. The advice you get out in the real world is that you need to be nice, submissive, and the women is mostly right.
Well...
The Mystery Method will teach the best methods for lasting attraction and intimacy. Get rid of those cheating girlfriend/wife worries... =)
Savoy tells me that if you'd like to reserve a spot for this groundbreaking community seminar in Los Angeles at the end of January, you need to get in fast, spots will be limited, so contact me for a discounted 'friends only' price. Not even people on the Mystery Method mailing list/lounge/forum know about this yet. (Their email list has probably over 35,000 members... once it hits there, spots will be gone)
Visit www.themysterymethod.com/rm.htm and remember to mention my blog/name and it will save you $50 off the price.
Don't be a fool, stay in school! - Van Wilder
Donovan
Would you like to know how to handle multiple long-term relationships?
As I talk to guys, I notice that the community is extremely focused on pickup. We gotta realize that pickup is only PART of seduction, the other part is RELATIONSHIP. The advice you get out in the real world is that you need to be nice, submissive, and the women is mostly right.
Well...
The Mystery Method will teach the best methods for lasting attraction and intimacy. Get rid of those cheating girlfriend/wife worries... =)
Savoy tells me that if you'd like to reserve a spot for this groundbreaking community seminar in Los Angeles at the end of January, you need to get in fast, spots will be limited, so contact me for a discounted 'friends only' price. Not even people on the Mystery Method mailing list/lounge/forum know about this yet. (Their email list has probably over 35,000 members... once it hits there, spots will be gone)
Visit www.themysterymethod.com/rm.htm and remember to mention my blog/name and it will save you $50 off the price.
Don't be a fool, stay in school! - Van Wilder
Donovan
Inside Mystery Method
I've recently spoken to my friend Savoy, CEO of Mystery Method. He told me of exciting stuff happening over there, and about a new blog featuring his adventures in his dating life, and the running of a pickup business. Check it out here.
Donovan
Donovan
Wednesday, December 6, 2006
How To Pickup Women in Supermarkets
The latest and greatest from Lance Mason
Here's how I get my shop on.
Supermarket is a super-normal situation. Act super-normal. Forget the crazy stuff. Just be friendly, flirty, and the show you have some manners.
And keep this in mind... the supermarkets are full of single girls on weeknights after work. Single girls who are waiting to meet someone charming, confident, and yes, NORMAL.
Now's your time to shine.
Follow these steps, and make sure you put "hottie" on your shopping list this week.
1. Walk in and grab a cart. It makes a difference. Even if you're just there to
practice flirting, make it look to everyone, especially yourself, that you fit in.
2. Head towards the back of the store so you can see who's in which row. Walk along
shopping, and keep your eyes open. When you find a girl you like, start walking towards her.
3. Be observant. Look at where she is. It always helps to be aware of the situation.
4. Make a comment on anything appropriate to the situation.
You don't need your opener to be clever. Just appropriate. The trick is to get her
attention, and then start having fun.
5. Here's how it works when you add some banter to your shopping cart.
"Wow, you got a lot of good food there.
I usually just buy beer and a pack of
Twizzlers."
"Yes, well..."
Now turn on the big smile.
"Perfect. I'll be over for dinner at 7:30...
no, 8. And I'll bring the wine this time...
you just cook that special thing you made
for us last week."
Now is when she smiles and plays along. Keep playing with it. Talk about how the
dinner last week was great, and you're really looking forward to a special night. Laugh and smile and enjoy it. If you have fun, she'll have fun.
Once she's smiling and having fun, the next step is easy.
Just introduce yourself. Then talk to the girl. Have a conversation, and see if there's something there.
Tested and approved.
Now, because I'm in a good mood, I'm going to give you one more super-bonus line to use.
"My buddy is having a girl over for dinner.
What should he make?"
"Well, girls always like pasta..."
"Actually, I didn't need to know that.
I just made that up so I could come over here
and flirt with you. Did you not get that? Here,
let me try again.
How you doin'?" :-)
Now I want to see some replies with your ideas as well. Let's make the supermarket the new disco.
Yeah baby!
Tell me your best lines. Get out there and start having fun, and let us know what's working best for you.
Lance
Here's how I get my shop on.
Supermarket is a super-normal situation. Act super-normal. Forget the crazy stuff. Just be friendly, flirty, and the show you have some manners.
