Grungey10 (Seduction Masters Interview)

I go by the alias of Grungey10. I’m 21, born and raised in the Philippines until I was 17, migrated to California a couple of years back, and recently just moved to Arizona, arguably the hottest state in America.

My website: Learn how to meet women during the day- http://www.captivatetoconnect.com/

I remember having the biggest crush on this undiscovered beauty back when I was 12. She was playing soccer in the park. I was watching her for a couple of minutes then the perfect opportunity came. The ball flew over to my direction. I got the ball but there was no way I was kicking it back, she had to get it from me. See, I was a very mischievous kid. I would always play pranks on everyone and girls didn't scare me that much as needles did, so yeah. I succeeded in becoming her friend and everyone in my School hated me for it (in a good way of course). Later on I found out that her younger sister had a crush on me too, I ended up losing both of them due to my indecisiveness. I couldn't choose between them and it killed my chances. Oh what a heart break that was back then. I remember this incident very well because it was the first and last time (in my high school life) where I liked a girl and she actually liked me back.

1. Describe the moment, when you suddenly realized, "I need to work out this part of my life."

I could never forget that moment.

I had nothing when I first moved to the United Stated.

It all started three and a half years ago when I had to make a very important decision that would eventually change the rest of my life.

Should I migrate to the United States with my whole family and start a new life? Or should I stay with the one I love, my friends, my band, and the country I grew up in?

Fortunately, I was raised well by my parents. There's one thing that my mom would emphasize over and over again, as I grew up, and it's the saying that "blood is thicker than water on any given day". I took that saying to heart. I ended up moving to Los Angeles with no friends, no job, and unable to sign up for a community college (I was still waiting for my papers).

If I wasn't at home playing the guitar or surfing the internet I would be at the gym. That's what my life revolved around for awhile. I was bored, depressed, and celibate for a couple of months. Then I met this girl over the internet. Well, she kind of asked me out. Here's how it went.

We chatted for a week, she felt like we had a connection so she asked me out to coffee. I was actually surprised because it was the first time I’d been out on a date for years back then.

It turned out to be a double date. We were going to be with her roommate and this one other guy. We finally meet. She was cuter than the online picture, so I can't complain about that. She offered to buy me coffee with her Starbucks card but I refused (What the hell was I thinking?!).

We ended up staying there for 2 hours. In those 2 hours, I didn’t say more than 30 words.

So what happened?

The whole time, the other guy took control of the situation. He would tell stories about his life, make jokes, and do fun things. He was doing a good job. He wasn't trying to make me look bad, as a matter of fact he tried to get me to open up several times, I just couldn't. I didn't have the skills.

Then it suddenly hit me. I lost most of my social skill due to the fact that my life revolved around 1 girl for 3 years. I was lost. The only reason why I was able to attract her is because I was communicating with her over the internet. I had time to think about the perfect things to say. I wasn’t shy to be myself at all because I couldn’t see who I was communicating with. That was the problem. I couldn’t be me.

I knew I was a cool and interesting guy. I just didn’t know how to convey my good qualities.

After the date she hurried home. I didn't hear from her ever since.

That's when I realized that something had to change. I looked for resources online until I stumbled on David D. That's what started my quest for self improvement. I knew something had to change. I knew I needed to improve myself. I wasn’t going to stop until I was satisfied with my results.

2. Have you had any mentors within the community/life that have helped you improve your game, and what did they teach you?

Unfortunately, I didn't get the chance to have any mentors to guide me through my journey. I couldn’t afford it back then. It would have been cool though. It definitely would have accelerated my learning curve. I learned through books, DVD’s, experiences, failures, and modeling friends that were successful with women.

It took me awhile to implement the things I learned. If there was one thing I hated the most... It had to be failure. I just couldn't stand it. That hatred motivated me to work really hard on improving myself. I knew there wasn't a quick fix. There was no magic pill that would make me successful with women overnight. I had to work on myself on a daily basis. I needed to turn my life around.

That's when I started to put the theories into practice. It wasn’t easy though. It was probably the most challenging thing I've ever done in my entire life.

I had to practice everything I learned. Soon I turned myself into a social butterfly. I would talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere. After getting learning how to be social with everyone I started to specialize in the girls that were attractive to me.

So the quest began.

Every time

I saw a girl on the street... APPROACH
I saw a girl in the gym... APPROACH
I saw a girl in the mall... APPROACH
I saw a girl going in her car... APPROACH
I saw a girl in the library... APPROACH
I saw a girl on the beach... APPROACH
I saw a girl with her boyfriend... APPROACH
I saw a girl behind the counter... APPROACH

I became unstoppable during the day. It was pretty scary. It became something I’d look forward every time I went out of the house. It became a habit. There were a lot of bumps along the road. A lot of sticking points but giving up wasn’t an option. I hated failure so much that every time I screwed up, it was back to the drawing board. It was back to learning how to handle the new obstacle and this continued until I got consistent results with women of great quality.

I didn’t let it rule my life though. I wasn't there to drop everything in my life and become someone else. I was there to improve myself and develop the skills to convey my personality in an attractive way. I started pursuing the things I was passionate about. I started living a more interesting life. I started to become a renaissance man.

I studied everything and anything that piqued my curiosity. After all, if I wanted to get good at this might as well learn everything inside and out. I didn't want to be that guy that depended on "The Script" the whole time. I wanted to be that guy that’s naturally just irresistible and interesting to women.

I went out several times during the week. I tried meeting women in all places during the day time. I went to malls, beaches, college campuses, parks, bookstores, streets, coffee shops, libraries, you name it I’ve done it. I talked to everyone regardless of their age, gender, or occupation. After all, I believe that success in picking up women can be attributed to the manner of communication used in the conversation. That’s all it is.

I repeat.

In my experience, success in picking up girls, building relationships, and getting what you want out of life depends on your communication skills. This includes the verbal and non verbal aspects of communication.

3. Can you describe the first time you used a counter-intuitive routine that yielded it's promised results, and how you felt?

First of all, I’d like to give you guys a brief background on how I came across a powerful counter intuitive routine that yielded great results for me. Well, actually it isn’t a routine. It’s more of a mindset.

I remember having this one friend who was just simply phenomenal with women. He was a natural. He always had women starting conversations with him and they all ended up chasing him afterwards. He’s this fairly good looking, tall, curly haired, guy that kind of resembled Brandon Boyd (the singer of Incubus).

I learned a lot from this guy.

There were things that I witnessed first hand that blew my entire reality away. It got even crazier when I started incorporating the things I learned from him in my game. Before I get to that, I’d like to mention a couple of things I noticed about this guy.

HE HAD A TAKE IT OR LEAVE IT ATTITUDE WHEN IT CAME TO MEETING WOMEN

This is the most important thing I learned from him. It’s so counter intuitive. I learned that the more you demonstrate that you’re willing to walk away from a woman, the more she’d want you to stay with her.

This was probably one of the biggest things this guy had going for him. It was his belief. It was the way he viewed life. He never felt like he had to impress anyone. He never placed girls on a pedestal. Don’t get me wrong, every time we’d see a hot girl he’d be like “Damn, she’s fucking hot” but that wouldn’t be apparent when she started talking to him. As a matter of fact he taught me four things when it came to meeting women in exchange for guitar lessons.

First Lesson: Always act disinterested in her. Never ever show that you’re head over heels for her at the beginning. Once you let her know she has you. It’s over.

