Donovan
Thursday, November 30, 2006
Pickup101 Instructor on Beauty and the Geek?
I've just heard that a Pickup101 instructor will be appearing on CW's Beauty and the Geek... he's one of these guys apparently... my guess is it's one of those two Asian guys...
Donovan
Donovan
Wednesday, November 29, 2006
Loverboy's Tribute to Sarging (Video)
I posted this up on the blog about a year ago, but it was removed from Google about a month later. I think it's an awesome video signifying what can happen when you resolve to do something, and fix the situation your in! Kudos Loverboy!
Tuesday, November 28, 2006
David Deangelo's Cocky Comedy Program (Video)
It's been too long for me to post these videos from Cocky Comedy.
I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.
Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.
David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program
David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)
I've noticed alot of men within the community, tend to overdo Cocky and Funny. That's why David released this, to help get the right formula.
Basically, cocky and funny is flirting. If you're insulting a woman. YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG. You need to fix it. Get this DVD set, it's great for flirting and generating crazy amounts of attraction.
David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Program
David Deangelo Cocky Comedy Testimonals
(Guys who were at seminar)
Monday, November 27, 2006
Can You Program Yourself To Meet Women?
I'd like to talk a bit about how we program ourselves and become programmed when it comes to dealing with women... as well as how to overcome the negative programming that we often don't even recognize within ourselves.
Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down.
1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?
2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?
3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?
4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?
If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).
I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them...
I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.
I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.
And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.
Let me give you a little Tough Love:
NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN YOU.
Really.
If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.
It just doesn't matter. No one cares.
THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.
And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU.
Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."
Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be."
Nope.
You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.
It just ain't gonna happen that way.
If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it...
YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
And what's the best way to do it yourself?
This is a fantastic question...
There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point...
1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.
Here's a little story.
I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.
As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.
It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...
When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.
And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.
Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually.
The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.
I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.
I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.
You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend."
So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."
You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world.
This is a big step in changing some of your programming.
2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.
One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.
When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.
Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.
So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.
If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and get my eBook, Double Your Dating... that will help a LOT. It's here.
3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.
I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.
You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.
Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.
At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.
But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do).
The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.
Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down.
JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.
If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.
Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together...
It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women.
Repeat: It took me YEARS.
Years of trial and error.
I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.
Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more.
As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.
One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.
It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important:
That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines".
And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue...
It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women.
Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David Deangelo
Let me ask you a few questions. Take a moment to think about the answers... maybe even write them down.
1) When it comes to women, do you have an overall "positive" outlook towards your success? Do you believe that there is "abundance" when it comes to women, and that you can go out at any time and get a date if you want to? Why or why not?
2) Do you have any negative beliefs or programming when it comes to the idea of APPROACHING women you'd like to meet or asking women out on dates? Do you believe that you're going to be intruding or annoying a woman if you approach her? Do you
believe that a woman will most likely accept or reject a date request from you?
3) Have you CHOSEN the beliefs and attitudes that you have towards women, or have they been "chosen for you" by others, situations, programming, TV, the media, etc.?
4) Would you like to change some of the attitudes and beliefs that you hold in your mind? If so, which ones and what would you like to change them to?
If you're like most guys I know who would like to improve their success with women, then you probably have one or two "negative programs" in your subconscious mind (if you're like I used to be before I learned the things I know now, then you might have A LOT of them).
I can remember when I used to believe that women would be VERY offended or alarmed if I tried to strike up an unexpected conversation with them...
I can remember feeling that if a woman rejected me in front of other people that I WOULD DIE of embarrassment.
I can remember thinking, "Why would a woman find ME attractive?" And believing that the truly desirable, beautiful women out there just wouldn't find a guy like me interesting or attractive because I wasn't rich, tall, famous, buff, or of royal descent.
And as a matter of fact, even though I've spent literally YEARS reprogramming myself and learning as much as I could about women and attraction, I still know that somewhere deep in my subconscious mind this old programming exists. Of course, it
doesn't affect my behavior the way it used to, but my point is that once you program yourself or open yourself to programming from others and from our modern culture, it's sometimes a challenge to overcome that programming and go on to be successful.
Let me give you a little Tough Love:
NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU FIGURE THIS STUFF OUT WITH WOMEN. AND NO ONE CARES WHETHER OR NOT YOU'RE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN... OTHER THAN YOU.
Really.
If you learn how to meet and date the kinds of women that you've always wanted, it won't matter to anyone. Your friends won't think you're any cooler (well, maybe a little), your mom won't stop nagging you, your boss won't pay you more money, and you won't lose that extra 10 pounds that you've needed to lose for the past 10 years.
It just doesn't matter. No one cares.
THE ONLY PERSON THAT CARES IS YOU.
And the only one that's going to be able to do anything about this programming that we're talking about IS YOU.
Your buddies aren't going to come over tomorrow night and say, "Hey, you know, I've been thinking about it. You really need to do something about your subconscious programming in the area of women and dating, and I'd like to help you."
Your mom isn't going to call you up and say, "You know, dear, I've been thinking about it, and I really put some bad ideas in your mind about how to treat women... I'd like to address those things in this call and help you become the mac daddy you've always wanted to be."
Nope.
You're not going to get a call from the guys that run the ads that say, "Show her that you love her by spending five grand on a pair of diamond earrings" to tell you that the ads really aren't true and that no amount of diamonds will help you meet women if you're programmed to act like a WUSSY.
It just ain't gonna happen that way.
If you want to do something about your programming and your success, you're going to have to DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
Here, let me say that again... just in case you didn't get it...
YOU HAVE TO DO IT ALL YOURSELF.
And what's the best way to do it yourself?
This is a fantastic question...
There are a lot of ways to get it going, but I have a few favorites... and since we only have a little time together in this newsletter, I'll get right to the point...
1) Look around and pay careful attention to what's REALLY going on. Just like a comedian looks at the fine details and tells stories about things that we never see... but are right there in front of us, you need to look closer.
Here's a little story.
I was in Vegas awhile back for a visit. I hadn't been to Vegas in about 4 years, so everything seemed new to me... there were about 5 huge new hotels that had just opened, and I spent the day walking around and just seeing the sights.
As I walked around, I looked at the people... and especially at the couples. I'm not sure if it was because I was looking at all of the new sights or what, but for some reason I was really noticing a lot of little details... and I was paying
special attention to the couples that were strolling around on the strip.
It's always amazing to me how attractive women will be with guys of all shapes, sizes, and ages...
When you really look around and pay attention to what's actually going on, you'll be amazed.
And you don't have to be in Vegas to see this phenomenon yourself. Just go out on a Friday night and look around.
Now, before you say, "Yeah, but if you're rich or handsome or tall you'll get more chicks", I will acknowledge that these things can provide certain advantages, but they're not NEAR the level of advantage that WOMEN get from being physically attractive... not even close, actually.
The more I pay attention, learn and try things, the more I realize that women respond to PERSONALITY far more than they respond to LOOKS.
I've even made it a point to ask guys who are tall, handsome, etc., if they believe that their success with women comes from those things. Almost universally they tell me that their ATTITUDES and SKILLS are far more important than their looks.
I've also met a lot of tall, good-looking guys at my seminars who have INCREDIBLE problems meeting women. The more experience I have with this, the more I realize just how little LOOKS has to do with the equation.
You've probably read some of these newsletters where good looking guys write in and say, "I'm buff, good looking, and I have women talking to me all the time, but I can't get any dates... they only like me as a friend."
So, part of this step is for you to take a day or so and go out in public... to a place that is PACKED with people, and look around at the couples. Look with your own two eyes and see all of the attractive women that are with guys who are NOT what you would consider to be "physically attractive."
You need to see with your own eyes what's going on in the REAL world.
This is a big step in changing some of your programming.
2) Watch some guys who are successful with women.
One of the best things I've ever done is make friends with some REALLY SUCCESSFUL guys (I'm talking about success with women here). As a matter of fact, most of the techniques that I've learned, developed, and write about originally started out as something I got from friends by watching them interact with women.
When you watch guys who know how to make women feel that magical emotion called "ATTRACTION", you'll start to see the patterns in their behavior, and the patterns in the responses from women.
Nothing can replace watching a guy walk up to a woman, start talking to her, and walk away 5 minutes later with her number.
So make some new friends if you have to. Just do what it takes to watch some guys interact with women. It's a big one.
If you're at a point in your life where you're too busy with work, etc. to get out and meet guys who are successful with women, then do yourself a favor and get my eBook, Double Your Dating... that will help a LOT. It's here.
3) Stop looking for a "magic pill". Realize that you're going to have to CONSTANTLY learn and improve.
I know, I know. You'd like to take a pill and have this whole part of your life handled.
You'd like a computer chip implanted in your brain that will change you into a chick-magnet.
Well, until these things exist, you're going to have to do it the old fashioned way... you're going to have to actually DO SOMETHING.
At first, it might seem a little uncomfortable. You might feel weird going out to a bar alone just to look at the people.
But don't worry, no one will care (remember what I said earlier... nobody cares whether or not you're successful, only you do).
The more you improve, the more you'll WANT to improve, and the easier it will become.
Read books, try things, experiment. Keep a journal, write down what works and what doesn't, think about the things you'd like to change and write them down.
