I liked this email for those guys that are getting into relationships from Lance at Pickup101.
I saw a headline today that said, "YouTube Serves Up 100 Million Videos A Day."
Now unless you've been living in some sort of cave you have probably looked at a youtube video at least once.
Probably more than once.
Some of them are hilarious (especially the recent ones about the infamous Zidane head butt), and some of them just plain suck.
But occasionally some one sends me a video that is actually painful to watch, and today was one of those occasions.
I got a link to this short clip that I thought was comedy about a guy breaking up with a girl. I figured the guy would get blown out and that was it.
Man was I wrong.
It starts off with a guy on the phone telling the girl that it's no big deal about the break up, and she should come get her stuff.
I'm thinking, this guy's got it right. Move on and get another girl right away.
But it gets worse quickly, and I mean downright ugly. There is scene after scene of this guy singing loves songs into her answering machine, crying into the phone while sitting in the bathtub, and practically stalking her to get her back.
I couldn't stand it!
I would rather listen to nails on a blackboard.
Listen I get a lot of questions from guys about how can they get this one girl back.
My advice forget about it! Or as I learned to say in New York... fagedaboutdit.
Let's review a few key points of attraction:
1. Attraction happens in an instant.
When you see the cute girl with the big booty in her tight jeans, you're attracted. It takes all of a few microseconds.
Attraction happens just as quickly for a woman, but for different reasons (so don't waste your time trying to squeeze your big butt into tight jeans).
The myth that you have to spend days or weeks to get a woman attracted is a load of donkey droppings.
The flip side is, if you don't keep her attracted, she'll find someone else.
2. Attraction is fleeting... it doesn't last without effort.
Just like when the women in the tight jeans is out of your sight and the next cutie walks
by, you've forgotten miss big booty.
So it is with a woman. If you can get them to talk about it, they'll tell you how many times a day they are attracted to guys. But it doesn't mean she will ever act on it.
And for relationships, once the attraction spark is gone... it's usually gone for good.
You will be wasting your valuable time trying to get her back attracted to you.
Why bother when there are so many women out there? Go get a new girlfriend, you'll be
happier.
3. Chasing is very unattractive
If you only learn one thing from me learn this valuable lesson.
Chasing is VERY UN-attractive.
You've probably already discovered when you pursue a woman, she gets less interested and more annoyed at you.
Think about how you feel, when a salesman won't leave you alone from the minute you walk in his store. All you want to do is look, and maybe get some info, and the guy is all over you like a cheap suit.
Well cute girls get that all day every day. Hell even average women get it every day.
So the second they think your chasing them, your screwed.
And please promise me you'll never beg a woman to come back to you. it's about the WORST thing you can do.
So maybe you are wondering what the heck you can do that gets attraction, and keeps it going, so you don't have to 'chase'.
The answer my friend is a simple six letter word... B A N T E R!
Banter sets you apart as being a man who is comfortable around women, enough to 'play' with her like she's an old friend.
Banter is one of the most powerful attraction triggers I know, and it's FUN!
And women NEVER get tired of it. You can use banter to keep your woman attracted just like she uses lingerie and mini-skirts.
If you want to see banter in action take a look at Surefire Attraction Secrets.
Now, go meet some women.
Your Friend,
Lance Mason
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Wednesday, August 30, 2006
Saturday, August 26, 2006
Tips for Internet Dating with Neil Strauss
Just a small clip from the Meeting Women Online program of David D's. I thought this would not get me in to much trouble with the "authorities". He gives an overview and is introduced. Check it out.
Thursday, August 24, 2006
Stephen Nash's (Playboy) New Podcast & Website
Hey guys,
Just got word from Stephen Nash (Cutting Edge Image Consulting) that he's launched a new website. It can be found here: www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com
Stephen also tells me he is starting a new podcast, you can also find that podcast link on his new website, along with a 94 minute audio file from a seminar. Cool.
If you aren't familiar with Stephen, he was Playboy from Neil Strauss' "The Game". He lived in Project Hollywood with all of it, and has some great stories to boot. I'm sure he'll probably start relating them on his podcasts and blog. I've interviewed him previously, a lot of the topics he discusses are often overlooked, like, lifestyle, being natural, social circles, etc.
Enjoy.
D
Just got word from Stephen Nash (Cutting Edge Image Consulting) that he's launched a new website. It can be found here: www.how-to-get-a-girlfriend.com
Stephen also tells me he is starting a new podcast, you can also find that podcast link on his new website, along with a 94 minute audio file from a seminar. Cool.
If you aren't familiar with Stephen, he was Playboy from Neil Strauss' "The Game". He lived in Project Hollywood with all of it, and has some great stories to boot. I'm sure he'll probably start relating them on his podcasts and blog. I've interviewed him previously, a lot of the topics he discusses are often overlooked, like, lifestyle, being natural, social circles, etc.
Enjoy.
D
Monday, August 21, 2006
Watch Seduction School Episode (Video)
Here is Wayne Elise in the much anticipated Seduction School hosted by England's Channel 4. Great watching, it certainly gets me pumped up for going into the field and overcoming anxiety. It is at times, painful to watch, but great to watch these guys progress. What it's all about. Empowering us.