Second Lesson: Never be afraid to spark tension in any relationship. Always call a woman on her shit early on and don’t be afraid to lose her.

Quick story, there’s this one time where I saw this theory in action. It was after this group date we had. She was with her friends and I was with him. We were supposed to head out to the mall after dinner. He wanted her to ride with us instead of her friends. Here's what happened:

My friend: Come ride with us

Hbfriend's Date: Uhm, hold on let me ask my friends real quick

My friend: Cool, hurry up. (he then turns to me and says) "Watch this, I’m going to give her the ultimatum"

Hbfriend's Date: Well, I don’t think I can ride with you guys. My friend's aren't comfortable with that because I just met you. I’m sorry.

My friend: First of all Hbfriend's Date, I’m the one you're going to a date with not your friends. We’re trying to get to know each other. Second you're 19 not 8, I'm sure you can make your own decisions without your friends by your side. If you're friend's will end up making a decision for you all the time then I don’t think this is going to work out between us.

Hbfriend's Date: No, no, I didn’t mean it to come across that way. I really want to ride with you it's just that they’re concern about my safety. I’ll let them know that it’s alright ok? I’ll talk to them.

(She comes after 5 minutes and rides with us)

Third Lesson: Always let her know indirectly or directly that you have other options. It's going to be her loss if she didn't get to date you.

Fourth Lesson: Always act confident in everything that you do. If you're going to go for the kiss just do it. Even if you're uncomfortable just do it. If you're nervous then you should learn how to hide it. Never show any signs of indecisiveness.

I experienced a lot of positive results ever since I started to be indifferent towards the outcome. Every time a girl would mention something she didn’t like about me I'd say "You can take it or leave it, it's up to you, either way I'll be happy". I took that mindset to heart and my whole world change since then.

There were dozens of other things I picked up from this guy. I’ll share them with you another time.

4. Could you describe what you're life was like before you were aware of this, and/or what options you have with women now?

My transition to being attractive to women...

I'd usually end up getting with a girl after a few months of knowing her. It would always start out with me befriending her, then I would take her out, then she ended up liking me. I could only talk to a girl if she was introduced to me. Picking up a girl that I didn't know was completely foreign to me. I doubted it was possible.

Even though I've had some success back then, it still sucked for me big time. I always had to settle for something less. I never really got the kind of girl that I wanted.

But now, I have no problems with talking to anyone, anywhere, anytime. Finding a girl was hard for me because I'm really picky. I have this whole checklist of qualities that I look for in a girl. The shallow ones are: She had to be older than me, taller than me, and blonde. After a few years in the game it finally paid off. I met my match. The best part about it is that I never used a single routine to get her. I was able to drop the training wheels and still get similar results. Ever since then, I’ve been teaching guys how to duplicate my results through my step by step, easy to use, system of picking up women during the daytime.

5. What was your hardest/biggest sticking point?

This is easy. My biggest sticking point was my limiting belief that it was impossible for me to date someone that was older than me, taller than me, and blonde (occasionally brunettes). It took some time before I actually got over it.

Everything was different back where I was from. Everyone there placed blonde people on a pedestal. It’s crazy but it's true. I remember instances, when I was growing up, where I'd see a blonde girl walk through the mall and all the heads would instantly turn towards her direction. People would be walking out of her way and a lot would be mesmerized just by her mere presence. It was ridiculous but that’s the society I lived in.

When I first moved here it was one of my biggest sticking points. I've identified it as a problem but it wouldn't go away. That’s when I decided to challenge myself. I wanted to prove myself wrong. I wanted to prove everyone wrong. Since then I decided to only date girls that are older than me, taller than me, or blonde. It was a self fulfilling prophecy. I realized that it was a stupid limiting belief. It was just all in my head. The reason why I wouldn't be successful in the past was because I expected failure. It was all negative thinking which wasn't productive at all.

Ever since then I've converted a lot of guys from skeptics to believers. Believers that it can be done. Believers that it is possible to get a girl through personality and communication. Being a minority isn’t a problem at all. Being Asian will only work against you if you believe that it does.

6. Do you have a favorite routine/step in your model, can you describe it, and what it accomplishes?

It's actually a phase not a routine. It's what I call emotional connection. Emotional connection is what I call The Heart of Day Game.

A lot of guys out there focus too much on attracting girls and making them laugh. But there’s more to attracting a girl then just making her laugh.

How often do you think a girl laughs in a day?
- Someone tells a joke, she laughs
- Her friend makes a funny sound, she laughs
- Something embarrassing happens, she laughs
- Someone tells a story, she laughs
- She spends time with her family, she laughs

A girl laughs several times in a day. It's something common. If you can make a girl laugh then you definitely got an advantage, and a couple more minutes to talk to her but it shouldn't stop there. You should be able to build an emotional connection with her too.

I have a theory on the power of emotional connection. Let’s step into a girl’s shoes for awhile.

Growing up, she probably watched her share of Disney or romantic movies where there’s this prince charming that's different from everybody else. She’s been dreaming of this guy ever since she was a kid. This guy who would just sweep her of her feet, connects with her on a deep level, and gives her the experience of a lifetime.

High school comes and this prince charming never arrives. Well, a couple of chumps might come along the way but never the one she's been dreaming about. Then she probably tells herself: "You know what, I’ll just settle for what's available. After all you can only find guys like those in movies". After that realization, she'll go for the guys that everyone else desires. She'll probably settle for guys that can satisfy her logically, physically, but never emotionally. Years pass by and she's forgotten about her dreams.

Then you come along.

How often does a stranger walk up to a girl in a confident manner, and instantly make her comfortable? Makes her laugh a little bit and then connects with her logically, emotionally, and physically. They end up opening there souls to one another on the very first day that they meet. He taps into a certain side of her that’s been unavailable to most guys all these years. He relates to her on all levels and thus an emotional connection is born. He ends up creating an emotional connection that is so strong that she ends up remembering him all her life.

This is very powerful.
This can't be faked.
It’s an acquired skill that I help my students develop

7. Have you had the experience yet, where you feel that you've reached a certain degree of mastery? Can you explain the time, and how you got the realization?

My biggest realization is that you can break all the rules and still get the girl. You don't have to have the best opener in order for the girl to talk to you. Sometimes "Hey, What’s going on?" or "I like you shirt, you have awesome style" would work wonders for you.

It’s not a crime to ask boring rapport questions like "So, where you from?" or "What do you do for a living?" if you know where you're leading the conversation.

A lot of people get sucked in into thinking that there's a certain way that things should be done and anything else other than that is just plain wrong. It took me years to realize that anything will work if you do it right. A girl's attraction towards you is caused by the way you carry yourself and the things you communicate by your body language, voice tonality, facial expressions, mannerisms, and emotional projection. I know it's been said a lot but the words you say aren't nearly as important as to how you say it. I believe that being comfortable with expressing oneself and beliefs combined with the right frame of thinking and execution will produce amazing results when done right.

Being able to just act cool and natural and still generate attraction consistently with women is a level that I’m glad I’ve reached.

8. What advice would you give to newbies starting out, in order to greatly accelerate their learning curve?

There's a process that you will go through in learning everything you need to know in order to be successful with women. This is an ongoing and repetitive process. This will go on until you get to the point where you're satisfied with your skill level.

Discover: You have to gather as much information as you can on the subject matter. It is very important to have access to the right information. There's a lot of stuff out there that will actually work against you. You have to be smart with your choices. Remember that information is not power but potential power.