JUST KEEP IMPROVING A LITTLE BIT AT A TIME.
If you do these things, you'll begin to REPROGRAM YOURSELF and change your negative programming into POSITIVE programming and success.
Of course, the best place to start is with some of the materials that I've put together...
It took me years of trial and error to really figure out what works with women.
Repeat: It took me YEARS.
Years of trial and error.
I'm talking about trying out everything you can imagine...and having MOST of it NOT work.
Every time I found something that DID work, I took the idea, refined it, and wrote it down... then worked on it some more.
As you already know, I've taken all the stuff I've learned for myself and put it into the programs that I've created to help YOU learn this stuff much quicker and easier than I ever did.
One of the things I discovered while I was learning how to attract women, was that most men walk around with a DEEP INSECURITY inside.
It took me a few years to figure out something even MORE important:
That insecurity can't be fixed with "pick up lines".
And the reality is that it's MORE than just an insecurity issue...
It's actually that most men have never gone through the process of BECOMING a man who NATURALLY attracts women.
Oh, one more thing... if you haven't downloaded a copy of my online eBook "Double Your Dating", then what the hell are you waiting for? You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it within a few minutes. Go download it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
And by the way, make sure and forward this email to a friend and encourage them to sign up for my free newsletter. They'll appreciate it, and I'll appreciate it.
I'll talk to you again in a couple of days.
Your Friend,
David Deangelo
Sunday, November 26, 2006
Five Fundamentals to Get Girls Today
(by Sean Newman, Pickup 101 Senior Instructor)
The dreaded death of mojo.
We all face it.
You wake up and the first thing you think is "I have to go back out there and do it again."
Doesn't matter if you've been picking up girls your whole life, or if you just started. The strong pull to do nothing never goes away.
Entropy. The tendency of ordered systems to fall apart and settle into inactivity.
Sloth. The desire to stay in bed and do, as we all learned from "Office Space," nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.
But the girls are out there. They are there every morning getting coffee, waiting for trains and busses, walking to work, walking their dogs, doing stuff. Commerce. Activity. Life.
And you know that when you are having a good day, it can be easy to just strike up that flirty conversation and spark something. We've all had at least one night, maybe with good friends at a party, or a bar you really like, when it seems like no thing to turn your volume up a little bit more and run your silly fun little lines on the cutie who catches your eye.
We all already have mojo. But we don't control when it's on, and when it's off.
What do you do on those days when your mojo is sleeping?
How do you wake it the fuck up?
Here's are the 5 Fixes I use to get myself going every day.
It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this or how good you are at it. Remember, the best pickup artists in the world don't even think of it as pickup. It's not something they do. It's just something they are, every minute, every day.
Do these five things, and you'll peg your switch to ON all the time, and you'll never let an opportunity pass by again.
1. Say Hi to people and give smiles every single day.
Simple smiles and greetings, especially in places where that is not expected, change the way you feel. When you talk, you are out of your head. And your head is a very comfortable, but lonely, place to be. If you're only motivation for doing pickup is to bust a nut, you'll never be happy. But if you can consider that being a nicer, friendlier person is a gift to others, it takes the pressure off you.
2. Flirt before noon.
I don't wait for Friday or Saturday night to roll around. I schedule visits to places every morning where I know I'll run into cute girls, so I can keep approaching and keep re-enforcing good habits and good results.
The nice thing about flirting with girls in the daytime is that all you need is one banter line, and you are almost always going to get a smile.
3. Walk, and walk with a purpose.
Be aware of your body language every day. If you catch yourself feeling nervous or stressed, get up and walk around. Force a smile onto your face. Breathe deep and slow. Get moving.
4. When in doubt, just make her smile.
Every passionate relationship begins with the man doing something to make the woman feel good. There are lots of ways to start this... banter and teasing, sexy eye contact, or absolute sincerity. If you get stuck, or in your head, stop thinking about it as a pickup, and set your goal just at making her smile. Be selfless. You are a gift you share with women.
5. Go back to basics.
Instead of trying to run a scripted 20-minute stack, just do the pieces. Go back to warmups like you learned in Art of Attraction. Stop cute girls and ask them what time it is. Willfully lose yourself in the city so you can ask directions.
And when you really need a karmic boost, go with the old standard sincere compliment.
Start it by acknowledging that what you are about to do is a bit unusual. This shows your social intelligence and puts her at ease. Then tell her just what you think. Every healthy man finds attractive girls cute. There's always something there that catches her eye. And you know she spends most of her time and money working on it.
So tell her. Be a man who makes his world better, and you will find the world making things better for you.
These five fixes may sound a little too basic. I know, you want the super-advanced magic words to make panties just melt right off her thighs.
The truth is there are no magic words. There are no shortcuts, and there is no new technology that makes girls want sex more than ever before.
There are only fundamentals, and guys who do them well. Make these fundamentals part of your daily routines, and watch your results, and your total happiness, skyrocket.
It's pure pickup karma. The more good you do for others selflessly, the more it comes back to you. Stop worrying about how to get her home that night or destroy her boyfriend or overcome her socialized resistance.
Do it for her, not for you. You will get more comfortable and more confident, and then when you see that smoking hottie across the bar and know you have to wade through a see of stalkers to get to her, you'll have your mojo running high and a real smile on your face.
Mojo makes you a superhero. Learn to build it and bank it, and you can do anything.
The dreaded death of mojo.
We all face it.
You wake up and the first thing you think is "I have to go back out there and do it again."
Doesn't matter if you've been picking up girls your whole life, or if you just started. The strong pull to do nothing never goes away.
Entropy. The tendency of ordered systems to fall apart and settle into inactivity.
Sloth. The desire to stay in bed and do, as we all learned from "Office Space," nothing. Absolutely. Nothing.
But the girls are out there. They are there every morning getting coffee, waiting for trains and busses, walking to work, walking their dogs, doing stuff. Commerce. Activity. Life.
And you know that when you are having a good day, it can be easy to just strike up that flirty conversation and spark something. We've all had at least one night, maybe with good friends at a party, or a bar you really like, when it seems like no thing to turn your volume up a little bit more and run your silly fun little lines on the cutie who catches your eye.
We all already have mojo. But we don't control when it's on, and when it's off.
What do you do on those days when your mojo is sleeping?
How do you wake it the fuck up?
Here's are the 5 Fixes I use to get myself going every day.
It doesn't matter how long you've been doing this or how good you are at it. Remember, the best pickup artists in the world don't even think of it as pickup. It's not something they do. It's just something they are, every minute, every day.
Do these five things, and you'll peg your switch to ON all the time, and you'll never let an opportunity pass by again.
1. Say Hi to people and give smiles every single day.
Simple smiles and greetings, especially in places where that is not expected, change the way you feel. When you talk, you are out of your head. And your head is a very comfortable, but lonely, place to be. If you're only motivation for doing pickup is to bust a nut, you'll never be happy. But if you can consider that being a nicer, friendlier person is a gift to others, it takes the pressure off you.
2. Flirt before noon.
I don't wait for Friday or Saturday night to roll around. I schedule visits to places every morning where I know I'll run into cute girls, so I can keep approaching and keep re-enforcing good habits and good results.
The nice thing about flirting with girls in the daytime is that all you need is one banter line, and you are almost always going to get a smile.
3. Walk, and walk with a purpose.
Be aware of your body language every day. If you catch yourself feeling nervous or stressed, get up and walk around. Force a smile onto your face. Breathe deep and slow. Get moving.
4. When in doubt, just make her smile.
Every passionate relationship begins with the man doing something to make the woman feel good. There are lots of ways to start this... banter and teasing, sexy eye contact, or absolute sincerity. If you get stuck, or in your head, stop thinking about it as a pickup, and set your goal just at making her smile. Be selfless. You are a gift you share with women.
5. Go back to basics.
Instead of trying to run a scripted 20-minute stack, just do the pieces. Go back to warmups like you learned in Art of Attraction. Stop cute girls and ask them what time it is. Willfully lose yourself in the city so you can ask directions.
And when you really need a karmic boost, go with the old standard sincere compliment.
"I know this is a little random, but I had to tell you that you are very cute."
Start it by acknowledging that what you are about to do is a bit unusual. This shows your social intelligence and puts her at ease. Then tell her just what you think. Every healthy man finds attractive girls cute. There's always something there that catches her eye. And you know she spends most of her time and money working on it.
So tell her. Be a man who makes his world better, and you will find the world making things better for you.
These five fixes may sound a little too basic. I know, you want the super-advanced magic words to make panties just melt right off her thighs.
The truth is there are no magic words. There are no shortcuts, and there is no new technology that makes girls want sex more than ever before.
There are only fundamentals, and guys who do them well. Make these fundamentals part of your daily routines, and watch your results, and your total happiness, skyrocket.
It's pure pickup karma. The more good you do for others selflessly, the more it comes back to you. Stop worrying about how to get her home that night or destroy her boyfriend or overcome her socialized resistance.
Do it for her, not for you. You will get more comfortable and more confident, and then when you see that smoking hottie across the bar and know you have to wade through a see of stalkers to get to her, you'll have your mojo running high and a real smile on your face.