Be nice on the comments guys, these blokes are coming from the ground zero! :)
Visit Wayne Elise's Charisma Arts.
Part 1/5
Part 2/5
Part 3/5
Part 4/5
Part 5/5
Be nice on the comments guys, these blokes are coming from the ground zero! :)
Visit Wayne Elise's Charisma Arts.
Part 1/5
Part 2/5
Part 3/5
Part 4/5
Part 5/5
Friday, August 18, 2006
Meeting Women Online, Getting Them To Call You
***QUESTION***
Dave,
Let me start by telling you, you 'da man! I really got to hand it to you, your stuff has given me confidence I've never had before, and I'm just trying to absorb as much of it into my head as possible. I really want to thank you for being able to share this stuff with guys like me and not keeping it to yourself.
There's just one thing wrong with your material: its way TOO CHEAP!!! Seriously Dave, I think WE'RE ripping YOU off! Thanks to you, I started to apply the Cocky and Funny in chatting rooms and in the real world, and it is a hell of a lot better than the Mr. Nice guy act. However, I use emails and chat to practice my Cocky and Funny and it is improving. For example, I have one trick I use and it works on a girl whether she's younger, older, or the same age as me.
I asked one girl her age, and she turned out to be as old as me, 21. I then replied by telling her "ahh forget it, your too young for me" I assume that this girl wasnt used to a rejection like this and she was intent on knowing how old I was. I told her that I was also 21, and she reacted like most girls do at this part, by laughing and turning into a stuck up and asking me how she could possibly be too young for me. I then respond saying something like "I guess your right, its not your age, you just wouldn't be able to handle me," then she reacts like most girls do at this point, continuing to be even more stuck up and laugh sarcastically, while I tell her that Ill give her a chance because she wants it so much, and she has 2 minutes to convince me she can handle me. Now this is a great conversation starter, and while she argues the fact that she can handle me, I occasionally send her teasing comments like, "honey, your wasting my time" or "Why are u not entertaining me" or ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz". I kind of understood how being Cocky works, and if the girl really meant the insults she said to me at first, she still wouldn't be talking to me, right?
After doing this to one particular girl, who turned out to be hot as hell from a pic she sent me, she completely forgot about being stuck up and told me "ok, Im sorry, lets start over" this is when I realized I had her in my grasp and I continued being Cocky but turned it down a notch, was this the right thing to do? Around the end I asked her for her email and she replied by telling me she cancelled it yesterday, a terrible excuse. I persisted and said "yeah sure, just type it down,
it'll be ok." she stuck to her story and I gave up and gave her my email which she "supposedly" wrote down. Now I know I probably shouldn't of backed down on her email, but I thought the conversation was going so great she would actually want me to
have her email. Is there something I did wrong for her to refuse giving it to me, and what other ways could I make a girl give me her phone # and/or email? Also, you stress how you should never answer a girls question directly, to leave her unsure. This happens to be my weakness and I would appreciate a few tips on this too.
Thanks for everything Dave, your reply would really mean a lot. W.C.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great story... and great job.
One thing you have to remember about chat rooms and online IM sessions is that they're great PRACTICE.
Now, I've met some UNBELIEVABLE women on the internet... so don't get me wrong here.
But don't worry too much about any particular girl... or any particular situation.
She could have had a boyfriend, or even a husband... and was just online because she was bored... or any of 100 other scenarios.
When something like this happens, just move on.
The point is that you're using the Internet for a GREAT "practice environment", and you're training your mind to be Cocky & Funny in the moment... which begins to translate into the REAL world as you do it.
To answer your question about how to get a girl to give you her email address and/or number, just do more of what you're already doing...
Keep throwing down the challenges...
Write back and say, "Yeah, you're probably not that adventurous".
She'll say, "Yes I am!"
Then say, "Well, if you were then you would have asked me for my number and called me already. But you're not. So you didn't...."
Keep this up until she asks for YOUR number.
Then, as soon as you hit the "send" button, IM her again quickly to say, "I don't hear my phone ringing! Hurry up!"
You'll love the results you get from this kind of thing.
But be careful. And get LOTS of CURRENT pictures. Take it from someone who knows... lol... don't just take her word for it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave man!!!!
I'm taking your advice and not being an ass kisser, so I won't say how much your book rules (even though it does). I'm seeing 2 girls and potentially 3, but I have some questions. First off, any advice when dealing with a really shy woman? It's tough to do some of the things like the kiss test when they're timid (but oh so cute). Second, the potential one I'm kind of interested in, but definitely not long-term, and I think she knows that, but I'd like to get to know her and have a little fun...any words of wisdom? Third, this may be covered in the book and I haven't
gotten to that chapter yet, but any style advice when it comes to clothing? I'm clueless there. Thanks in advance dude!
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'll answer them in reverse.
Yes, style advice is in the book. Turn to pages 33 and 34. Get the eBook here.
To contestant number 2, just keep on doing what you're doing. Women usually know what's going on, and she'll start making relationship noises if she really wants one. Until then, keep doing what's working.