And keep this in mind... the supermarkets are full of single girls on weeknights after work. Single girls who are waiting to meet someone charming, confident, and yes, NORMAL.
Now's your time to shine.
Follow these steps, and make sure you put "hottie" on your shopping list this week.
1. Walk in and grab a cart. It makes a difference. Even if you're just there to
practice flirting, make it look to everyone, especially yourself, that you fit in.
2. Head towards the back of the store so you can see who's in which row. Walk along
shopping, and keep your eyes open. When you find a girl you like, start walking towards her.
3. Be observant. Look at where she is. It always helps to be aware of the situation.
4. Make a comment on anything appropriate to the situation.
You don't need your opener to be clever. Just appropriate. The trick is to get her
attention, and then start having fun.
5. Here's how it works when you add some banter to your shopping cart.
"Wow, you got a lot of good food there.
I usually just buy beer and a pack of
Twizzlers."
"Yes, well..."
Now turn on the big smile.
"Perfect. I'll be over for dinner at 7:30...
no, 8. And I'll bring the wine this time...
you just cook that special thing you made
for us last week."
Now is when she smiles and plays along. Keep playing with it. Talk about how the
dinner last week was great, and you're really looking forward to a special night. Laugh and smile and enjoy it. If you have fun, she'll have fun.
Once she's smiling and having fun, the next step is easy.
Just introduce yourself. Then talk to the girl. Have a conversation, and see if there's something there.
Tested and approved.
Now, because I'm in a good mood, I'm going to give you one more super-bonus line to use.
"My buddy is having a girl over for dinner.
What should he make?"
"Well, girls always like pasta..."
"Actually, I didn't need to know that.
I just made that up so I could come over here
and flirt with you. Did you not get that? Here,
let me try again.
How you doin'?" :-)
Now I want to see some replies with your ideas as well. Let's make the supermarket the new disco.
Yeah baby!
Tell me your best lines. Get out there and start having fun, and let us know what's working best for you.
Lance
Monday, December 4, 2006
The Bullshit Business of Love! (Video)
I found this video online from Penn and Teller (Showtime Series) talking about the woman that wrote "The Rules", the truth behind John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women Are From Venus". Funny stuff, and truth to it!
Friday, December 1, 2006
Why "Cocky & Funny" Attracts Women
Cocky & Funny technique with women, and you really liked the results? Would you like to learn how to MASTER the technique, and create SUPER attraction with women? If so, then I want you to take a minute and look at THIS:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/
WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT
I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.
It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.
I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.
I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."
Well, was I wrong.
You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...
I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.
Why?
ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.
So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).
First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.
If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.
If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."
But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.
So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.
Here's a cocky statement:
"Her dress makes her look fat."
Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:
"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."
Get it?
Start with arrogance, then add humor.
So why does it work to attract women?
Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:
COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.
Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.
Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.
If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:
"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."
There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.
(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)
Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.
Here's a low-risk example:
Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:
"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)
She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."
To which you can respond with:
"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)
This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.
One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...
Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."
DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.
In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."
Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.
And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.
As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".
So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.
And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!
In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.
This program features me and several amazing guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to master the technique... along with DOZENS and DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and "comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.
Go watch some of the preview video clips, and see for yourself how valuable this program is:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/
WHY THE COCKY & FUNNY ATTITUDE IS ATTRACTIVE TO WOMEN... AND HOW TO USE IT
I get a lot of email from guys who don't quite get the Cocky & Funny attitude.
It just doesn't make sense to some guys that teasing women, busting their balls, being slightly arrogant, not kissing up to them, etc. could or should make them feel attraction.
I can understand this because I was exactly the same way the first few times I heard it and saw it being used.
I kept thinking to myself, "If I do this cocky and funny thing, I'm only going to come across as arrogant... and that can't make women like me more."
Well, was I wrong.
You must always remember that ATTRACTION isn't logical. It doesn't follow the rules that it "should" follow. ATTRACTION is a very powerful emotion that has reasons and triggers that don't make any sense at first glance...
I'm sure you've seen many attractive women with guys who mistreat them, abuse them, and were exactly the opposite of what you'd expect a woman to accept.
Why?
ATTRACTION. In the beginning she felt attraction, and as bad as it may sound, almost no amount of being "bad", abusive, or jerk-ish can convince a woman, feeling a strong attraction to a guy, to leave.