Mojo makes you a superhero. Learn to build it and bank it, and you can do anything.
Wednesday, November 22, 2006
PickUp101 on CNBC Money (Video)
Lance and his henchmen from PickUp101 were featured on CNBC's On The Money yesterday. You can check out the video below:
http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=c6714218-cb17-4f68-a5be-db40a8a2dd02&f=00&fg
They also just released a new Physical Confidence program. Very professional.
http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence
Enjoy.
http://video.msn.com/v/us/msnbc.htm?g=c6714218-cb17-4f68-a5be-db40a8a2dd02&f=00&fg
They also just released a new Physical Confidence program. Very professional.
http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence
Enjoy.
Sunday, November 19, 2006
The Truth By Playboy (Stephen Nash)
Stephen (PlayboyLA from The Game) just blogged a very revealing post on his experiences with the community, and how not to get fooled.
Why You Might Be Wasting Your Time
I tend to meet with client once per week these days, and a very common theme has emerged. Many of them emerge from working various programs, attending various workshops, reading every book known to man, only to be more frustrated and downtrodden because it doesn't seem to work out for them.
The carrot can't be caught in other words...
Not to entirely frustrate you, but usually guys who are good at the 'game' were good at it already...or pretty good at it already...the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place. Let me repeat that:
"the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place"
In other words, your diagnosis might be a bit off.
The community - whether it's a competing company, a web-board, a lair..whatever - thrives on dangling a carrot out there in front of you claiming that your life will change in 13 seconds if you just buy this product...etc...
This methodology is certainly lucrative - just ask Tony Robbins - but it doesn't usually translate into success. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX TO YOUR PROBLEM...and anyone who claims otherwise doesn't deserve your attention, money, time, or bandwidth.
Most of what you read online is total BS by the way - the webboards which feature endless posts by supposed experts are normally 30% truth. I have watched so many guys doctor and change their posts to relay a much larger, and more glorified representation of the truth. HB6's suddenly are HB9's etc.
So, what follows is a reasonable expectation for you - something actually attainable - and not something designed to get you to purchase my products.
1) Begin - analyze your social life. How many friends do you have? How many are male and how many are female? How often do you see them? How often do you go out with a friend or a group of friends? How do you meet new women (if at all)? How do you make friends? If you have had a relationship, how did it happen? (In my experience, a guy tends to meet women the same way his entire life - so, if the last 9 girlfriends you had were met via another friend, my money is on the next one happening that way IN SPITE of how you feel about cold approaches).
2) Once you have written down some honest answers, give yourself SMALL goals to reach with a month's time to reach them. So, if your social circle is 5 people - try to double it in a month's time. Within a month, your circle has grown to 10...
3) If you don't meet 5 new people on a weekly basis, your social life is not active enough. If that is the case, you need to branch out. Here are some ideas:
- classes
- events
- openings
- parties
- hobbies
- friends
- cold approach (notice how this is one of 7 ways...)
MOST couples come together via social circle - NOT THROUGH COLD APPROACHING - so, why waste your time trying to get good at that when you can easily get good at the others, meet TONS of new women (and make cool guy friends) and improve your lifestyle as a result?
Why put your life on hold just to get laid? Why not accelerate your life forward, and then get laid or even....meet someone for a relationship...
4) Lead your social circle - study all about John Goddard, make your list, get started and then invite everyone else to come along for the ride...LEAD in other words. Become the magnet to mission, purpose and excitement.
5) And by the way - what IS your mission or purpose in your life anyway?? Do you know? If not, now would be a good time to write a bit about that and start to get an idea...nothing as unattractive as a loose balloon being blown about by the wind...
6) Go to a tailor and get fitted for your sizes right away. Never buy clothing that doesn't fit again.
7) Get in shape - go to the gym MINIMUM 3 times per week. And if you want to know...I swim...and love it...great for the mind, body, joints, you name it.
8) Clean your apartment - do it tonight. Wash the dishes when you're done eating, and make your bed in the morning.
9) Go to the dentist, and have your teeth cleaned. Be sure to correct any bad breath issues you may have. You might be the nicest, coolest, most handsome guy in the world - and with bad breath, you'll never see approaching lips...
10) Stop wasting your time doing things you like, and only go things you love...
Now remember, set reasonable expectations on your progress. Nothing worthwhile is going to happen in even a month. But a year from now - and trust me, that is not long and is WAY shorter than the amount of time needed to get good at the cold approach - you can expect very significant progress and change, if you are diligent and disciplined.
If you want a girlfriend, and a healthy relationship - YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME DOING COLD APPROACHES. You must create a lifestyle and image which are attractive and healthy - you can't have a healthy relationship with another until you have one with yourself - which means honoring your deepest wishes, and the precious time you have here on earth (this is first and foremost)! Stop wasting time...start really living, and watch as your entire framework for relating to women change.
And to finish the first paragraph - my job, as a reporter recently noted, is to rewire guys away from the community beliefs, into beliefs which actually serve and are rooted in REALITY...that's what I do about once per week...not bad, but a shame that so many well-intentioned guys get such bad direction from other equally clueless guys...
For an example of such a website: www.spiritual-seduction.com (this 19 year old has been in the community for less than 6 months, hardly a "guru") Thoughts, comments?
For more Stephen Nash and his thoughts on the game, community and dating, check out his Seduction Master's Interview here.
Why You Might Be Wasting Your Time
I tend to meet with client once per week these days, and a very common theme has emerged. Many of them emerge from working various programs, attending various workshops, reading every book known to man, only to be more frustrated and downtrodden because it doesn't seem to work out for them.
The carrot can't be caught in other words...
Not to entirely frustrate you, but usually guys who are good at the 'game' were good at it already...or pretty good at it already...the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place. Let me repeat that:
"the only brain which thinks a bunch of lines and gimmicks are going to work is the same brain that led you to be frustrated, lonely, and socially awkward in the first place"
In other words, your diagnosis might be a bit off.
The community - whether it's a competing company, a web-board, a lair..whatever - thrives on dangling a carrot out there in front of you claiming that your life will change in 13 seconds if you just buy this product...etc...
This methodology is certainly lucrative - just ask Tony Robbins - but it doesn't usually translate into success. THERE IS NO QUICK FIX TO YOUR PROBLEM...and anyone who claims otherwise doesn't deserve your attention, money, time, or bandwidth.
Most of what you read online is total BS by the way - the webboards which feature endless posts by supposed experts are normally 30% truth. I have watched so many guys doctor and change their posts to relay a much larger, and more glorified representation of the truth. HB6's suddenly are HB9's etc.
So, what follows is a reasonable expectation for you - something actually attainable - and not something designed to get you to purchase my products.
1) Begin - analyze your social life. How many friends do you have? How many are male and how many are female? How often do you see them? How often do you go out with a friend or a group of friends? How do you meet new women (if at all)? How do you make friends? If you have had a relationship, how did it happen? (In my experience, a guy tends to meet women the same way his entire life - so, if the last 9 girlfriends you had were met via another friend, my money is on the next one happening that way IN SPITE of how you feel about cold approaches).
2) Once you have written down some honest answers, give yourself SMALL goals to reach with a month's time to reach them. So, if your social circle is 5 people - try to double it in a month's time. Within a month, your circle has grown to 10...
3) If you don't meet 5 new people on a weekly basis, your social life is not active enough. If that is the case, you need to branch out. Here are some ideas:
- classes
- events
- openings
- parties
- hobbies
- friends
- cold approach (notice how this is one of 7 ways...)
MOST couples come together via social circle - NOT THROUGH COLD APPROACHING - so, why waste your time trying to get good at that when you can easily get good at the others, meet TONS of new women (and make cool guy friends) and improve your lifestyle as a result?
Why put your life on hold just to get laid? Why not accelerate your life forward, and then get laid or even....meet someone for a relationship...
4) Lead your social circle - study all about John Goddard, make your list, get started and then invite everyone else to come along for the ride...LEAD in other words. Become the magnet to mission, purpose and excitement.
5) And by the way - what IS your mission or purpose in your life anyway?? Do you know? If not, now would be a good time to write a bit about that and start to get an idea...nothing as unattractive as a loose balloon being blown about by the wind...
6) Go to a tailor and get fitted for your sizes right away. Never buy clothing that doesn't fit again.
7) Get in shape - go to the gym MINIMUM 3 times per week. And if you want to know...I swim...and love it...great for the mind, body, joints, you name it.
8) Clean your apartment - do it tonight. Wash the dishes when you're done eating, and make your bed in the morning.
9) Go to the dentist, and have your teeth cleaned. Be sure to correct any bad breath issues you may have. You might be the nicest, coolest, most handsome guy in the world - and with bad breath, you'll never see approaching lips...
10) Stop wasting your time doing things you like, and only go things you love...
Now remember, set reasonable expectations on your progress. Nothing worthwhile is going to happen in even a month. But a year from now - and trust me, that is not long and is WAY shorter than the amount of time needed to get good at the cold approach - you can expect very significant progress and change, if you are diligent and disciplined.
If you want a girlfriend, and a healthy relationship - YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME DOING COLD APPROACHES. You must create a lifestyle and image which are attractive and healthy - you can't have a healthy relationship with another until you have one with yourself - which means honoring your deepest wishes, and the precious time you have here on earth (this is first and foremost)! Stop wasting time...start really living, and watch as your entire framework for relating to women change.