Plan: You have to come up with a SOLID GAME PLAN. A plan that will get you to where you ultimately want to go. It's going to be broken down to years, months, weeks, and days.

Act: Gathering information and creating a plan alone won't get you anywhere. You need to be able to carry out the plan and religiously stick to it until you see results. This is the stage where a lot of people just give up. They give up because there's no one out there helping them out. There's no one out there to point them to the right direction. There's no one out there critiquing them on their strong and weak points.

9. What's your belief on inner game, and how did you improve it?

Working on both inner and outer game, at the same time, helped me in my overall progress. It’s important to have a balance between the two. Working your inner game first will eventually get you the results you want but it’s going to take time. Working on your outer game first would build your confidence and increase your inner game but you’ll still need to work out some inner game issues in the end. Working on both simultaneously creates magic.

10. Do you have a personal favorite field report (your own) that you could relay?

There was this one incident in my workplace. She was this tall, attractive girl who worked in the cosmetic section (later on I found out she was a stripper). In the past I would always try to just talk to her and push it as far as I could. This time everything was different.

It was break time. She was sitting down in the eating area. I was getting a drink from the vending machine. Here’s how it went:

Grungey10: (gets drink)
Hbstrippercoworker: Why are you drinking diet coke? (in a sarcastic tone)

Grungey10: Ohhhh baby… Ohh baby… I have to keep this sexy little body so I can impress you, remember? Or else you won’t find me hot anymore (smirks and ignores her for a bit)

Hbstrippercoworker: Omg, you’re so cocky… rolls her eyes, giggles, and continues reading her magazine.

Grungey10: (I Pull a chair in front of her, Put my feet up on a chair, eat her chips then I say) what you reading?

Hbstrippercoworker: (looks at me, pushes the magazine towards me and says) Well I think you should read it. You probably need it. *It was an article titled “How to please a woman every time”*

Grungey10: Oh that's cute. You’re moving a little fast for me though. I don’t put out that easy, I'm a high maintenance slut. You’d have to wine me and dine me before I put out. Nice try, you're too cute for me though. If you were a few inches taller, I'd consider it. Oh well, that's life… so sad… Sucks, but yeah...

Hbstrippercoworker: Omg you're such a jerk… lol… so how old are you?

Grungey10: the question is, how old are you?

Hbstrippercoworker: Uhm just turned 18

Grungey10: ooohhhh barely legal. Well, you're too young for me. I like older girls.

Hbstrippercoworker: No really, how old are you?

Grungey10: old enough (I stand up and start walking away)

Hbstrippercoworker: (starts chasing me down the hallway) no really. How old are you? Come on don’t tease me.

Grungey10: Whoa… Slow down there kiddo, first you flirt with me and now you’re chasing me down the hallway. You’ve been watching way too much romantic movies haven’t you?

Hbstrippercoworker: You're funny, I like you. You can avoid the age thing all you want but we definitely have to hang out one of these days.

Grungey10: We'll see

(Later on during that day she walks up to me while I was in the middle of a sales transaction. She grabs my hand non chalantly, writes her number down, and walks away)

Grungey10: (Then I look at my customer and say) Girls nowadays, aiy ya yay…

(fast forward to 10 pm when the store closes. I get into my car and just before I could back up she shows up. Goes near my window, smiles, then flicks me off)

Grungey10: (I get out of my car she turns around, I get in her face) Hey, if you wanted to kiss me you didn't have to flick me off you know? You could have just said so and I would have gladly denied you of your request.

Hbstrippercoworker: You're too much for me too handle… come here (she kisses me)

I'll stop this field report here. If we ever meet you can ask me what happened afterwards =p

11. What is your current sticking point (if any)?

I'm working on building a huge social circle out here in Arizona. It's definitely been fun lately specially when all the hard work finally pays off and meeting people is as easy as crossing the street. My current sticking point has to do with toning down game for the college environment. I have to remind myself from time to time to tone it down. The main skills you should focus on, when gaming in college, are vibing, wide and deep rapport skills, story telling, frame control, and that’s sums it up. Anything else is overkill in my experience.

12. What are you goals now within the community, and in life?

I enjoy teaching guys how to communicate better with women. Like everything else in life; it's a skill. It's not something you're born with but something you develop later on. The guys that are phenomenal with women weren’t always like that. They had to learn it early on. They had to fail before they succeeded. They probably had good role models to look up to.

It's not hard at all to learn how to meet women during the day.

I've broken the process down to a simple, effective, and easy to use step by step system that goes from meeting a girl all the way to getting a number, kiss, instant date, and bringing her home the very same day.

If you want to be successful in meeting women during the day then

1. You must have drive, motivation, patience, and persistence.
2. You at least have to be passionate about getting good at this.
3. You must be willing to fail in order to succeed.
4. You will practice everything you learn in the seminar and integrate it into your life.

All of these will help you out in the long run.

Grungey10 has signed up to be our "Day Game Columinst" here at the Attraction Chronicles. He's already sent me a few articles, but I wanted to wait until you got to know him before posting them. Stay tuned, after the holidays they will be posted.
Captivate To Connect

Tynan's Angels

Remember Herbal (Tynan) from the Game? I've become good mates with him, and he asked me to make you all aware of a new project he's working on. I think it's kick ass, and a valuable addition to the community.

It's called Tynan's Angels.

The basic concept is women of exceptional beauty are chosen by Tynan to write columns about picking them up. Basically their field reports, pet peeves, strategies and inner workings. It's a great read. I think you guys will really enjoy it. We might even be doing some joint-posts down the line.

Meet the Angels:


Cristina


Evan


Nora

Guess which one loves me!

That's right, none, I haven't met em yet.

Check it out here:

http://www.tynansangels.com

Winterfresh Attraction Chronicles Ripoff?

Hey guys,

Do you think these Winterfresh commercials are ripping off the name of this blog, and some techniques taught by the community?

Check it here:

http://coolbreathpower.com/ - Go watch a video, and select the one with the Peacock.



Let me hear what you think of this!

Donovan

Shy guy? How to get some guts

This was an article written by Neil Strauss for Happen Magazine reposted on MSN.

Several years ago, a friend and I devised a plan to meet women. Since we were too intimidated to start conversations with the array of beautiful, interesting prospects constantly passing by on the street and in the subway, we thought we'd start somewhere less advanced. So we met in the lobby of a youth hostel one Saturday afternoon. We figured the guests there would be more than excited to meet two nice guys who could show them around the city.

We sat there for almost two hours and talked to no one. As all manner of students, backpackers, and leggy Scandinavians went by, we knew everything we wanted to say to start a conversation in our minds. Yet our mouths wouldn't move. We left with our heads hung in shame, forced to a dreadful conclusion: Once a wallflower, always a wallflower.

But that was then; this is now.

A few years ago, I decided to take a more proactive approach to de-shying myself. I hunted down the so-called greatest "ladies men" in the world and begged for help. (It's funny how I could be so aggressive with men but so shy around women.) I called them, sent them emails, and signed up for any classes and seminars they offered, wherever that might be. When I found a few who seemed to have something substantial to offer, I began hanging out with them and picking their brains for everything they knew. And I was transformed from shy to socially comfortable. To save you the trouble of traveling the world and hanging out with some of the unsavory (and savory) characters I did, here are some tips on getting some guts.