And about the oh-so-cute shy girls: I know, I know... but you must remember that if you're the one that brings the shy girl out of her shell, she's probably going to want to marry you... and if she's not very experienced with guys, you might mess with her head too much. Do the right thing.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I was just wondering if you think it's a good idea to call a woman before a date to confirm or should I just show up at her doorstep and hope shes there? A while ago I had a date with a woman and I didn't call before I left to pick her up then when I got to her house she wasn't there. Do you call before the date to confirm?
Z. >From Florida.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's been so many years since I've gone out to a woman's house and picked her up for a first date, I can't even remember.
I recommend that you DO NOT do something expensive and typical like going and picking a woman up, taking her to dinner, etc. for a first date.
Instead, either:
1) Have her come to your place, and leave for a cup of tea from there.
2) Meet her at a coffee shop that's CLOSE to your place, and if she flakes out, you can still enjoy yourself and you're not far from home.
Another rule of thumb I have is to not make a date too far in advance.
I've found that often times, you can call a woman up and say, "Let's go get a cup of coffee RIGHT NOW".
It's rare that I would ever make plans more than a day in advance... this also helps prevent flaking.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
You DVD program has made me get up from the sofa and do something about my love life. No real success yet but I can now see beyond my fears and actually approach women.
As you recommended I started using the Internet as A 'women simulator', it's great and I think I'm doing fine with the cocky and funny stuff. For example, I call my self "too witty for you" and in my description I write "don't please don't... well
OK - are you cute?" and it works :-) Sadly, I can't give example from the chats since they are in Hebrew but you know... it's even funnier in Hebrew.
My question is simple: you said to move quickly from the chat to the phone. Well, do you have a "3 minute phone technique" adopted for the chats? (the problem is that I can't say something like "I going back to my friends" like I do in a bar).
Thanks,
U.W. from Israel.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Maybe you can work with me soon on the "Ultimate Comprehensive Guide To Cocky & Funny Online Chat In Hebrew".
I answered this question above, but loved your email so I had to include it.
When you're online, you have to REALLY go the extra mile and EXXXXXAGGGGERATE everything.
You can't just say "You seem cool, let's talk sometime".
You have to say "You're a pain. I'll bet you can't keep this up live on a telephone. You're probably too much of a scaredy-cat to even TRY it..."
Work it. Try things. You'll find that these kinds of challenges work VERY well online.
And if you really want to learn how to write a great online profile, flirt with women online, and get women to give you their numbers more often... then you need to check THIS out:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
Good luck,
David
Dave,
Let me start by telling you, you 'da man! I really got to hand it to you, your stuff has given me confidence I've never had before, and I'm just trying to absorb as much of it into my head as possible. I really want to thank you for being able to share this stuff with guys like me and not keeping it to yourself.
There's just one thing wrong with your material: its way TOO CHEAP!!! Seriously Dave, I think WE'RE ripping YOU off! Thanks to you, I started to apply the Cocky and Funny in chatting rooms and in the real world, and it is a hell of a lot better than the Mr. Nice guy act. However, I use emails and chat to practice my Cocky and Funny and it is improving. For example, I have one trick I use and it works on a girl whether she's younger, older, or the same age as me.
I asked one girl her age, and she turned out to be as old as me, 21. I then replied by telling her "ahh forget it, your too young for me" I assume that this girl wasnt used to a rejection like this and she was intent on knowing how old I was. I told her that I was also 21, and she reacted like most girls do at this part, by laughing and turning into a stuck up and asking me how she could possibly be too young for me. I then respond saying something like "I guess your right, its not your age, you just wouldn't be able to handle me," then she reacts like most girls do at this point, continuing to be even more stuck up and laugh sarcastically, while I tell her that Ill give her a chance because she wants it so much, and she has 2 minutes to convince me she can handle me. Now this is a great conversation starter, and while she argues the fact that she can handle me, I occasionally send her teasing comments like, "honey, your wasting my time" or "Why are u not entertaining me" or ZZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz". I kind of understood how being Cocky works, and if the girl really meant the insults she said to me at first, she still wouldn't be talking to me, right?
After doing this to one particular girl, who turned out to be hot as hell from a pic she sent me, she completely forgot about being stuck up and told me "ok, Im sorry, lets start over" this is when I realized I had her in my grasp and I continued being Cocky but turned it down a notch, was this the right thing to do? Around the end I asked her for her email and she replied by telling me she cancelled it yesterday, a terrible excuse. I persisted and said "yeah sure, just type it down,
it'll be ok." she stuck to her story and I gave up and gave her my email which she "supposedly" wrote down. Now I know I probably shouldn't of backed down on her email, but I thought the conversation was going so great she would actually want me to
have her email. Is there something I did wrong for her to refuse giving it to me, and what other ways could I make a girl give me her phone # and/or email? Also, you stress how you should never answer a girls question directly, to leave her unsure. This happens to be my weakness and I would appreciate a few tips on this too.
Thanks for everything Dave, your reply would really mean a lot. W.C.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Great story... and great job.
One thing you have to remember about chat rooms and online IM sessions is that they're great PRACTICE.
Now, I've met some UNBELIEVABLE women on the internet... so don't get me wrong here.
But don't worry too much about any particular girl... or any particular situation.
She could have had a boyfriend, or even a husband... and was just online because she was bored... or any of 100 other scenarios.
When something like this happens, just move on.