And to finish the first paragraph - my job, as a reporter recently noted, is to rewire guys away from the community beliefs, into beliefs which actually serve and are rooted in REALITY...that's what I do about once per week...not bad, but a shame that so many well-intentioned guys get such bad direction from other equally clueless guys...
For an example of such a website: www.spiritual-seduction.com (this 19 year old has been in the community for less than 6 months, hardly a "guru") Thoughts, comments?
For more Stephen Nash and his thoughts on the game, community and dating, check out his Seduction Master's Interview here.
Wednesday, November 15, 2006
Underground Zan Footage in Chicago (Video)
Whoever put this online is awesome. I spoke to Zan briefly, and I need to get his seduction master's interview finished soon for you all.
This video was secretly recorded via PalmPilot after he spoke at a David Deangelo seminar in Chicago.
He speaks on some great points
* Being genuine
* Sincerity
* Internal game
This video was secretly recorded via PalmPilot after he spoke at a David Deangelo seminar in Chicago.
He speaks on some great points
* Being genuine
* Sincerity
* Internal game
Monday, November 13, 2006
Definitive Guide To Natural Bar/Club Game
I've managed to pull up a really old post from a former PUA named Craig (from Elimidate). He has since retired from the community but this is one of the most comprehensive guides to natural bar/club game I've seen.
Craig's Method...The Natural Way
One of the main reasons why I succeed in bars and most go home alone is because I have a system, one that has taken me years to perfect. When I was first starting out in the game I tried all kinds of crazy things to meet women, from giving them business cards to doing card tricks, even trying to hypnotize them! I had a few successes here and there, but what always bothered me was that the techniques just didn't seem natural. Not to mention the fact that when I ran out of lines I would get run over. I knew there were guys out there who got hoards of women without even trying, and that was my ultimate goal.
A few years ago I had a major realization and I started pulling women like crazy. It came at a very frustrating time in my life, when I was about to throw in the towel and give up on being the guy who has women all over him.
My major turning point came when I decided to throw all I thought I knew about meeting women in the trash. I was so frustrated with the rejections and my weak successes that I decided I was just going to go out and have a FUCKING AWESOME TIME! I decided that if I didn't come home with anybody it wouldn't matter anymore, because I would have a blast, and make everyone in the bar have a better night because I was there!
I didn't get laid that first night, but I met more girls than I ever had before and I could not believe the positive responses I was getting. Girls were picking up on the vibe that I was only there to have a good time, and I was having such a blast that it was contagious! Girls that I talked to early in the night were coming back up to me and striking up conversations!
Its been many years since I first started on my path to mastery, and these days whenever I go out, I meet a lot of women, whether I want to or not! When I set out to write this book I took a hard look at what I do now compared to what I did then, and hopefully what I've found will help you to reach your goals faster than I did.
As you know my goal has always been to become a natural seducer, and when I was starting out I tried to watch the guys that got a lot of women in the clubs and learn from them. The problem was that I couldn't for the life of me figure out what they were doing that was so different. They usually weren't the best-dressed guys in the house, and almost never the best looking.
It didn't hit me until I started picking up all kinds of women that there was a distinct format to my style, and that format is the foundation of my success. There are dozens of little things I do to enhance my game, but they alone do not get me laid. You have to bake the cake before you can put on the icing!
The Circle Format
One thing I noticed when I first started doing this is that losers the in a club would stand around and drink and watch, while guys with game would walk around and make things happen. The guys with lots of game would be sitting at a table with different beautiful women around them all night like they were famous. That is where I wanted to be, and I discovered that you have to put a lot of walking and talking to get to there.
The thing I like about most clubs and bars is that they are built in a way that creates a good flow around the inside, and you can usually walk around the whole place in a big circle without having to backtrack. Walking around the club in big circles is the basis of my format, and it's what you DO when you are walking around that makes all of the difference.
When you first arrive at a venue you have to set a presence for yourself, and it's important to get in the right state of mind before you walk in. Think of yourself as the owner of the club, because tonight, the place is yours! Say it aloud! Whenever I walk through the doors of a club, I stop, look around, and say 'MY HOUSE!'
After you are inside and you check you coat, get your drink, etc., start your walk around the club. When you see a girl or group of girls you want to meet, go in and say something funny or interesting that isn't something they have already heard ten times that night.
An example conversation could go like this:
Me: (serious look) Hey! Are you guys going to like me better the 3rd time you see me?
Girls: Huh? What do you mean?
Me: Well I've already walked past you guys twice and you guys haven't said hi to me or hello or grabbed my ass or anything! What's goin on?
Girls: (laughing) Hi my name's Jen, and this is Carrie. What's yours?
Me: Craig. Nice to meet you. Now, next time I see you all I'm going to expect a warm welcome!
Here comes the MOST powerful part of this technique. After you exchange a few laughs MOVE ON OUT! This is huge because every other guy they have ever met has leached on at the first sign of acceptance and tried to hang out with them all night! How desperate is that? By ending the conversation first you have shown them that you are a secure guy who doesn't care if he sees them again, or if they talk to other guys. And why should you? You have many more groups of women to approach!
The whole idea here is to get them laughing, show them you are a fun guy that they would want to hang out with, then leave with them wanting more! In sales this is called a takeaway.
Do the same thing with the next group. If a girl is by herself don't leave her out of the loop, but don't use that as an excuse to latch on. If a conversation is going really well with a certain group or girl, it is ok to keep it up, just make sure that you are the one to end it and that you end it while both of you are still laughing and having fun.
This structure eliminates a lot of mistakes and conveys a lot of important things. Lets take a look at what's going on here, and why this works:
You are showing every woman you meet that you are a fun guy with a great personality.
Since you are only talking to each group for a short time and you are the one that is ending the conversation, you show them that you aren't desperate for their attention and you create a challenge. You leave them wanting more!
You will be seen talking to lots of women, which will make you look desirable and create competition. This is known as 'Social Proof', and creates a presence with everyone around you.
· You are creating a familiarity with these women, so the next time you see them, it's like you are old buds! The hardest part is behind you!
Best of all, this format allows you to meet tons of women while naturally walking around the club having fun. You are going to have a GREAT time and meet LOTS of people!
I relate this structure to fishing, because it reminds me a TV special I saw once on sharks. When scientists want to catch some sharks to study, they dump a bunch of blood and fish guts in the water to get them all riled up. There's no real meat in there, but it lets the sharks know that there is something around, and it gets them alert and looking for food.
This is what you're doing with your initial approach and takeaway. You are letting the girls know you're in the house and that you are different from the rest of the guys, and you keep them wanting more. I think they said it best in the movie 'Swingers'. It's all about letting the girls know that you're money and you're ready to party!
Starting the Frenzy
By the time you are finished with lap number one you will probably have talked to 10-20 girls, some alone and some in groups. There is no set time frame for how long this should take, because every club is different and some conversations will last longer than others. Sometimes I will finish my first lap without doing any approaches because there are no hot women in the bar. In those cases the first lap is usually my last!
On your second go-round you are going to see a few or all of the girls you met on the first pass, depending on the size of the club. Of course some of them will be in the bathroom, on the dance floor, gone home, etc., but new girls are always emerging to take their places. Don't get lazy and leave them out of the fun!
The girls that you are seeing for the second time already have a good impression of you, and now they've seen you talking with lots of other women, so they view you not only as ok to be seen with, but also as desirable to the opposite sex. I don't need to tell you that this is a good thing!
Now that you have gotten things brewing, it's time to pull out the bait and see if she grabs it! Your bait is what you do when you see a girl or group of women you have already approached. The goal here is to have a conversation start naturally, like it would if you had met them before.
Your bait can be the same type of thing you did the first time (Eg. Get her laughing with a joke about something in the club, tell a short funny story, ask her a question, etc.) or something on a smaller scale, like a look and a smile. Other things you could do would be to give her a high five, touch her glass with yours as you walk by and say 'cheers', or my personal favorite, and accuse
her of following you, and tell her to stop!
From now on every time you see her throw her some kind of bait and see if she grabs on to it. By throwing the bait you are giving her an easy way to start talking to you, and that is what you are waiting for. For instance, if you make a joke, see if she makes a funny comment back. If you touch her glass and say 'cheers', she might ask you what you're drinking. She may say something unrelated to your bait, like 'Nice necklace' or 'Where did you get that ring?' If she asks you a question it's always a good sign. One that I here all of the time is, 'You look familiar' 'Where do I know you from?' To this I answer, 'Do you watch adult movies?'
If she doesn't take the bait keep on walking! Some girls will take the bait right away and a conversation will start naturally, and other conversations might not happen until you have seen them 5 or 6 six times. That's a good thing, because every time you see her you are reminding her about you and building anticipation.
The most important thing you are doing here that most guys miss is that you are setting yourself up as a challenge. People don't value what they don't have to work for, and to most women, especially attractive women, men are too easy!
Imagine if you were a beautiful woman, and you had guys kissing your ass and begging to be with you your entire life. It gets old fast, and when a woman like this meets a man who doesn't put her on a pedestal and makes her chase after him, it drives her crazy!