Act confident (even if you don't feel that way). The two words of advice you’ll hear the most: "Be confident." This is usually delivered as if it's an easy-to-follow directive, like, "Finish your meal." But one can’t just be confident on command, right? Well, maybe you can be.

I once wrote a book with Marilyn Manson. And he shared his philosophy for success with me: "If you act like a rock star, people will treat you like a rock star." The same applies to social interactions: Fake it till you make it. Act as if you were secure, attractive, charismatic, fun to be around, and deserving of people’s attention and time. Imagine yourself to be someone else if you have to—I actually got hypnotized to believe I was 50 feet tall and made of indestructible steel. And I had a piece of paper full of cheesy suggestions for an improved attitude - "I deserve the best the world has to offer" — that I'd look at from time to time. To be honest, saying and repeating these things doesn't make them true, but after you start to have a few successful interactions, you might just be surprised to find yourself actually starting to believe them.

Prepare a script
If you're not one of those guys who always says the perfect thing on the spot, then start thinking of the perfect thing in advance. Prepare a script, like a telemarketer making a sales call. Some of the ice-breakers I kept handy - based on the idea that everyone likes to give their opinion - included gathering suggestions for names. I'd say my friend rescued a three-legged cat from a shelter; what name should it be given? Or that a friend was opening a 70's memorabilia shop-what name should it go by? Before I even went out to meet women, I'd practice the conversation-starters with friends, so that I was comfortable saying them.

When you're talking with your friends and tell a story that makes everyone laugh, write it down and keep it on a list. This way, you'll never be stuck for something to say after your opener, when that conversation with someone new starts to wane. "Oh my God! Guess what happened to me," you can interject, and then tell your story.

Push yourself through the pain period
When it comes to unlikely people to turn to for dating advice, Arnold Schwarzenegger would definitely be one of them. But while watching the movie Pumping Iron, I discovered the motivation I needed to get out of my head and into the real world. He said that what separates the competent bodybuilders from the true champions is that the champs are willing to go through what he calls the "pain period." This means pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone - to a place your body and mind might not necessarily want to go - and putting up with the pain because, in the long run, it will make you great.

So I applied the same technique to my interactions with women. Whenever I was scared to approach one, I tried to push myself through the fear. What helped was having a good friend with me, whom I'd instruct at the beginning of the night to force me to approach strangers. For the first few nights, I actually told him that I'd pay him a dollar every time I wussed out. This motivated him to make it hard for me, and it motivated me to work harder because I was running out of money.

So the next time you find yourself in a conversation with a new person, and things start to get awkward or you feel like you've run out of things to say, push yourself into the pain period. Try to keep the conversation going for at least five or ten minutes. You'll probably surprise yourself. If not, there's always another person with whom you can practice chatting.

Handle awkward moments with ease
Even if you find yourself stuttering, asking the same question three times or saying something stupid, there's a solution: Pretend it's her "fault." Take a deep breath, and say, with a big smile on your face "Stop it. You're making me nervous. I can see you undressing me with your eyes. I'm not a piece of meat, you know. I have a brain." She’ll know you’re joking and appreciate your sense of humor. It's amazing what a woman's smile will do for your confidence.

That said, if you feel awkward, if things aren't going well or if the people you're talking to are rude, here's the last piece of advice you need. Say three words: "Pleasure meeting you," and leave politely. You never know when you may be talking to them again. Occasionally, I found that even when someone was rude, if she later saw me having a fun, animated conversation with other people in the bar, she'd come over and apologize, and I'd have another chance with her.

For me, the interesting thing is that in two years of approaching thousands of women, nothing bad happened. As long as I wasn't rude, overbearing, or creepy - and as long as I was considerate to the men in the group - not only were there no fistfights, but even the rejections were polite. No one is going to hurt you. Chances are, your only enemy is yourself. So get out there, give it a try, and get social.

New Product Review: Pickup101's Everything You Know About Women Is Wrong

I got an advanced copy of Everything You Know About Women Is Wrong, or EYK about a month ago. It was a 5 disc set, which Pickup101 told me was there best non-workshop product yet.

I eagerly opened it.

I popped the first DVD in and watched it. The style that Lance presented the content in was typical of his previous products, the actual content was very interesting and something that resembled David Deangelo's theory discussions on his DVDs. Lance talks about Andre, the typical Alpha Male. He explains some interesting concepts surrounding that, and also a very great explanation of why we get approach anxiety, and why we feel nervous when leaving a comfort zone. He explains that because your doing something more alpha than you've previously done, your mind tries to freeze your body from pressing forward. This is the sign that you are pressing forward and becoming an alpha male. Very interesting stuff. It certainly gives me more confidence when I feel one such an emotion.

Throughout the DVD set they expounded on approaching, and other conversational topics to generate attraction. Storytelling, banter, and all of those skills are explained and giving real time examples. My favorite section however is, something that Lance is renowed for, which is the body language during conversation and approaching. I think Lance's teaching style breaks it down so well that it's easy to understand and see how its applied. At times I recall one DVD dragged in a certain place, but Lance remedies by making humorous comments. (Mostly because you have to hear the content, but you don't like to, if that makes sense)

I recommend this DVD set, mostly because it really knuckles down at gives the essential theory and techniques to help you start generating attraction.

The type of person this would suit:

Well, I believe everyone can learn no matter how advanced. Thats how you stay ahead of the game. But I understand some of the readers on this blog are alittle more advanced. You won't be disappointed in the content of this series. Mostly because Lance teaches alot of techniques that aren't mentioned elsewhere, like the "Movie Moment". A direct method technique that can really amp up attraction for the interaction when first meeting. Sean swears by it (and he meet his current girlfriend using it).

Also, you "natural game" junkies. I think this program would benefit you greatly. It is somewhat routine based, but not really. The dynamics of the conversation are all discussed by the presenter, and he encourages experimentation using correct methods.

Mystery Method students. This will really help your conversation skills.

David Deangelo followers, I think this program is the essential stepping stone to get into the realm of step-by-step methodology. David's programs are kick ass, and I continue to learn alot, but you need to branch out and start learning and transitioning so you see the mistakes in your game. EYK is exactly what you need. I couldn't recommend anything better for you.

I understand how you guys feel, there are so many products out there, and every seduction company under the sun recommends this new "breakthrough" to instant attraction. The truth is, you have to WORK AT IT. What I've found for myself is I need to MIX different methods and techniques together to fit my personality. So you do end up having to have a broad spectrum at first before you knuckle down on what really works for you.

EYK is a great place to start, or a great place to increase your attraction/rapport/comfort building/conversation skills.

Anyways, read more specifics about the program and what's in it on the Pickup101 website.

Do You Doubt Social Proof?

For all those guys who think its about looks, and that's what is stopping them from being successful with women. Well, look at James Blunt with... Petra Nemcova (The supermodel). Guys this dude ain't goodlooking by any standard. Sorry James.



So he's a celebrity?

Yeah. It proves a point that Mystery has talked since way back when.



Called Social Proof.

Basically, PRESELECTION.

If other women want you, the more women want you.

Read about the Mystery Method and why and how it teaches you to convey PRESELECTION.

Lance Mason on Radio

Lance Mason from Pickup101 was on Armstrong & Getty. It's a San Francisco based radio show.