The point is that you're using the Internet for a GREAT "practice environment", and you're training your mind to be Cocky & Funny in the moment... which begins to translate into the REAL world as you do it.
To answer your question about how to get a girl to give you her email address and/or number, just do more of what you're already doing...
Keep throwing down the challenges...
Write back and say, "Yeah, you're probably not that adventurous".
She'll say, "Yes I am!"
Then say, "Well, if you were then you would have asked me for my number and called me already. But you're not. So you didn't...."
Keep this up until she asks for YOUR number.
Then, as soon as you hit the "send" button, IM her again quickly to say, "I don't hear my phone ringing! Hurry up!"
You'll love the results you get from this kind of thing.
But be careful. And get LOTS of CURRENT pictures. Take it from someone who knows... lol... don't just take her word for it.
***QUESTION***
Hey Dave man!!!!
I'm taking your advice and not being an ass kisser, so I won't say how much your book rules (even though it does). I'm seeing 2 girls and potentially 3, but I have some questions. First off, any advice when dealing with a really shy woman? It's tough to do some of the things like the kiss test when they're timid (but oh so cute). Second, the potential one I'm kind of interested in, but definitely not long-term, and I think she knows that, but I'd like to get to know her and have a little fun...any words of wisdom? Third, this may be covered in the book and I haven't
gotten to that chapter yet, but any style advice when it comes to clothing? I'm clueless there. Thanks in advance dude!
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
I'll answer them in reverse.
Yes, style advice is in the book. Turn to pages 33 and 34. Get the eBook here.
To contestant number 2, just keep on doing what you're doing. Women usually know what's going on, and she'll start making relationship noises if she really wants one. Until then, keep doing what's working.
And about the oh-so-cute shy girls: I know, I know... but you must remember that if you're the one that brings the shy girl out of her shell, she's probably going to want to marry you... and if she's not very experienced with guys, you might mess with her head too much. Do the right thing.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
I was just wondering if you think it's a good idea to call a woman before a date to confirm or should I just show up at her doorstep and hope shes there? A while ago I had a date with a woman and I didn't call before I left to pick her up then when I got to her house she wasn't there. Do you call before the date to confirm?
Z. >From Florida.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
You know, it's been so many years since I've gone out to a woman's house and picked her up for a first date, I can't even remember.
I recommend that you DO NOT do something expensive and typical like going and picking a woman up, taking her to dinner, etc. for a first date.
Instead, either:
1) Have her come to your place, and leave for a cup of tea from there.
2) Meet her at a coffee shop that's CLOSE to your place, and if she flakes out, you can still enjoy yourself and you're not far from home.
Another rule of thumb I have is to not make a date too far in advance.
I've found that often times, you can call a woman up and say, "Let's go get a cup of coffee RIGHT NOW".
It's rare that I would ever make plans more than a day in advance... this also helps prevent flaking.
***QUESTION***
Hi David,
You DVD program has made me get up from the sofa and do something about my love life. No real success yet but I can now see beyond my fears and actually approach women.
As you recommended I started using the Internet as A 'women simulator', it's great and I think I'm doing fine with the cocky and funny stuff. For example, I call my self "too witty for you" and in my description I write "don't please don't... well
OK - are you cute?" and it works :-) Sadly, I can't give example from the chats since they are in Hebrew but you know... it's even funnier in Hebrew.
My question is simple: you said to move quickly from the chat to the phone. Well, do you have a "3 minute phone technique" adopted for the chats? (the problem is that I can't say something like "I going back to my friends" like I do in a bar).
Thanks,
U.W. from Israel.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
Nice!
Maybe you can work with me soon on the "Ultimate Comprehensive Guide To Cocky & Funny Online Chat In Hebrew".
I answered this question above, but loved your email so I had to include it.
When you're online, you have to REALLY go the extra mile and EXXXXXAGGGGERATE everything.
You can't just say "You seem cool, let's talk sometime".
You have to say "You're a pain. I'll bet you can't keep this up live on a telephone. You're probably too much of a scaredy-cat to even TRY it..."
Work it. Try things. You'll find that these kinds of challenges work VERY well online.
And if you really want to learn how to write a great online profile, flirt with women online, and get women to give you their numbers more often... then you need to check THIS out:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
Good luck,
David
Thursday, August 17, 2006
Joe's Hidden Pickup Video
Someone emailed me this link to YouTube. I thought it was interesting, check it out.
This is Joe from Pickup101, as any sane person can tell from the video.
This is Joe from Pickup101, as any sane person can tell from the video.
Monday, August 14, 2006
Meeting Women Online (Video)
I'm also trying to get permission to post more video's from this DVD set online. Some copyright issues that I've gotta work on with David, but hopefully some sort clips of some cool stuff coming soon!
I managed to get the video trailer from David Deangelo's Meeting Women Online to keep you held over.
I've gotten a chance to listen to this DVD, and I gotta be honest here, this really is an indepth program. It makes living online so much funner when you get emails over Myspace in the morning with phone numbers in them. True stories.
I managed to get the video trailer from David Deangelo's Meeting Women Online to keep you held over.
I've gotten a chance to listen to this DVD, and I gotta be honest here, this really is an indepth program. It makes living online so much funner when you get emails over Myspace in the morning with phone numbers in them. True stories.