Every woman loves a challenge, and this will separate you from 99% of the guys out there. Ask a few girls you know about this, and ask them to describe how a man can be a challenge to them. You will gain some really valuable insight.
The familiarity that this method creates is one of the reasons why it is so effective. If you do your job on the first contact with a new girl, or group of girls, the next time you see them they will remember you and all of their walls will have come down.
This plays a HUGE part when you are dealing with groups, because when women go out they will naturally try to keep their friends together and keep them from getting hit on. If you approach the group as a whole a few times and show them what type of person you are, it will make it much easier to isolate your target when that time comes. Instead of the girls being cautious about their friend leaving, they will be jealous!
Reeling in the Fish
After a few rounds in the club you are probably going to have a one or two women that you have a really good feeling about. Maybe the two of you had a great conversation, maybe she 'accidentally' touched your arm a few too many times, or maybe she is just the hottest woman you've talked to all night. Either way, it's time to close the deal!
Now that you have it narrowed down it's ok to seek your woman out, and the sooner the better. Make sure you stick with the bait formula. When you find her say something funny, ask her a question, or make a comment about something to give her the opportunity to start a conversation.
If she's with her group of friends, it's time to isolate her and make your move! You don't have to take her away from her friends completely, but it is important to get into a one-on-one conversation with her.
Remember, the main reason her friends may try to 'cockblock' is because they aren't sure if their friend is into you and they want to 'save' her. Hopefully when you were making your rounds you talked to the group as a whole, or they at least saw their friend give you a positive reaction. This familiarity will give you a big advantage.
Ending Conversations
It's always good to end a conversation first, and a great way to do it is to say, 'Hey it was nice meeting you, I'm gonna catch up with my friends. Maybe I'll see you later.
Saying 'maybe' is very important. It shows that you don't care if you do see her again, and it leaves her wondering if you will. If you say, I'll catch up with you later, she knows that she is gonna see you again and it removes part of the mystery and the challenge that women need to feel attraction.
On Group Approaches and Cock Blocks
If a girl is with her friends but they are out of earshot or already talking to others, it is ok to single her out and talk to her by herself. If her friends come back and interrupt don't worry about it. It's their job to watch out for their friend. Think nothing of it and include her friends in the conversation.
If one of her friends completely captures her attention for more than a few seconds, don't stand around like a puppy! If you were just throwing a little bait and the two of you hadn't really started talking yet, keep right on walking without saying anything. If the conversation was flowing nicely you can do one of two things.
Your first option is to end the conversation as you normally would, but shorten it to, 'Maybe I'll see you later' and walk away. If it's really on or it's getting late and your not sure if you will see her again, turn away at least 90 degrees and do something. Light a smoke, order a drink, check your phone, etc, and wait for HER to come back to YOU. If she doesn't come back, either start talking to someone else or walk away. When you see her again she will respect you for being your own person and not waiting around like a chump.
On-Going Cycle
The nice thing about this cycle is that it doesn't limit itself to one night, because you are always meeting new girls and throwing bait to old ones. I used to live in a smaller town with only 3 bars, and at the end of every night there would be certain girls that I had talked too only once and others that I had talked too 3 or 4 times a night for months.
Some of the girls would come around eventually and we would end up hooking up, while others became great bar buddies that would introduce me to their cute girlfriends! Damn I love this stuff!
When I moved to a bigger city I thought it would be different since there are literally hundreds of bars here, but I learned that every town has it's own bar scene and you will always run into a lot of the same people. The cycle continues!
The Natural Way
When I go out to a club I look like a normal, social guy that happens to get a lot of women. No one would ever label me a 'Lounge Lizard' or a 'Pimp', because to the untrained eye and the women around, it appears as though I am just hanging out like everyone else, and having a little bit more fun. This is very important because if a woman thinks you are a pick up artist and you do this all the time, you will have to work ten times harder to make it happen.
I have a friend that I go out clubbing with all of the time, but we never really talk about techniques since we have very different styles. He overheard me explaining this method to someone and said, “You mean you are actually doing something when you are walking around like that?†And I hit the town with this guy all the time!
This format is designed to be a natural way to meet women. If you want to grab a drink or have a smoke along the way, feel free. You are there to have a great time! If you run into some of your buddies, by all means stay and have a beer. If you run into some girls that you know, stay and chat longer because the other girls in the club will see you (social proof) and your girlfriends
may know some cuties that you should meet!
Craig's Method...The Natural Way
One of the main reasons why I succeed in bars and most go home alone is because I have a system, one that has taken me years to perfect. When I was first starting out in the game I tried all kinds of crazy things to meet women, from giving them business cards to doing card tricks, even trying to hypnotize them! I had a few successes here and there, but what always bothered me was that the techniques just didn't seem natural. Not to mention the fact that when I ran out of lines I would get run over. I knew there were guys out there who got hoards of women without even trying, and that was my ultimate goal.
A few years ago I had a major realization and I started pulling women like crazy. It came at a very frustrating time in my life, when I was about to throw in the towel and give up on being the guy who has women all over him.
My major turning point came when I decided to throw all I thought I knew about meeting women in the trash. I was so frustrated with the rejections and my weak successes that I decided I was just going to go out and have a FUCKING AWESOME TIME! I decided that if I didn't come home with anybody it wouldn't matter anymore, because I would have a blast, and make everyone in the bar have a better night because I was there!
I didn't get laid that first night, but I met more girls than I ever had before and I could not believe the positive responses I was getting. Girls were picking up on the vibe that I was only there to have a good time, and I was having such a blast that it was contagious! Girls that I talked to early in the night were coming back up to me and striking up conversations!
Its been many years since I first started on my path to mastery, and these days whenever I go out, I meet a lot of women, whether I want to or not! When I set out to write this book I took a hard look at what I do now compared to what I did then, and hopefully what I've found will help you to reach your goals faster than I did.
As you know my goal has always been to become a natural seducer, and when I was starting out I tried to watch the guys that got a lot of women in the clubs and learn from them. The problem was that I couldn't for the life of me figure out what they were doing that was so different. They usually weren't the best-dressed guys in the house, and almost never the best looking.
It didn't hit me until I started picking up all kinds of women that there was a distinct format to my style, and that format is the foundation of my success. There are dozens of little things I do to enhance my game, but they alone do not get me laid. You have to bake the cake before you can put on the icing!
The Circle Format
One thing I noticed when I first started doing this is that losers the in a club would stand around and drink and watch, while guys with game would walk around and make things happen. The guys with lots of game would be sitting at a table with different beautiful women around them all night like they were famous. That is where I wanted to be, and I discovered that you have to put a lot of walking and talking to get to there.
The thing I like about most clubs and bars is that they are built in a way that creates a good flow around the inside, and you can usually walk around the whole place in a big circle without having to backtrack. Walking around the club in big circles is the basis of my format, and it's what you DO when you are walking around that makes all of the difference.
When you first arrive at a venue you have to set a presence for yourself, and it's important to get in the right state of mind before you walk in. Think of yourself as the owner of the club, because tonight, the place is yours! Say it aloud! Whenever I walk through the doors of a club, I stop, look around, and say 'MY HOUSE!'
After you are inside and you check you coat, get your drink, etc., start your walk around the club. When you see a girl or group of girls you want to meet, go in and say something funny or interesting that isn't something they have already heard ten times that night.
An example conversation could go like this:
Me: (serious look) Hey! Are you guys going to like me better the 3rd time you see me?
Girls: Huh? What do you mean?
Me: Well I've already walked past you guys twice and you guys haven't said hi to me or hello or grabbed my ass or anything! What's goin on?
Girls: (laughing) Hi my name's Jen, and this is Carrie. What's yours?
Me: Craig. Nice to meet you. Now, next time I see you all I'm going to expect a warm welcome!
Here comes the MOST powerful part of this technique. After you exchange a few laughs MOVE ON OUT! This is huge because every other guy they have ever met has leached on at the first sign of acceptance and tried to hang out with them all night! How desperate is that? By ending the conversation first you have shown them that you are a secure guy who doesn't care if he sees them again, or if they talk to other guys. And why should you? You have many more groups of women to approach!
The whole idea here is to get them laughing, show them you are a fun guy that they would want to hang out with, then leave with them wanting more! In sales this is called a takeaway.
Do the same thing with the next group. If a girl is by herself don't leave her out of the loop, but don't use that as an excuse to latch on. If a conversation is going really well with a certain group or girl, it is ok to keep it up, just make sure that you are the one to end it and that you end it while both of you are still laughing and having fun.
This structure eliminates a lot of mistakes and conveys a lot of important things. Lets take a look at what's going on here, and why this works:
You are showing every woman you meet that you are a fun guy with a great personality.
Since you are only talking to each group for a short time and you are the one that is ending the conversation, you show them that you aren't desperate for their attention and you create a challenge. You leave them wanting more!
You will be seen talking to lots of women, which will make you look desirable and create competition. This is known as 'Social Proof', and creates a presence with everyone around you.
· You are creating a familiarity with these women, so the next time you see them, it's like you are old buds! The hardest part is behind you!