Right click and SAVE AS to download. (18 meg)

Neil Strauss (Seduction Master's Interview)

Neil hardly ever does email interviews, and has turned down multiple requests from big time newspapers. This is a special treat for you avid Attraction Chronicles readers. Enjoy! =)

Donovan

Thanks for doing this interview Neil. With all that's been written and the media exposure of 'The Game', it seems pointless to ask you the typical PUA questions. So I have some others.

First off, why did you choose writing as a profession, and especially writing about culture?

It was an accident. It happened like a snowball rolling a hill. I think everyone always gets asked “Did you always want to be a writer/fireman/cook/blogger?” And when you're young you want to be EVERYTHING. You make up your own radio and TV shows, you play with fire engines, you want to be a farmer, you go to work with a dad. So, in short, I suppose I could have just as easily been a farmer or a fire fighter. I learn quickly.

Tell me about the Stylelife Challenge that you're doing.

I started a mailing list when the book came out at my www.neilstrauss.com website. And since then, I've gotten thousands upon thousands of really moving emails that I just don't have the time to answer. So I thought it would be cool before I dove into the next book to spend 31 days helping the guys who need it most: the guys getting out of rough relationships, the 25-year-olds who've never had sex or a girlfriend, the people who are just petrified at the thought of talking to a woman. The event is going to take place from July 1 to July 31, and the challenge is for them to get a date in that time following the instructions and assignments I give them. It's kind of a thank-you present to my VIP list for being really fucking cool and supportive and open.

You told us in 'The Game' that you had help from Steve Piccus, and his mate. How did that impact your self-esteem/outlook?

A lot of people ask me that. I think the hypnosis and deep inner-game work is something you should do AFTER getting social experience. You need to get out there and interact in order to identify what your internal sticking points are. Then, once they're identified, you can take the steps necessary to fix them. The more specifically you can pinpoint your problems, the more accurately you can defeat and overcome them. I definitely think Steve gave me a huge leap forward in terms of feeling worthiness and letting go of fear. I still vividly remember spending all those hours with my eyes closed and him telling me to imagine crazy things, many of which involved excrement for some reason.

What is your favorite song on your iPod right now?

"Sargin" by DJ Dave and Turkish. They read The Game and made this hip-hop track. It's on my Myspace profile (www.myspace.com/neilstrauss).

If you were entering the community, what specific methods would you use to get to where you are now?

There's one chief rule for improving: hang out with someone who's better than you. They don't have to be the best, just better. I think guys wring their hands too much over “choosing” a method. Just try everything (most of it's free online) and do what works for you. Immediately get started with SOMETHING, rather than standing at the deadly precipice of indecision. You can only learn from it, and it will eventually lead you to what's right for you.

We try and stay positive with all aspects of our lives. But no matter the circumstances, there are some things we wish we could change atleast to a small degree. Do you have any regrets about finding the community?

Of course I have no regret about finding the community, because in the end it made me a much better, happier person. I think the community should be like college for guys: you stay in it for a few years, then move into the real world with the tools to succeed. I think it only gets counter-productive only when people spend more time gossiping or trying to impress each other than actually improving themselves.

If a guy was looking to establish an exclusive relationship, where should he focus his time? On club, day, or talk show game?

Definitely talk show game.

Actually, game to me is just for courtship and attraction. Whether you're looking for a one-night stand or marriage, they all begin the same way - with two strangers meeting.

We know that being friends with 'naturals' increases our social skills, helps us meet more women within their social circle, and improves our ability to attract naturally. What steps do you recommend for befriending naturals that we come into contact with?

The best way to befriend a natural is to let him know that by hanging out with you, he can meet even more women. Game respects game.

I believe one of the biggest problems that guys have, is that they're genuinely not interesting, and/or don't have fun. What are some activities they could take up that would help them develop a more interesting lifestyle/attitude?

Good point. I always tell guys that the best way to meet women is to have something better than meeting women Every guy NEEDS to be doing something physical a few times a week - whether it's working out, surfing, jogging, a sport, or a martial art. Traveling is also a key to become a deeper, richer person. But the most important thing is…not being self-conscious, because deep inside, we all know we're interesting. Some of us are just uncomfortable sharing that side of themselves with strangers because they're worried that they'll be judged.

If you could live in any city/town/country in the world, politics, calamities, lover, and family aside, where would it be?

I haven't found that place yet. But the three trips I'd most like to take that I haven't done yet are New Zealand, Cuba, and a road trip across Russia.

It's amazing to most of us that even some celebrities that you've talked briefly about have trouble attracting women into relationships. Of these, what in your opinion is the main reason some celebrities aren't successful getting stable, beautiful, interesting women?

Here's the thing: Almost every famous person I know can only choose from among the women who approach them. If they see a woman they're attracted to, most of them don't know how to break the ice. Or if they do, their way of accomplishing it is to send their manager or bodyguard over to say, “So-and-so would like to meet you”

In addition, a lot of them get LMR, with these types of women, because she'll start asking them if they do this with all the girls. Some celebrities I've talked to actually have routines to deal with this - and they're not unlike the community's LMR routines.

What I'm more interested in is the women who end up dating these celebrities. I'll see some on the arm of a different famous guy every night. I'd like to learn more about THEIR game.

When you want to escape the demands of being a best-selling author and quasi-celebrity figure, what do you do?

Feeding pigeons in the park, standing on street corners and shouting obscenities at passers-by, and sometimes even loading in a no-loading zone.

Many guys seem to have a problem with Day2's and getting women out there at times (possibly because of no idea what to do). Could you give some interesting examples of your most successful Day2 activities?

Every Sunday when I was actively sarging, I'd map out my nightly activities for the week. This way, when I met someone I was interested in, I could invite her to tag along to the appropriate event or meal or shopping expedition or night out. Some guys do one-on-one coffee dates, but I prefer to bring her out in a small, fun group, so that after a few hours we yearn to break away and be alone together.

What has been your favorite film at the cinemas within the last 3 months?

The last great movie I saw was older than that. It was the documentary "Enron: The Smartest Guys in the Room." It's chilling.

What guys from the community are you still close friends with?

I'm still close with a handful of great guys, and in communication with most others. I'll always treasure the bonds I made. I really have a lot of gratitude, respect, and love for every single person in the book.

Thanks, we look forward to your continued influence in the community!

Other Seduction Masters Interviews:

• Introducing the Seduction Masters Interviews
• Stephen Nash (Playboy)
• Thundercat
• Sean
• Herbal

Pickup101 Free Audio

Hey guys, Pickup101 has uploaded three different audio files of Lance talking about getting a girls number, pulling the same night, and vibing.

Check it out here.

Let me know what you think of his thoughts, and post comments below.

The Lost Chapter of The Game

You all are probably already aware but Neil has released a lost chapter from The Game.

Check it out below:

http://www.neilstrauss.com/lost.html

This time, be sure to view it before it goes offline =)

Girls are Friendly - The Myth of the B*tch Shield

Girls are really mean, aren't they?

I'm sure you've heard the horror stories somewhere before, and you just know what terrible things will happen to you unless you do everything perfectly.

"If I talk to her, she'll just tell me to eff off."

"She'll call me a dork and throw a drink in my face."

Or worst of all:

"I know she'll have her b*tch shields up, so I have to disarm her. She'll be mean, but I am expecting that, so I'm ready."

Ever heard of the idea of creative visualization? Sports stars like Tiger Woods will picture the perfect shot over and over again before they take it. This way, their mind has perfectly prepared their body to perform at it's best.