Sunday, August 13, 2006
Wayne Elise and Johnny Savior (Audio)
Channel 4 Radio in London has released some audio of Wayne Elise and Johnny Savior sarging women live. This goes along with the Seduction School TV Show that is currently airing in England on Channel 4. I'll be posting up a video link soon!
Download Mp3 (Right click save as)

Donovan
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Donovan
Stylelife Teleconference Call (Download)
Neil has posted an mp3 of the teleconference call going out to all the Stylelife Challenge "losers".
Check it out:
Download Here (Right Click, Save As...)
Check it out:
Download Here (Right Click, Save As...)
Friday, August 11, 2006
Field Report: Sean and Alyssa Milano
I just saw this over at the Pickup 101 blog. Thought it was quite cool and worth the read up!
Out in SF with the other guys from Pickup 101 in San Francisco working on the VIP follow-up coaching program.
My challenge for the night: do as many difficult sets as possible, especially sets that already have guys in them. So off we go to a famously swanky little lounge in a famously swanky part of town. Kind of place where women bust out the little black dress with the total intent to get noticed and have guys buy them drinks. In other words, perfect.
I roll in and move immediately across the bar to start with my favorite move... locate girls at bar and ask them if I can get in to get a drink. See lone hottie sitting at bar with bag next to her. Start talking. Move bag. Sit down. Banter back and forth.
She's leaning in, eyes sparkling, laughing at every joke. Good times all around. She starts telling me about her boyfriend who manages this bar. I'm now thinking that is a dude I do NOT want to get on the bad side of... and how perfect if I can get in with her and the man on the scene.
Suddenly, another girl comes walking right up, hugs her, and then turns to look at me, saying "you're in my seat." Now, girl #1 is cute, but this girl is a sassier version of Alyssa Milano. Long dark hair, tiny body, great boobs, great smile. Tommy likey. I reply "it's our seat now, darling. I'm all about sharing." She smiles and walks right into me (I'm sitting on a barstool facing her and her friend with my legs apart) and says "OK, but I always get to go first."
It...
Is...
On!
Fast forward a bit... girl#1's boyfriend shows up. We give a pound, I tell him these girls are just wearing me out with all their flirting and I'm so glad he showed up to help. He says he has to keep working, and now it's on me to keep them busy.
Basically, this is Jake Ryan giving Farmer Ted the keys to the Rolls.
He moves on and I take the two by the hand to the back of the bar where they have little curtained-off rooms. We get back there, and instantly one out-of-his-tree Australian dude comes up with two drinks in hand for Alyssa, saying "I told you I'd get you a drink, here they are." I take them from them, and thank him, and tell her to tell him how sweet that is.
She's eye-coding me with a "why is this drunk still here look," but I just chat and occupy him and send him on his way, with my arm around Alyssa the whole time. We sit in the booth, me and her and her friend, when suddenly up pops another dude. Big bald guy. A good 74 inches, good-looking, loud, alpha Bruce Willis type.
But not alpha like me, my friend.
I pop right up and say "What's up, man, I'm Sean. God damn are these girls trouble. I'm so glad you're here to help." He introduces himself and gives girls a big hug... then asks what are you drinking? I'm buying.
Alyssa turns to me and asks what do you want? I say that's so sweet of you to ask to buy me something, but he offered first. I tell Bruce I'll have a Bud. Alyssa busts me saying that's so gay, and only gay guys drink Bud. I say damn straight, just the gayest for me, then spank her on the ass. Her friend busts up laughing.
When Bruce returns with drinks, we all sit, and then I pull Alyssa up to stand with me next to the spot. We lean against the wall and talk. Low, quiet, intense.
I tell her why I moved here, how after losing the girl that I thought was the one I knew I needed to go live life as fully as I can. She tells me about her family. We don't talk much, or that deep, but it feels like more.
I keep her next to me. Tell her she has amazing lips, and that our first kiss will be a great one. She says "you are so confident..." and smiles.
Ask her her favorite body part, and she says her ass is world-class. I spin her around to check, feel, and confirm, and remind her "it's nice, but not quite as nice as mine." She smiles, I lean in and sniff her neck, whispering how she smells delicious, and nibbling her neck.
I feel her body go limp against mine.
I stay there for weeks.
Stand up. No kiss. Too public. Little more talk, and suddenly her friend pops up.
"We need girl talk."
I fumble a bit, snapped out of moment. "Uh, OK. You guys have your girl talk. Seriously, I need to go hang with my friends, you monopolized all my time."
I go back to front of bar and chat up everyone I can find. Practicing dude blowouts by walking up to mixed sets and saying to him "dude, i know you know this, but this girl is trouble." Then turn to girl and say "yeah you... you were supposed to watch out for me tonight, and then those two midget strippers were all over me, and where were you?" Great fun. Always gets me in with the girl and confuses hell out of guys. So I circulate and check back on Alyssa.
Gone. Look around back. Nope. Check front. Nothing.
KHHHHAAAAAANNNNN!
I am so pissed at myself. Rapport was going so well I totally forgot logistics, her friend, other guys, and general chaos of hopping bar in general.
Always get some close early just in case. Damnit. I acted all casual and now she's gone, and that real, solid, sexual connection just poof! up in smoke.