Best of all, this format allows you to meet tons of women while naturally walking around the club having fun. You are going to have a GREAT time and meet LOTS of people!
I relate this structure to fishing, because it reminds me a TV special I saw once on sharks. When scientists want to catch some sharks to study, they dump a bunch of blood and fish guts in the water to get them all riled up. There's no real meat in there, but it lets the sharks know that there is something around, and it gets them alert and looking for food.
This is what you're doing with your initial approach and takeaway. You are letting the girls know you're in the house and that you are different from the rest of the guys, and you keep them wanting more. I think they said it best in the movie 'Swingers'. It's all about letting the girls know that you're money and you're ready to party!
Starting the Frenzy
By the time you are finished with lap number one you will probably have talked to 10-20 girls, some alone and some in groups. There is no set time frame for how long this should take, because every club is different and some conversations will last longer than others. Sometimes I will finish my first lap without doing any approaches because there are no hot women in the bar. In those cases the first lap is usually my last!
On your second go-round you are going to see a few or all of the girls you met on the first pass, depending on the size of the club. Of course some of them will be in the bathroom, on the dance floor, gone home, etc., but new girls are always emerging to take their places. Don't get lazy and leave them out of the fun!
The girls that you are seeing for the second time already have a good impression of you, and now they've seen you talking with lots of other women, so they view you not only as ok to be seen with, but also as desirable to the opposite sex. I don't need to tell you that this is a good thing!
Now that you have gotten things brewing, it's time to pull out the bait and see if she grabs it! Your bait is what you do when you see a girl or group of women you have already approached. The goal here is to have a conversation start naturally, like it would if you had met them before.
Your bait can be the same type of thing you did the first time (Eg. Get her laughing with a joke about something in the club, tell a short funny story, ask her a question, etc.) or something on a smaller scale, like a look and a smile. Other things you could do would be to give her a high five, touch her glass with yours as you walk by and say 'cheers', or my personal favorite, and accuse
her of following you, and tell her to stop!
From now on every time you see her throw her some kind of bait and see if she grabs on to it. By throwing the bait you are giving her an easy way to start talking to you, and that is what you are waiting for. For instance, if you make a joke, see if she makes a funny comment back. If you touch her glass and say 'cheers', she might ask you what you're drinking. She may say something unrelated to your bait, like 'Nice necklace' or 'Where did you get that ring?' If she asks you a question it's always a good sign. One that I here all of the time is, 'You look familiar' 'Where do I know you from?' To this I answer, 'Do you watch adult movies?'
If she doesn't take the bait keep on walking! Some girls will take the bait right away and a conversation will start naturally, and other conversations might not happen until you have seen them 5 or 6 six times. That's a good thing, because every time you see her you are reminding her about you and building anticipation.
The most important thing you are doing here that most guys miss is that you are setting yourself up as a challenge. People don't value what they don't have to work for, and to most women, especially attractive women, men are too easy!
Imagine if you were a beautiful woman, and you had guys kissing your ass and begging to be with you your entire life. It gets old fast, and when a woman like this meets a man who doesn't put her on a pedestal and makes her chase after him, it drives her crazy!
Every woman loves a challenge, and this will separate you from 99% of the guys out there. Ask a few girls you know about this, and ask them to describe how a man can be a challenge to them. You will gain some really valuable insight.
The familiarity that this method creates is one of the reasons why it is so effective. If you do your job on the first contact with a new girl, or group of girls, the next time you see them they will remember you and all of their walls will have come down.
This plays a HUGE part when you are dealing with groups, because when women go out they will naturally try to keep their friends together and keep them from getting hit on. If you approach the group as a whole a few times and show them what type of person you are, it will make it much easier to isolate your target when that time comes. Instead of the girls being cautious about their friend leaving, they will be jealous!
Reeling in the Fish
After a few rounds in the club you are probably going to have a one or two women that you have a really good feeling about. Maybe the two of you had a great conversation, maybe she 'accidentally' touched your arm a few too many times, or maybe she is just the hottest woman you've talked to all night. Either way, it's time to close the deal!
Now that you have it narrowed down it's ok to seek your woman out, and the sooner the better. Make sure you stick with the bait formula. When you find her say something funny, ask her a question, or make a comment about something to give her the opportunity to start a conversation.
If she's with her group of friends, it's time to isolate her and make your move! You don't have to take her away from her friends completely, but it is important to get into a one-on-one conversation with her.
Remember, the main reason her friends may try to 'cockblock' is because they aren't sure if their friend is into you and they want to 'save' her. Hopefully when you were making your rounds you talked to the group as a whole, or they at least saw their friend give you a positive reaction. This familiarity will give you a big advantage.
Ending Conversations
It's always good to end a conversation first, and a great way to do it is to say, 'Hey it was nice meeting you, I'm gonna catch up with my friends. Maybe I'll see you later.
Saying 'maybe' is very important. It shows that you don't care if you do see her again, and it leaves her wondering if you will. If you say, I'll catch up with you later, she knows that she is gonna see you again and it removes part of the mystery and the challenge that women need to feel attraction.
On Group Approaches and Cock Blocks
If a girl is with her friends but they are out of earshot or already talking to others, it is ok to single her out and talk to her by herself. If her friends come back and interrupt don't worry about it. It's their job to watch out for their friend. Think nothing of it and include her friends in the conversation.
If one of her friends completely captures her attention for more than a few seconds, don't stand around like a puppy! If you were just throwing a little bait and the two of you hadn't really started talking yet, keep right on walking without saying anything. If the conversation was flowing nicely you can do one of two things.
Your first option is to end the conversation as you normally would, but shorten it to, 'Maybe I'll see you later' and walk away. If it's really on or it's getting late and your not sure if you will see her again, turn away at least 90 degrees and do something. Light a smoke, order a drink, check your phone, etc, and wait for HER to come back to YOU. If she doesn't come back, either start talking to someone else or walk away. When you see her again she will respect you for being your own person and not waiting around like a chump.
On-Going Cycle
The nice thing about this cycle is that it doesn't limit itself to one night, because you are always meeting new girls and throwing bait to old ones. I used to live in a smaller town with only 3 bars, and at the end of every night there would be certain girls that I had talked too only once and others that I had talked too 3 or 4 times a night for months.
Some of the girls would come around eventually and we would end up hooking up, while others became great bar buddies that would introduce me to their cute girlfriends! Damn I love this stuff!
When I moved to a bigger city I thought it would be different since there are literally hundreds of bars here, but I learned that every town has it's own bar scene and you will always run into a lot of the same people. The cycle continues!
The Natural Way
When I go out to a club I look like a normal, social guy that happens to get a lot of women. No one would ever label me a 'Lounge Lizard' or a 'Pimp', because to the untrained eye and the women around, it appears as though I am just hanging out like everyone else, and having a little bit more fun. This is very important because if a woman thinks you are a pick up artist and you do this all the time, you will have to work ten times harder to make it happen.
I have a friend that I go out clubbing with all of the time, but we never really talk about techniques since we have very different styles. He overheard me explaining this method to someone and said, “You mean you are actually doing something when you are walking around like that?†And I hit the town with this guy all the time!
This format is designed to be a natural way to meet women. If you want to grab a drink or have a smoke along the way, feel free. You are there to have a great time! If you run into some of your buddies, by all means stay and have a beer. If you run into some girls that you know, stay and chat longer because the other girls in the club will see you (social proof) and your girlfriends
may know some cuties that you should meet!
Lance Mason's New Product (Video)
This is a 2-1/2 minute video from the new Physical Confidence program by Pickup 101, done in the style of a Hollywood movie trailer.
It's pretty cool, I think you'll enjoy it.
This clip will give you a much better idea of what the Physical Confidence product is all about.
http://pickup101.com/physicalconfidence
It's pretty cool, I think you'll enjoy it.
This clip will give you a much better idea of what the Physical Confidence product is all about.
http://pickup101.com/physicalconfidence
Thursday, November 9, 2006
I've Never Had An Orgasm
I read that statement at the UK iVillage's Relationships Sex section today.
I found that pretty disturbing.
I remember one of the points Neil Strauss made, at the Mystery Method seminar in Vegas in response to a audience members question about women not sticking around after they've had sex, was "Is she having orgasms?"
Within the community we tend to be fairly self-improvement orientated which is great. We tend to put responsiblity in our own actions and not the womans. For the most part I think this is absolutely what we need to do. Sometimes, however a woman doesn't have orgasms like we would expect. I think the main cause of it, is an emotional connection and sexual technique.
In response to that woman's question... the following was given (which I think is valid):
Donovan
I found that pretty disturbing.
I remember one of the points Neil Strauss made, at the Mystery Method seminar in Vegas in response to a audience members question about women not sticking around after they've had sex, was "Is she having orgasms?"
Within the community we tend to be fairly self-improvement orientated which is great. We tend to put responsiblity in our own actions and not the womans. For the most part I think this is absolutely what we need to do. Sometimes, however a woman doesn't have orgasms like we would expect. I think the main cause of it, is an emotional connection and sexual technique.
In response to that woman's question... the following was given (which I think is valid):
Don't panic. There's almost certainly nothing wrong with you or your partner. But unlike men, most women have to learn to have an orgasm because each woman has a slightly different way of getting there. And you have to experiment in order to find out what works for you.For an easy guide to sexual technique and the a guide to giving women that ultimate orgasm/s. Check out Secret Orgasm Tips that I've been referring guys to for awhile now.