So let me take the opportunity to talk a bit about the Cocky & Funny attitude, why it works, and how to use it to attract women (without having to be an abusive jerk).
First of all, you have to remember that the formula is Cocky PLUS Funny. Always both.
If you act too cocky, you'll only come off as arrogant and insecure.
If you're just funny, always telling jokes, and making people laugh, you will probably come across as "too goofy."
But if you use BOTH together, you will create magic. Cocky + Funny is like sparring... it's sport... it's fun... it's challenging... it's interesting when used with skill.
So let's get clear about what "Cocky + Funny" is.
Here's a cocky statement:
"Her dress makes her look fat."
Here's a Cocky + Funny statement:
"If she doesn't find a dress that fits better, the fashion police are going to send in the SWAT team for her ass."
Get it?
Start with arrogance, then add humor.
So why does it work to attract women?
Well, the short (email newsletter size) answer is:
COCKY AND FUNNY ATTRACTS WOMEN BECAUSE IT QUICKLY AND DIRECTLY SAYS ALL THE RIGHT THINGS ABOUT YOU.
Women are attracted to "alpha male" types - We all know that. Women are attracted to a sense of humor. We all know that one too.
Women AREN'T attracted to men who give away their power, kiss up to them, smother them with attention, act like whipped puppies, and get nervous just being in the same room with them.
If you meet an attractive woman, and IMMEDIATELY start giving her a hard time about something, busting on her, and having fun, it basically says to her:
"You are interesting enough to talk to, but you're going to have to do a lot more than just look good to impress me. Your beauty doesn't make me nervous in the least, I'm perfectly calm, and in fact, I'm so comfortable that I just noticed something about you that I'm going to make fun of..."
There is no faster way on earth to communicate all the right attitudes, beliefs, self-image, comfort, confidence, and power than to be Cocky + Funny.
(Except maybe to put on a perfect Brad Pitt costume.)
Once you start using this attitude, you will be totally astounded at the results.
Here's a low-risk example:
Next time you're at the grocery store in the checkout line paying for your groceries, say:
"So how much of this cash do you get to keep?" (as you hand her the money)
She'll probably laugh and say: "None... I wish."
To which you can respond with:
"Oh, I figured you were pocketing 10 or 20%... I assumed you were rich and could support me, but now I'm not interested... I want a rich girl." (Turn up your nose)
This is a great one. It's always fun to ask a woman if she's rich or famous, then when she says that she's not, tell her that it messed up her chances with you, and that you're not interested anymore.
One of the keys to the Cocky + Funny attitude is to never "crack." If she opens her mouth and gives you the "I can't believe you just said that" look, you need to turn it up a notch...
Most guys will crack and say "Oh, I was just kidding."
DON'T DO THAT! It makes you look like a wussy.
In the example above, if the checker looks at you and gives you the open mouthed "I can't believe you said that" look and says, "Hey! I may not be rich, but I'm nice!", you just look at her and say "Nice isn't good enough, I need RICH AND nice."
Your goal is not to upset a woman, but to get under her skin enough by teasing, busting on her, and acting cocky and funny so that it ignites the magical challenge/attraction mechanism.
And once you can see that you're getting a good response from a woman, GET HER NUMBER. Or get her email. Don't stand around like a dork trying to make her laugh.
As you become better and better with these tools, you can then begin "extending" the conversation... increasing the attraction... and taking things to the "next level".
So get out there and use it, because the magic formula of Cocky + Funny will create all kinds of good things for you. You'll see.
And if you're reading this right now and thinking to yourself "I really need to learn how to master this Cocky & Funny thing", then I AGREE!
In fact, learning how to be Cocky & Funny is one of the FASTEST, EASIEST, and MOST FUN ways you can make women feel ATTRACTION for you.
If you'd like to get a "fast track" education on Cocky & Funny, then I HIGHLY recommend that you check out my Cocky Comedy DVD/CD program.
This program features me and several amazing guest speakers teaching you STEP-BY-STEP how to master the technique... along with DOZENS and DOZENS of specific Cocky & Funny "lines" and "comebacks" for every situation you can imagine.
Go watch some of the preview video clips, and see for yourself how valuable this program is:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e//CockyComedy/
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