So I game a little more, but I'm bummed. Just a stupid !#@* on my part.
So I walk outside to lean against wall and smoke pensively. Chat with some other dudes out there and tell them the story... the one that got away.
Suddenly a flash in front of me... it's Alyssa, being led out by Bruce Willis.
Here's the sweet part.
He sees me and deftly moves her to his outside so he's in-between me and her. Nice footwork for a big dude.
Now she sees me` and waves her arm behind his back. There's something in her hand. I reach out without looking and take it.
She no-look passed me her card! Dude had no idea.
So what happened?
Call her card on the Monday following (work card). Chat her up at work. Fun, sexy banter. She's fun. Can't connect schedules for two weeks. Finally set up a date.
She drives across Bay to meet at my house. She arrives. !#@* dolled up. Just a lovely, lovely girl. I pick her up in a hug and tell her she smells great.
We walk inside so I can get by jacket. She pets my cute dogs. Says hi to rooommate. We walk out along flower-lined street to local pub to watch hockey (she loves the Sharks). I stop at one point and pin her against the wall and sniff her hair... then pull back and just look.
She can't take it. Reaches up to pull me in to kiss. I stop her... wait one second, then pull her back for a kiss.
Yep. Nothing better than a good-night kiss at the start of the date.
The rest?
Watch game. Drink beers. Chat with all my friends in bar. All my friends and bartenders hit on her and call her gorgeous. We walk home. I pull her into my room to show her something. Cue up end scene from Scrooged where Bill Murray is explaining the meaning of Christmas. Turn lights off, close door tight. No questions, no qualms. Behind closed doors. A gentleman never tells.
She is a lovely girl. Definite keeper material.
Lessons Learned:
Check out Sean's interview.
Out in SF with the other guys from Pickup 101 in San Francisco working on the VIP follow-up coaching program.
My challenge for the night: do as many difficult sets as possible, especially sets that already have guys in them. So off we go to a famously swanky little lounge in a famously swanky part of town. Kind of place where women bust out the little black dress with the total intent to get noticed and have guys buy them drinks. In other words, perfect.
I roll in and move immediately across the bar to start with my favorite move... locate girls at bar and ask them if I can get in to get a drink. See lone hottie sitting at bar with bag next to her. Start talking. Move bag. Sit down. Banter back and forth.
She's leaning in, eyes sparkling, laughing at every joke. Good times all around. She starts telling me about her boyfriend who manages this bar. I'm now thinking that is a dude I do NOT want to get on the bad side of... and how perfect if I can get in with her and the man on the scene.
Suddenly, another girl comes walking right up, hugs her, and then turns to look at me, saying "you're in my seat." Now, girl #1 is cute, but this girl is a sassier version of Alyssa Milano. Long dark hair, tiny body, great boobs, great smile. Tommy likey. I reply "it's our seat now, darling. I'm all about sharing." She smiles and walks right into me (I'm sitting on a barstool facing her and her friend with my legs apart) and says "OK, but I always get to go first."
It...
Is...
On!
Fast forward a bit... girl#1's boyfriend shows up. We give a pound, I tell him these girls are just wearing me out with all their flirting and I'm so glad he showed up to help. He says he has to keep working, and now it's on me to keep them busy.
Basically, this is Jake Ryan giving Farmer Ted the keys to the Rolls.
He moves on and I take the two by the hand to the back of the bar where they have little curtained-off rooms. We get back there, and instantly one out-of-his-tree Australian dude comes up with two drinks in hand for Alyssa, saying "I told you I'd get you a drink, here they are." I take them from them, and thank him, and tell her to tell him how sweet that is.
She's eye-coding me with a "why is this drunk still here look," but I just chat and occupy him and send him on his way, with my arm around Alyssa the whole time. We sit in the booth, me and her and her friend, when suddenly up pops another dude. Big bald guy. A good 74 inches, good-looking, loud, alpha Bruce Willis type.
But not alpha like me, my friend.
I pop right up and say "What's up, man, I'm Sean. God damn are these girls trouble. I'm so glad you're here to help." He introduces himself and gives girls a big hug... then asks what are you drinking? I'm buying.
Alyssa turns to me and asks what do you want? I say that's so sweet of you to ask to buy me something, but he offered first. I tell Bruce I'll have a Bud. Alyssa busts me saying that's so gay, and only gay guys drink Bud. I say damn straight, just the gayest for me, then spank her on the ass. Her friend busts up laughing.
When Bruce returns with drinks, we all sit, and then I pull Alyssa up to stand with me next to the spot. We lean against the wall and talk. Low, quiet, intense.
I tell her why I moved here, how after losing the girl that I thought was the one I knew I needed to go live life as fully as I can. She tells me about her family. We don't talk much, or that deep, but it feels like more.
I keep her next to me. Tell her she has amazing lips, and that our first kiss will be a great one. She says "you are so confident..." and smiles.
Ask her her favorite body part, and she says her ass is world-class. I spin her around to check, feel, and confirm, and remind her "it's nice, but not quite as nice as mine." She smiles, I lean in and sniff her neck, whispering how she smells delicious, and nibbling her neck.
I feel her body go limp against mine.
I stay there for weeks.