They imagine the best outcome, and their body makes it reality.

So what happens when you imagine the WORST outcome?

Even worse, what happens when you completely make up the worst possible outcome, regardless of everything you know to be true?

Now we all know women in our regular lives. They are our mothers, grandmothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends. And we all know that these women are NOT mean by nature. They are not B*TCHES.

In fact, women are far friendlier, nicer, and more open to talking to people than men could ever be.

So how do guys get the idea that talking to a girl will result in her being mean to him?

I mean, I know brilliant minds who think this way. They are convinced that they need to prepare for this worst-case scenario so they can strategize for it.

But what happens to Tiger if he spends his time imagining what he needs to do next after he hits his shot into the water? That's right.

Ker-Splash!

So he doesn't think about the worst thing that can happen. He focuses on the best, and so should you.

Here's the thing about this idea that women aren't friendly, and will act mean if you talk to them: not only is it just a poor approach, it's flat-out WRONG.

Women are NOT mean.

Women do not want you to do badly so they can be mean to you. They want you to do well so they can enjoy it.

No girl thinks to herself, "I hope an obnoxious guy really acts like an ass around me and makes me uncomfortable with his negative vibe so I can tell him he's a jerk."

Girls think "I hope that cute guy with the nice smile makes me smile."

So you are being social and friendly. You are chatting. You are flirting, which women love, and cannot get enough of. The worst thing that can happen is she doesn't get it, and goes on her way. The best thing is she falls in love with you and makes your life better.

The idea that men get that women are somehow mean and confrontational is bogus. The only time that women act this way is when they are pushed out of their natural warm nature by, well, assh*les. I won't tell you who the kinds of guys are that can provoke this reaction, but you can guess. You may have met a few.

You are not one of those guys. You are not there to plow her with 20 minutes of talking sh*t, or impress her with stories and photos of your famous friends, or your car, or your house, or the cocaine in your glove compartment.

You are there to let her enjoy a laugh with you, and bask in the flirting attention of an attractive guy.

This is not self-help mantra bullshit, either. I'm not telling you to repeat "all chicks totally dig me" 100 times a day.

But be REAL in your expectation. Women are NOT mean. They are cute. They are a little nervous (way more than you are). They are hoping for the best... they want you to do well.

The myth of the b*tch shield is just that: a myth. Yes, there are some guys who provoke negative reactions from girls. But it's almost always because they did something to act truly obnoxious first. The idea that hot girls all act mean was devised by well-meaning people who didn't really take the time to figure out what else was happening.

It wasn't the girl putting up the shield. It was the guy, going in thinking "I KNOW this will go badly, but that's what I have to do."

And he went in shields up, convinced no one could possibly like him, and blamed the girl for it, never seeing that he just created his own reality.

You are better than that. We all are. We just have to believe it and be it.

How do you do it?

1) Smile. Now smile bigger. Now laugh to yourself and let your body feel good.

2) Bob your head a little and say "yeah yeah yeah" under your breath. Use your body to prepare your mind for the best-case scenario.

3) Now walk up to the cute girl, say "Hi," and get to know each other. You know the rest.

How To Deal With Tests From Women (Video)

Alot of you give away your power without noticing. This comes through doing what a woman says without putting her through hoops, or by giving into her requests. It's called hoop theory. Eg. She asks you a question and you answer. Instead, you should ask her a question to qualify her asking you, or not respond to her questions. Does that make sense?

David Deangelo also talks about tests in his e-book Double Your Dating, about dealing with tests from women. David puts out some great techniques for dealing with this stuff. He goes into this stuff for a chapter if I'm not mistaken. Those of with the e-book, make sure you look it up and practice!

The thing you should know about tests, or hoops is that it can make or break the 'set'. (Eg. People you are approaching) It gives or secures your power within the group dynamic. Here is a great video example of Mystery showing how you can get past these tests or hoops and come out victorious. Notice: Mystery does give in to a one or two requests now and again, but overall his frame is in control.

Check out the entire outline of the Mystery Method.

Enjoy!

StyleLife Challenge

Neil has released a video that helps detail his "StyleLife Challenge".

Sean (Seduction Master's Interview)

We have a special interview this time. Sean, our contributing columnist here at the Attraction Chronicles Blog, is also a full-time instructor. This is a sort of "introduction" to him so you can get acquainted, and respect his posts. (More than mine)

Here we go!

Tell me about yourself!





I'm 35 years old, proud East Coast boy, born on a farm in Connecticut, and worked my way across the country till I ended up in the crazy, wonderful San Francisco.

I've been chasing girls my whole life (well, since age 5), and from 17 to 32 really went out to learn all I could, from cool friends and from the amazing women I dated. It was only a few years ago I discovered David D, and from there went on to study with Lance Mason and PickUp 101. And once I did that, the whole game changed.



The ideas, and more importantly, the people at PickUp 101 inspired me to stay and make teaching other guys how to have great, passionate, happy relationships with women the focus of my life.

Describe the moment, when you suddenly realized, "I need to work out this part of my life."

That's easy to remember, but hard to tell the story.

See, I already found the girl I was going to spend the rest of my life with. When I was younger, I never had trouble dating, never had trouble getting girlfriends. And then one day finally I found the best of them all. I still remember the first moment I made eye contact with her across the floor of a packed club. I knew she was the girl for me.

So we dated. We fell in love. We moved in together. Got engaged. Started planning a wedding, looking at housing, talking baby names, vacationing with other couples, the whole thing.

And all this time as we were falling in love and building a life together, as I was doing everything I could to make this woman happy, she got sadder and sadder.

I'll tell you, there is no worse feeling than knowing that everything you do makes the woman you love uglier and more miserable every day.

Except for the feeling of find her face down in the tub with a note on the bathroom sink asking her family to please forgive her.

She survived. But we didn't.

And for months afterwards, I wandered around in a fog, asking everyone I knew if they had any idea what went wrong. What did I do wrong?

No one knew. Not my Dad, not my friends, not anyone. And I just refused to accept that. I refused to accept that this was just me. Hell, growing up, everyone I knew had parents who divorced. There were no happy couples. Dating was all about drama and heartbreak and diminished expectations.

And in my own life, I had gotten so good I could date anyone I wanted, but I still had NO IDEA how to really make it work.

So that's when I started looking, and talking. And I found out I wasn't the only one with a story like this. Especially since I've been coaching with PickUp101 full-time, I've heard stories just like mine from all different kinds of men, all who say the same thing. They say "I love women, and I just want to know how to do this right. I'm tired of screwing it up."

I'm in this because I want to find an amazing girl who makes me happier than all the rest combined, and then attract her and keep her happy. That's all I care about. I hear about guys saying things like "I want two MLTRs where both girls love me and love each other equally, and we all share the kinky love all the time."

And it's funny, because I remember thinking those same things... portrait of the artists as a pimp, right? I remember dating 4 girls at the same time and then trying to find time to hook up with new girls, and balancing it all... and it made me miserable. Dealing with amazing girls takes a lot of energy. The more amazing they are, the more you have to bust your ass to keep on top of them, because they are, like the great surfer Gerry Lopez said of Pipeline, a challenge for a lifetime.

I heard that kind of stuff and thought, man, those guys really haven't talked to enough women. Or they talked, but didn't listen. Because I'll tell you, I've dated hundreds of girls, from models and exotic dancers to doctors and lawyers, but I have never met ONE who would be happy in a situation where she didn't feel special and loved by her man.