The first thing to realise is that for most women, intercourse alone doesn't bring them to orgasm. The secret to female orgasm is the clitoris - a small sensitive part of your genitals just above your vagina, that's the equivalent of the tip of a man's penis.
Now when your partner is penetrating you, he usually won't be touching your clitoris at all. There are three ways you could get the stimulation you need. First, by getting so worked up before intercourse that you're nearly at the point of orgasm - and then penetration finishes you off. Second, by either you or your partner sliding your hand down and touching your clitoris during intercourse. Or third, by finding a position for intercourse that means your clitoris is being stimulated, because your man's penis touches it as he slides in and out. But as I said, all of these need a lot of experimentation.
Donovan
Physical Confidence (Video)
Check out the latest video from Pickup101. What do you guys think?
There's a sneak peek page at Pickup101's new Physical Confidence page below:
http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence/index.html
Coming soon... an Seduction Master's Interview with Lance Mason.
There's a sneak peek page at Pickup101's new Physical Confidence page below:
http://www.pickup101.com/physicalconfidence/index.html
Coming soon... an Seduction Master's Interview with Lance Mason.
Tuesday, November 7, 2006
3 Secrets of Meeting Women Online
If you've "tried" online dating, and not gotten the results that you wanted... or you'd like to learn how to write online personal ads that get MASSIVE RESPONSE, then go read this:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
***SUCCESS STORY***
Well I have to say I was a little skeptical about your book at first. I've never been very successful with women. I've always been the shy, quiet type that treat women like a prize and act like a wussy. Well after a few newsletters I decided to give it a shot. Well it all made sense to me so I got your CD series and it's even better then the book. So I decided to try the C&F method.
I've been on some dating sites for a few years and occasionally I would get a response. A little over a week ago I changed my profile so I wasn't such a wussy and pleading with women with how good of a catch I'd be (as most women say they want a nice guy) In less then a week, I've gotten 5 responses. It's amazing. I'm only about half way through with the CD's too can't wait to see what else they hold.
JN from NY
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, Ye of little faith...
Remember something.
Women are always INTERPRETING everything you say.
In other words, they want to know what things MEAN.
When you say, "I'm a great guy" in your profile, a woman reading it says to herself, "yeah, right... If you were a great guy, then you wouldn't need to SAY it. You're probably a loser who WISHES that he were a great guy."
On the other hand, if you write a Cocky & Funny profile that talks about how picky you are and that you're trying this online dating thing as a last resort because all the attractive women you meet bore you... then a woman will think to herself, "Ah ha! A challenge! I'll bet you that I can get his attention...".
Great job, and keep me posted on your future success stories.
David
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
***SUCCESS STORY***
Well I have to say I was a little skeptical about your book at first. I've never been very successful with women. I've always been the shy, quiet type that treat women like a prize and act like a wussy. Well after a few newsletters I decided to give it a shot. Well it all made sense to me so I got your CD series and it's even better then the book. So I decided to try the C&F method.
I've been on some dating sites for a few years and occasionally I would get a response. A little over a week ago I changed my profile so I wasn't such a wussy and pleading with women with how good of a catch I'd be (as most women say they want a nice guy) In less then a week, I've gotten 5 responses. It's amazing. I'm only about half way through with the CD's too can't wait to see what else they hold.
JN from NY
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Oh, Ye of little faith...
Remember something.
Women are always INTERPRETING everything you say.
In other words, they want to know what things MEAN.
When you say, "I'm a great guy" in your profile, a woman reading it says to herself, "yeah, right... If you were a great guy, then you wouldn't need to SAY it. You're probably a loser who WISHES that he were a great guy."
On the other hand, if you write a Cocky & Funny profile that talks about how picky you are and that you're trying this online dating thing as a last resort because all the attractive women you meet bore you... then a woman will think to herself, "Ah ha! A challenge! I'll bet you that I can get his attention...".
Great job, and keep me posted on your future success stories.
David
Sunday, November 5, 2006
PickUp 101 Then & Now
Hey guys.. check this out!
Here's a behind the scenes look at one of the top workshop companies in the community, something you rarely get to see.
Lance Mason (PickUp 101) is getting ready to release a new product called "Physical Confidence". It's about body language, self confidence, inner game, and kino.
During an interview about this new home study program, Lance said this is the product he's always wanted to make, but it has taken over 2 1/2 years, thousands of hours, and at least one previous version that he was too embarrassed about to ever sell.
It wasn't the material that was bad, it was the production quality. And according to Lance, the original Body Language DVD was just a nightmare to get from idea to finished product. Besides involving a girl he was dating at the time as the videographer, 2 hours of material was lost when the laptop hard drive went to the great electronics depot in the sky. PickUp 101 was a labor of love back then, so Lance didn't really have money to hire a real editor and actually tried to do it himself before realizing the production was doomed.
"I was so excited about this project until we had a screening for some of my workshop clients. The guys were brutally honest about the production quality, and in retrospect their honest comments still drive me to constantly improve my products. What amazed me was every one of them said they would buy it in spite of how it looked, but I realized we could never release it as a product."
To show what he's talking about, Lance released these shots from the old version and also sent some from the soon to be released product. Cool! You don't often to get a peek behind the curtains like this.
And this is a part of community history here, Lance's original Body Language DVD was filmed in November of 2004. For those of you with short memories, that's almost a year before Neil Strauss released "The Game".
In these screen shots you can see just how... ummm... rough around the edges Lance's first attempt at making a product was.
It's funny to see Lance speaking on camera for the first time. He get's the information across okay, but seems a little flat onscreen. His example student, Nate, was even funnier, he truly needed Lance's help (as an aside, Lance worked with this guy extensively and he went on to become an instructor. He even did demo's of some really tough sets on the Fearless First Impressions product. Hard to believe watching him in this video...)
Lance Mason's Orginal Body Language DVD
Nice Curtains...
And this one. A girl Lance was dating helped film this thing (probably Lance's first mistake). Look at her sticking the other camera in the frame of the shot!!!
Lance Mason's Original Body Language DVD
Now That's Professional Camera Work...
One good thing, at least Lance was dating hot chicks, even if they aren't so good at videography
Lance Mason's PickUp 101
She Definitely Works Better In Front of the Camera
Funny thing is, as goofy as this original body language DVD is, it's still the best thing I've seen on how to quickly change your body language to radiate confidence with women.
Contrast then & now.... The new version was shot on location at Project San Francisco by a professional audio/video crew during a 2-day special topics workshop (The original was filmed in Lance's bedroom with sheets as a background). Over 30 men were in the audience (not just Lance's roommates snickering as they passed his room).
Also in the new version, Lance has 3 hot women who are front and center contributing to the content instead of being 'behind the scenes'.
Here are some shots from the soon to be released Physical Confidence body language program.
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence Program
Lance Makes A Point For The Guys
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
Insight From The Lovely Ladies
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
The Reward For Having Good Body Language
Now the best part about all this is that Lance told me that he's agreed to release his grungy old ORIGINAL body language video along with his shiny new Physical Confidence program. He's ONLY doing this for the guys who pre-order the Physical Confidence program in it's pre-release before Thanksgiving.
I don't know about you... but I can't wait to get my hands on the newer edition...
Here's a behind the scenes look at one of the top workshop companies in the community, something you rarely get to see.
Lance Mason (PickUp 101) is getting ready to release a new product called "Physical Confidence". It's about body language, self confidence, inner game, and kino.
During an interview about this new home study program, Lance said this is the product he's always wanted to make, but it has taken over 2 1/2 years, thousands of hours, and at least one previous version that he was too embarrassed about to ever sell.
It wasn't the material that was bad, it was the production quality. And according to Lance, the original Body Language DVD was just a nightmare to get from idea to finished product. Besides involving a girl he was dating at the time as the videographer, 2 hours of material was lost when the laptop hard drive went to the great electronics depot in the sky. PickUp 101 was a labor of love back then, so Lance didn't really have money to hire a real editor and actually tried to do it himself before realizing the production was doomed.
"I was so excited about this project until we had a screening for some of my workshop clients. The guys were brutally honest about the production quality, and in retrospect their honest comments still drive me to constantly improve my products. What amazed me was every one of them said they would buy it in spite of how it looked, but I realized we could never release it as a product."
To show what he's talking about, Lance released these shots from the old version and also sent some from the soon to be released product. Cool! You don't often to get a peek behind the curtains like this.
And this is a part of community history here, Lance's original Body Language DVD was filmed in November of 2004. For those of you with short memories, that's almost a year before Neil Strauss released "The Game".
In these screen shots you can see just how... ummm... rough around the edges Lance's first attempt at making a product was.
It's funny to see Lance speaking on camera for the first time. He get's the information across okay, but seems a little flat onscreen. His example student, Nate, was even funnier, he truly needed Lance's help (as an aside, Lance worked with this guy extensively and he went on to become an instructor. He even did demo's of some really tough sets on the Fearless First Impressions product. Hard to believe watching him in this video...)