Stand up. No kiss. Too public. Little more talk, and suddenly her friend pops up.
"We need girl talk."
I fumble a bit, snapped out of moment. "Uh, OK. You guys have your girl talk. Seriously, I need to go hang with my friends, you monopolized all my time."
I go back to front of bar and chat up everyone I can find. Practicing dude blowouts by walking up to mixed sets and saying to him "dude, i know you know this, but this girl is trouble." Then turn to girl and say "yeah you... you were supposed to watch out for me tonight, and then those two midget strippers were all over me, and where were you?" Great fun. Always gets me in with the girl and confuses hell out of guys. So I circulate and check back on Alyssa.
Gone. Look around back. Nope. Check front. Nothing.
KHHHHAAAAAANNNNN!
I am so pissed at myself. Rapport was going so well I totally forgot logistics, her friend, other guys, and general chaos of hopping bar in general.
Always get some close early just in case. Damnit. I acted all casual and now she's gone, and that real, solid, sexual connection just poof! up in smoke.
So I game a little more, but I'm bummed. Just a stupid !#@* on my part.
So I walk outside to lean against wall and smoke pensively. Chat with some other dudes out there and tell them the story... the one that got away.
Suddenly a flash in front of me... it's Alyssa, being led out by Bruce Willis.
Here's the sweet part.
He sees me and deftly moves her to his outside so he's in-between me and her. Nice footwork for a big dude.
Now she sees me` and waves her arm behind his back. There's something in her hand. I reach out without looking and take it.
She no-look passed me her card! Dude had no idea.
So what happened?
Call her card on the Monday following (work card). Chat her up at work. Fun, sexy banter. She's fun. Can't connect schedules for two weeks. Finally set up a date.
She drives across Bay to meet at my house. She arrives. !#@* dolled up. Just a lovely, lovely girl. I pick her up in a hug and tell her she smells great.
We walk inside so I can get by jacket. She pets my cute dogs. Says hi to rooommate. We walk out along flower-lined street to local pub to watch hockey (she loves the Sharks). I stop at one point and pin her against the wall and sniff her hair... then pull back and just look.
She can't take it. Reaches up to pull me in to kiss. I stop her... wait one second, then pull her back for a kiss.
Yep. Nothing better than a good-night kiss at the start of the date.
The rest?
Watch game. Drink beers. Chat with all my friends in bar. All my friends and bartenders hit on her and call her gorgeous. We walk home. I pull her into my room to show her something. Cue up end scene from Scrooged where Bill Murray is explaining the meaning of Christmas. Turn lights off, close door tight. No questions, no qualms. Behind closed doors. A gentleman never tells.
She is a lovely girl. Definite keeper material.
Lessons Learned:
- Always be on point with everyone.
- Seduce the room and the ones you really want will just end up with you.
- Keep your head up and keep at it, because when it's working, nothing can stop it.
- And use every other guy as just another ally to make it clear that you, and only you, are the best man for her.
Check out Sean's interview.
Tuesday, August 8, 2006
How To Be Interesting To Women (Video)
This is an interesting video, which some of the newer guys might not have seen.
It's Mystery (Eric) talking about how we can become an interesting person. This philosophy really the foundation every type of "method" or "pickup". It's fundamental and something you should atleast know at some level.
Learn the Mystery Method's outline here.
It's Mystery (Eric) talking about how we can become an interesting person. This philosophy really the foundation every type of "method" or "pickup". It's fundamental and something you should atleast know at some level.
Learn the Mystery Method's outline here.
Donovan's Field Reports
Ok guys, I apologize, this blog has been rather commercialized of late. Although, this really did start out as a way for me to document the different pickup guru's advice, so I feel obligated to plug them when I post their thoughts and original ideas.
Ok, I have a confession to make. I just bought Season 2 of Entourage. What an awesome, well-written and great experience that is to watch. It's quite the distraction from posting. So I'll finish watching it, and get back to it!
Oh guys... Ive just completed a new "Seduction Master's Interview" that I'll be posting soon, and I'm in the works with a famous Double Your Dating seminar expert, and also "The Greatest Pickup Artist" in the world...
Anyways, here are some of my previous experiences that I have posted about!
Online Dating With Some of the Pitfalls!
Along Came a Model
Being Process Not Outcome Orientated
Don't Give Women Rope
Understanding Variation and Scarcity With Dating
Don't Let Your Stream Run Dry
Feel the love...
Donovan
Ok, I have a confession to make. I just bought Season 2 of Entourage. What an awesome, well-written and great experience that is to watch. It's quite the distraction from posting. So I'll finish watching it, and get back to it!
Oh guys... Ive just completed a new "Seduction Master's Interview" that I'll be posting soon, and I'm in the works with a famous Double Your Dating seminar expert, and also "The Greatest Pickup Artist" in the world...
Anyways, here are some of my previous experiences that I have posted about!
Online Dating With Some of the Pitfalls!
Along Came a Model
Being Process Not Outcome Orientated
Don't Give Women Rope
Understanding Variation and Scarcity With Dating
Don't Let Your Stream Run Dry
Feel the love...
Donovan
Monday, August 7, 2006
Great Conversation Topics For Dates
Great Conversation Topics For Dates
This was definitely something I liked this weekend from our mate David D.