I want to be able to make my relationship work for me every single day. And every guy I know, when I've really gotten to talk to him and get to what matters most, feels the same way. I know from reading your story, Donovan, you have that same perspective.

See, I think my Dad is an amazing guy. He's my hero. And he can do anything he puts his mind to. But it took him 50 years to find the woman who makes him happy, and now when I see them together, I think "that is the ONLY way it should be done. Someone needs to get the word out on how to do this."

Yeah, we all want to be the super-pimp and impress our friends, but at the end of the day, we all want that great chick who makes us feel like the greatest guy in the world. I worked my ass off to figure out how that works, and now that I know, and now that I have that, I'm on a mission to teach every guy I can how to get the same thing.

Have you had any mentors (perhaps well-known pickup artists) within the community/life that have helped you improve your game, and what did they teach you?

I was always pretty good with women. Me and my friends, who I am very fortunate to count as my friends to this day, were just annoyingly social. Anything to have fun, all the time. And from a young age, I understood that attitude will always attract women.

But I didn't really know what I didn't know until I was picked to compete on a reality dating show a few years ago. "For Love or Money." Me and 14 other guys competing for the "love" of one beautiful girl.

Now I thought coming in I had serious game. I mean, I was chosen out of thousands of guys who thought they were great with women to be one of the few, the proud, the elite. But when I got on the show, I was FLOORED at how much better these other guys were. It was like a great college player playing in his first NBA game.

And the thing was, these were all normal, really good, nice guys. No scheming, no tricks. They were just totally cool, charming, and confident. They just had it figured out, and it looked effortless.

So I ended up getting booted in the first round. I mean, I got crushed… I barely even appeared on screen. But it was great for me, because it made me aware that you can be a great guy, and really cultivate the qualities that will always attract women. These guys all learned how to be total Naturals. There had to be some way for other men to learn it as well.

I mean, I was good enough to make it to network TV as a prototypical "stud," but the truth was I wasn't good enough to get the girl when it really mattered. But I had no idea how to get better.
Until I met Lance Mason.

Let's be clear: when I first met Lance, I really didn't want to believe him.

Why?

Because I'm really competitive, and from the first second I saw him, I could tell how much better with women he was than me, or anyone I'd ever known.

But that only lasted a second, because I also saw what a good, normal, generous person he was. There was a damn good reason he was phenomenal with women: he had taken all the naturally attractive traits we sense in people we like, and not only figured out how they all worked, but also how to incorporate it into who he was.

And he knew exactly how to teach those skills to others.

Finally, I found the person who I knew could teach me the skills I wanted more than anything. And once I started learning, I knew I had to stay and teach as well.

Can you describe the first time you used a counter-intuitive routine that yielded it's promised results, and how you felt?

I always assumed that in order to get to know a girl, you had to ask her all sorts of really deep questions and get her to prove to you how special and deep she is. But anytime I tried, girls would just tell me the lamest answers, or ignore the question altogether.

So I stopped asking girls questions like this "what are you passionate about," "tell me three cool things about you," "what is so special about you," and it's not because they aren't interesting paths of conversation.

It's because girls tend to be crap storytellers and question-answerers. They never learn to develop the same verbal skills that men do (why? because they don't have to try to pickup girls!).

Here's the thing I've found: even when a girl is really into me, she is unlikely to build herself up in any way. In fact, she is very likely to do the opposite and downplay anything cool she may have done. It may be because I ask her direct questions intended to get her to prove herself to me, her instinct is actually to do the opposite and make herself appear less cool so that she can be sure I really do like her for who she is, and not some fabulous concoction she has put together.

Men lie to make themselves look better.

Women lie to make themselves look worse.

It's totally counter-intuitive, because as men, we think everyone thinks like us. But once you understand women a little better, it starts to make sense.

I mean, it's something you just can't figure out until you experience it... but when women talk amongst themselves there is NO bragging allowed. Women are all about harmony and soothing feelings and empathizing.

Men are all about one-upsmanship. You ask me what I'm passionate about and I'll ramble on for 20 minutes. But these questions really intimidate and go against the nature of women, and I've always found they get me fairly dull answers. So what to do?

So don't ask those questions. Instead, start with the theme for yourself and invite her to join in. It's like, you go first, so you make it possible for her to feel safe following you. Tell her "y'know, it's weird, but I'm discovering lately that I'm really passionate about X..." and then tell your story. Keep leading her in, and let her know it's ok to talk about important feelings like that.

Whenever possible, avoid asking direct, interrogatory questions of women when you are trying to really connect with them. That's just not how they talk. They listen, and intuit, and empathize. And they also KNOW that when we ask questions, we're not really listening... so don't bullshit 'em. Let them connect with you by following you on what you love, and then you tell them your intuitions about them.

Say, like me, you're passionate about teaching. Tell your story, and then say you can tell just from the way she carries herself she loves teaching others as well. Tell her how you crave adventure and new places and then guess that she has the same jones, the need to see new places for herself and experience the world (this one is gold in any city, as women in cities are almost always from somewhere else).

Don't ask. Presume. Intuit. Take some chances and show that you understand people without interviewing them.

Lance Mason taught me this when I started at PickUp101, and it's absolutely true. Your job is to find out what makes her special, and make it clear to her that you see it, and insist on it, and that is why she deserves you.

Presume the best of the girl, and she may just meet your expectations.

Could you descibe what you're life was like before you were aware of this, and what options you have with women now?

I'd usually get the girl, but inevitably I would screw it up. Or, even worse, I'd see her and lame-ass excuse my way out of talking to her.

But now not only do I get to flirt and teach and write for a living, I have an awesome chick who just gets sexier and sexier the longer we are together, and she makes me totally happy.

I gotta tell you, it's much better than before, when I'd have the hot chick who just made me insane and miserable.

The hottie who makes you happy is the one you keep around. :-)

What was your hardest/biggest sticking point?

Dropping any act and just being real. It's so much more comfortable to look for the perfect routine or the perfect approach, and I didn't want to think that the only way to get really good was to talk to people who were already really good, get coaching from them, and just keep practicing.

One thing I've learned is this: you can figure out all you need to know about women by practicing feeling their reactions. This is not the same as listening to their words. Rather, it's about empathizing with their emotions and their bodies. Really focus on what they are trying to tell you instead of how cool you are coming across to them, and you will learn what they need to be happy.

And if you can make the girl happy, she will do ANYTHING to make you happy.

Do you have a favorite routine/step in your model, can you describe it, and what it accomplishes?

Oh, absolutely. I have one simple go-to move that I can use anytime, anywhere to get a girl attracted to me. And NO ONE else does it, so I really shouldn't even share it, but just for you, Donovan. =)

I tell the girl she's cute. That's pretty much the sum of my approach technique. Find a cute girl, walk up to her, smile, and tell her she's cute. If she's with friends, I tell them they are all cute, but she is so cute I don't know how they can stand it. Or I'll ask them to translate for me because my English is very poor... how you say, esta muy cuto. No culo, cuto, si? ;-)

Then I let her smile and enjoy it for a second, and then pull her back in by telling her "and this is the point at which you tell me I am also cute." More smiles. More fun. I'll tell the whole group that we make a cute couple, right? Then I may go into how we will have beautiful babies, and they are all invited to the wedding.