Lance Mason's Orginal Body Language DVD
Nice Curtains...
And this one. A girl Lance was dating helped film this thing (probably Lance's first mistake). Look at her sticking the other camera in the frame of the shot!!!
Lance Mason's Original Body Language DVD
Now That's Professional Camera Work...
One good thing, at least Lance was dating hot chicks, even if they aren't so good at videography
Lance Mason's PickUp 101
She Definitely Works Better In Front of the Camera
Funny thing is, as goofy as this original body language DVD is, it's still the best thing I've seen on how to quickly change your body language to radiate confidence with women.
Contrast then & now.... The new version was shot on location at Project San Francisco by a professional audio/video crew during a 2-day special topics workshop (The original was filmed in Lance's bedroom with sheets as a background). Over 30 men were in the audience (not just Lance's roommates snickering as they passed his room).
Also in the new version, Lance has 3 hot women who are front and center contributing to the content instead of being 'behind the scenes'.
Here are some shots from the soon to be released Physical Confidence body language program.
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence Program
Lance Makes A Point For The Guys
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
Insight From The Lovely Ladies
Lance Mason's Physical Confidence
The Reward For Having Good Body Language
Now the best part about all this is that Lance told me that he's agreed to release his grungy old ORIGINAL body language video along with his shiny new Physical Confidence program. He's ONLY doing this for the guys who pre-order the Physical Confidence program in it's pre-release before Thanksgiving.
I don't know about you... but I can't wait to get my hands on the newer edition...
Friday, November 3, 2006
The Need For Lifestyle
I think I'll briefly cover an important topic that many men within this community often overlook.
It's the concept of lifestyle.
We all know that being rich and famous would attract the woman of your dreams... well, atleast a physically attractive woman. The question is... if you aren't rich and famous and leading a royalty lifestyle, what should you do?
Create it.
I recently held a party at my house that had over 3500 people attend. Having this event gave me all kinds of attractive stories, conversational topics, and social pull.
There's a trick, you have to beware of the woman that wants the 'man of the hour'. Typically, these are women who flock to you, without ANY effort on your part. Not wheat, just tares.
Unless you feel like having a roller coaster of a relationship, stay clear of these women.
Back to what I was talking about.
Imagine you were a woman. Would you want to be with a guy who works, comes home, watches some TV, goes to a bar, comes home, and repeats daily?
I hope not.
You need to start generating a lifestyle that you want to live. Something that you want to portray about your personality. Something Stephen Nash told me was, how you use your time, directly illustrates to your mind and to others how you value yourself and who you are.
I've foudn this to be true, 99% of the time.
When we feel depressed or unattractive, it's because we're really not doing the things we NEED to do with our time.
Like...
Traveling.
Like...
Taking up a new hobby.
Like...
Going for a hike through a forest.
Like...
Checking out that beach you've never been to.
The list is endless.
You'll notice when you start fulfilling these goals that you have, you'll start to see much better results with women.
Why?
Because you'll have more to talk about, more experiences, and you'll qualify her better. You'll want similar qualities in the women you date.
That's where its at. Experiencing life with them.
The definitive guide to lifestyle generation is found in Stephen Nash's (PlayboyLA) book, How To Get A Girlfriend, easily the best book on the topic, along with natural game social skills and how to portray your lifestyle in an attractive way.
Donovan
It's the concept of lifestyle.
We all know that being rich and famous would attract the woman of your dreams... well, atleast a physically attractive woman. The question is... if you aren't rich and famous and leading a royalty lifestyle, what should you do?
Create it.
I recently held a party at my house that had over 3500 people attend. Having this event gave me all kinds of attractive stories, conversational topics, and social pull.
There's a trick, you have to beware of the woman that wants the 'man of the hour'. Typically, these are women who flock to you, without ANY effort on your part. Not wheat, just tares.
Unless you feel like having a roller coaster of a relationship, stay clear of these women.
Back to what I was talking about.
Imagine you were a woman. Would you want to be with a guy who works, comes home, watches some TV, goes to a bar, comes home, and repeats daily?
I hope not.
You need to start generating a lifestyle that you want to live. Something that you want to portray about your personality. Something Stephen Nash told me was, how you use your time, directly illustrates to your mind and to others how you value yourself and who you are.
I've foudn this to be true, 99% of the time.
When we feel depressed or unattractive, it's because we're really not doing the things we NEED to do with our time.
Like...
Traveling.
Like...
Taking up a new hobby.
Like...
Going for a hike through a forest.
Like...
Checking out that beach you've never been to.
The list is endless.
You'll notice when you start fulfilling these goals that you have, you'll start to see much better results with women.
Why?
Because you'll have more to talk about, more experiences, and you'll qualify her better. You'll want similar qualities in the women you date.
That's where its at. Experiencing life with them.
The definitive guide to lifestyle generation is found in Stephen Nash's (PlayboyLA) book, How To Get A Girlfriend, easily the best book on the topic, along with natural game social skills and how to portray your lifestyle in an attractive way.
Donovan
Wednesday, November 1, 2006
New Pickup101 Product Soon
I've gotten news from high up in the Pickup101 crew that a new product guaranteed to knock our socks of is coming. Apparently it was video recorded/produced by some top notch video team.
Be looking back within the next few weeks for previews.
I hope everyone had a awesome halloween last night.
Donovan
Be looking back within the next few weeks for previews.
I hope everyone had a awesome halloween last night.
Donovan
How to Kiss a Girl
Question from a PickUp 101 student that I just had to share...
"I was out at the bars yesterday and really hit it off with a girl I met there. We started making out, but then she started talking about how important it is for a guy to be a good kisser. Does anybody know of any good resources out there on the subject of kissing and how to be a good kisser?"
The very best way to learn is to get as much experience as possible.
This is where a real girlfriend, as opposed to lots of random pickups, can come in handy.
I got my first real girlfriend at 15, and I remember our first date was a Def Leppard concert that ended with 6 straight hours of making out. No sex. Just kissing and learning what felt good.
And with every girl since then, I've spent more time kissing than doing anything else. So go ahead and take your time. It's ok to not know just what to do yet... you're supposed to learn this one from doing.
Don't waste time looking for books or how-to's or anything. You have the best resource in the world in a girl who will TELL you what she likes. Ask her, and then listen. She says to go slow, go slow. Use more lips, less tongue.
And most important, don't EVER take it personally when a girl suggests something to you to make kissing or sex or anything else more fun for her. She's not trying to hurt your ego. She's giving you a gift that most guys would kill for. Pay attention and practice. Really pay attention. It's all trial and error. If you touch a spot and she moans, remember that spot. If you bite on her lip just a little and she goes weak, that's a good sign. But all girls are slightly different, so there's no sure-fire technique that always works.
Learn the basics through practice, and look to practice all you can. Hell, tell girls how much you love just kissing, and how you love girls who really enjoy it too. Chances are they'll be interested in sharing the experience with you!
You'll get it, kid. I mean, people learned how to kiss before the internet, so there's got to be some way.
- Sean
P.S. Donovan here.... Thanks Sean for the post. I've done a lot of making out, a lot of it is INSTINCT, taking it slow, and seeing what SHE does. Normally, attractive girls probably have alot more experience, so take there lead. THREE pointers: 1. Don't be too forceful 2. Don't be to lax. 3. Be submissive, then aggressive, and vice versa. Seems to work well for me.
"I was out at the bars yesterday and really hit it off with a girl I met there. We started making out, but then she started talking about how important it is for a guy to be a good kisser. Does anybody know of any good resources out there on the subject of kissing and how to be a good kisser?"
The very best way to learn is to get as much experience as possible.
This is where a real girlfriend, as opposed to lots of random pickups, can come in handy.
I got my first real girlfriend at 15, and I remember our first date was a Def Leppard concert that ended with 6 straight hours of making out. No sex. Just kissing and learning what felt good.
And with every girl since then, I've spent more time kissing than doing anything else. So go ahead and take your time. It's ok to not know just what to do yet... you're supposed to learn this one from doing.
Don't waste time looking for books or how-to's or anything. You have the best resource in the world in a girl who will TELL you what she likes. Ask her, and then listen. She says to go slow, go slow. Use more lips, less tongue.
And most important, don't EVER take it personally when a girl suggests something to you to make kissing or sex or anything else more fun for her. She's not trying to hurt your ego. She's giving you a gift that most guys would kill for. Pay attention and practice. Really pay attention. It's all trial and error. If you touch a spot and she moans, remember that spot. If you bite on her lip just a little and she goes weak, that's a good sign. But all girls are slightly different, so there's no sure-fire technique that always works.
Learn the basics through practice, and look to practice all you can. Hell, tell girls how much you love just kissing, and how you love girls who really enjoy it too. Chances are they'll be interested in sharing the experience with you!
You'll get it, kid. I mean, people learned how to kiss before the internet, so there's got to be some way.
- Sean
P.S. Donovan here.... Thanks Sean for the post. I've done a lot of making out, a lot of it is INSTINCT, taking it slow, and seeing what SHE does. Normally, attractive girls probably have alot more experience, so take there lead. THREE pointers: 1. Don't be too forceful 2. Don't be to lax. 3. Be submissive, then aggressive, and vice versa. Seems to work well for me.
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