***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***
Dave,
In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn 'what topics fascinate women.' I found this newsletter specifically interesting because ive found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing secrets," but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
M.G. Gainesville, FL.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
"THE HOW..."
Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women.
It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially.
It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY.
In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.
The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.
"THE WHAT..."
With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.
But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.
What topics do women PAY to hear about?
Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.
For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
- Drama
- Conflict
- Romance
- Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.
Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".
These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic
mind.
2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what's going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.
Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.
NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to discuss the BODY LANGUAGE of the people around
you... and comment on what it means.
3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named
Jennifer.
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.
It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then
volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually
lesbians.
But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you "feel me".
The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE
THEM.
The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're talking!
You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what
else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars
and your secret love: wrestling.
NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.
You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY
disappear.
Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.
If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.
If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.
If you'd like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use
for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Download it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
This was definitely something I liked this weekend from our mate David D.
***THIS WEEK'S QUESTION***
Dave,
In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn 'what topics fascinate women.' I found this newsletter specifically interesting because ive found myself in this same situation were when im on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing secrets," but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.
M.G. Gainesville, FL.
>>>>>>MY COMMENTS:
This is a great question.
There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:
1. The HOW.
2. The WHAT.
"THE HOW..."
Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women.
It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?
Well... partially.
It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY.
In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.
The HOW of conversation includes (but, is not limited to):
- Your body language
- Eye contact
- The Cocky & Funny style of communicating
- Flirting
- Sending mixed messages
- Directing the conversation
- Dealing with common questions and topics
...and many other things.
My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.
"THE WHAT..."
With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.
But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.
What topics do women PAY to hear about?
Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...
etc.
If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.
For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:
- Drama
- Conflict
- Romance
- Famous people and their lives
So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.
Here are a few ideas:
1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.
Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.
Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".
These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic
mind.
2. Find an interesting looking group of people and guess what's going on.
Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.
Then, start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.
Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.
NOTE: One of the best ways to do this is to discuss the BODY LANGUAGE of the people around
you... and comment on what it means.
3. Make fun of someone famous.
Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named
Jennifer.
All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.
It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.
4. Talk about other people's love lives.
Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then
volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.
Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after
you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually
lesbians.
But, make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.
...I think you "feel me".
The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE
THEM.
The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're talking!
You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what
else to do as you talk.
Oh, by the way...
Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars
and your secret love: wrestling.
NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.
You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY
disappear.
Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.
Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.
If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.
If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it.
If you'd like to get the basics of how ATTRACTION works, plus a good set of tools to use
for meeting and dating women, then go download my eBook "Double Your Dating". You can download it and be reading it in just a few minutes from right now. Download it here:
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/eBook/
I'll talk to you again soon.
Your Friend,
David D.
Wednesday, August 2, 2006
Meeting Women Online
Some of you guys who have been with me for a while now, are probably well aware of one of the best online dating resources we have. I got this email from David D about his Meeting Women Online DVD/Audio program. One of the best programs out there, in my opinion, even if Internet Dating is not "your thing", it has great conversational topics, with how to generate interesting conversations, and great insights into how to best present yourself. This stuff also works on Myspace, Facebook, Friendster, Adultfriendfinder, etc.
When I first started learning how to meet women and get dates, the internet was an AMAZING tool for me.
One of the great things about meeting women online is that you can literally do it ANYTIME... from anywhere...
It's also a great place to practice first conversations, Cocky & Funny humor, and escalating from "conversations" to DATES.
If you're interested in learning more about how to meet women online, then you should take a couple of minutes and check THIS out. Make sure you watch the video clips, by the way...
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
Let me know what you think.
Talk soon,
David D.
When I first started learning how to meet women and get dates, the internet was an AMAZING tool for me.
One of the great things about meeting women online is that you can literally do it ANYTIME... from anywhere...
It's also a great place to practice first conversations, Cocky & Funny humor, and escalating from "conversations" to DATES.
If you're interested in learning more about how to meet women online, then you should take a couple of minutes and check THIS out. Make sure you watch the video clips, by the way...
http://www.DoubleYourDatingProgram.com/e/10000/MeetingWomenOnline/
Let me know what you think.
Talk soon,
David D.
Tuesday, August 1, 2006
New Website
I've launched a new blog that is way different from this one.
It's more of me venting about popular culture and current affairs. Make sure you subscribe to the RSS feed because I'll be posting multiple times daily.
Have something to read in between breaks at work, and picking up girls. Also, show it to your friends and get the traffic rolling in. It's got alot of potential, and I think you'll enjoy it.
For the seducers out there: It will help you have more material when you talk to women.
Glory and Gore: Celebrity Gossip, and Current Affairs with Twist
Start commenting with your own thoughts on the current posts.
Donovan
It's more of me venting about popular culture and current affairs. Make sure you subscribe to the RSS feed because I'll be posting multiple times daily.
Have something to read in between breaks at work, and picking up girls. Also, show it to your friends and get the traffic rolling in. It's got alot of potential, and I think you'll enjoy it.
For the seducers out there: It will help you have more material when you talk to women.
Glory and Gore: Celebrity Gossip, and Current Affairs with Twist
Start commenting with your own thoughts on the current posts.
Donovan
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