This is something I developed from bantering with girls. I think of banter as this tool we have at PickUp101 to express our affection to girls in really creative ways.

Of course, all that is well and good, but honestly, I prefer to use as few words as possible. My real favorite move is just to say a few words to a girl, then fake her out into looking in the other direction, and then swoop down and lift her up on my shoulder in a fireman's carry, telling her friends I just need to borrow her for about 10, no, 15 minutes.

This works best if you can then convince the girl you are, in fact, a fireman. :-)

Have you had the experience yet, where you feel that you've reached a certain degree of mastery? Can you explain the time, and how you got the realization?

Yeah, man. See, I never felt like the acronyms told me to feel. I honestly believe that thinking in terms of a competitive scale is the most damaging thing a guy can do. There are no chumps, there are no masters. We are all BORN knowing how to attract people.

But some people have it buried under years of bad experiences, and fear, and a constant reminder to play it safe and careful and avoid pain at all costs. And it's not their fault.

See, the guys that get it, the cool guys, the Natural, are just guys who had the least re-inforcement of negative feedback. They just never covered up their instincitve ability to get attention and create joy.

I was a Natural when I was a fat, happy baby. We all were. And I held on to that ability for a long time. But I lost it after my big breakup, and ended up living in the past, and in my head. We all go there from time to time, but it's a terrible place to stay.

I had to get back into the world, and recover what I knew instinctively… how to be social, and attractive, and make women happy.

It was just a few months ago when I realized I KNEW and FELT exactly what my girl needed all the time that I knew I had it back.

It's like grooming a golf swing. You work and work and work, and then one day you just know, this is for real. This skill isn't something I do, it's just something I am.

Now I know that no matter what happens, I will always be able to attract the girls I want, and be able to have the relationships that make me happy.

What advice would you give to newbies starting out, in order to greatly accelerate their learning curve?

Make it easy all the time. Do NOT look for the Olympian challenge to prove yourself.

If you want to learn how to play basketball, you start by shooting layups. You warm up by shooting from 3 feet away. You do NOT learn by shooting half-court jumpers with a man in your face.

So don't wait until Friday to go out and do 100 sets perfectly following someone else's ideas of how interactions should go. Instead, work on being cooler, friendlier, and more social every single day in simple ways. Smile and say Hi to people at work. Flirt with the girl serving you coffee. Tell your mom a funny story. Just keep doing small things every day to open yourself up, to smile more, and to attract people more.

What's your belief on inner game, and how did you improve it?

Physical skill. Work from the outside to affect the inside. I really worked on changing how I used my body to communicate to people, and that really changed how I felt.

I mean, when I walk down the street with a knowing smile and a slow strut like Wooderson in "Dazed and Confused," I can't help but be in a great mood.

You want to change your inner game? Let go of the need to look cool. Fuck it. Look FUN. Have fun. Be willing to look and be goofy. Smile. Laugh.

Bob your head to a hip-hop beat and say "yeah yeah yeah," in answer to the endless loop of annoying conscious mind questions.

Let the body and the lizard brain take over.

Do you have a personal favorite field report that you could relay?

Man, anyone who knows me will tell you I've got no END of stories (no matter how much they might want me to just occassionally shut the *** up! :-). Since I still haven't gotten around to writing the story of how I pulled a dancer right off the stage at the Spearmint Rhino in Vegas and made her my girlfriend, so I'll have to go with a more romantic, chick-flick story... :-)

She is the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. Warm, honey skin, soft brown eyes, long lashes, silky hair flowing under a funky cap, just a touch of sparkly blue eye-shadow, and a sly smile under pillowy lips.

It's a crowded Sunday in a little café in Union Square in San Francisco. Workers are putting up the giant Christmas tree, and shoppers are everywhere. It's not quiet, calm, and peaceful. People are jostling about, and everyone can see everything. Perfect. Put this on display for all to see – this is exactly what I have prepared for.

Get in line for food and keep looking at her. I fix her image in my mind. I look away. Let the nerves build up. Feel it in my chest, in my heart. I want this beautiful girl. I want her so much. I want her to have my kids, and her kids, and walk hand-in-hand on the boardwalk on the beach, win her giant stuffed animals for her at games of chance, snuggle on Sunday mornings, and buy her sparkly things to make her smile. I let all the silly and wussy and once- again-silly thoughts fill me up. I will use them as fuel.

I will walk up to her, alone. I will have no pretext, no introduction, no excuse. It will be her, and it will be me, and in this secret world, we will be. I want the nerves. I want the fear. I want this to be hard. For a man who didn't know what he was doing, that would make it impossible. For me… for me it makes it perfect.

Then my single 100%-perfect girl takes a seat at a table right behind me… with her 99%-perfect girl friend. She's here, now. I know from experience if I leave now, without meeting her, it will wake me from a sound sleep when I am old and grey, and the not knowing will haunt me like a ghost. Fuck it. I have studied, practiced and worked at this for a reason. This girl is the reason. She is the one that brought me here today. When you find the princess, she will not be waiting for you on a bed made of Twinkies and tits. She will be in a castle, guarded by a dragon, behind a wall of flames. Walk through the flames.

I step out of line. Walk to her table. I feel every eye upon me. Stand at their table. They both look up.

I say nothing. I don't worry about what to say. My hands are down, my eyes are steady. I open my mouth.

"I was on my way out, and I saw you." Is my voice quavering a little? It is. Good.

"I couldn't leave without meeting you. May I sit?"

They both stare at me. The room stares at me. I wait. She says yes. I reach back to table behind me and grab a chair from another table without asking. Is someone else using it? Not anymore. Chair bangs against other chairs. It appears unsmooth, but I don't care.

I sit. Look at her… gently, but seeing her. I don't say anything. A year passes. She asks, "so what are you doing today?"

I mention something about Christmas shopping. Start talking normal stuff. Introduce myself, they introduce themselves. Gia and Lily. My internal circuits are all afire, but I will not stop. That's how it works. I don't have to keep going. I just have to … Not. Stop.

Gia is from Indonesia. Lily is from Thailand. They live here now. I tell them I teach dogs owners how to understand their dogs. They love dogs, Golden Retrievers. I tell them how big the hearts of a Golden are, that they are made of love. Time passes. I talk about the park near my house. Watching sunset from the swings, and the cafe close by with the best hot chocolate in the city.

The air is heavy with this moment I feel the weight. Time to go. Tell them so. Tell Gia to meet me at my house next week and we'll go to the park. She agrees. Offers me her number. We hug, and her skin smells like summer.

I stand. Legs still working. Nice surprise.

Walk out, slow, stunned. Kick-to-the-head stunned. My world is of muffled sound, like under the sea, like leaving a Metallica show. Everything is slow and gentle, everything is floaty.

Talk twice over next week, flirty, funny, sexy. Normal topics too. School, work, fun. She's coming over Saturday.

With two bottles of wine, one white, one red. With a dog treat for my dog.

We will be as lovers who meet again and again, as the wheel does turn, as it was meant to be.

What is your current sticking point?

Don't say stupid shit.

One of my favorite quotes is from Chris Rock (and I believe that comedians really do have all the wisdom we need to manage relationships if you listen hard enough).

"A woman knows if she's gonna !#@* you in the first 5 minutes of meeting you. Women know right away. They're shaking hands like, "I'm gonna !#@* him. I hope he don't say nothing too stupid!"

Just let her like you, take the time to get to know each other, and then have the kind of sex that makes objects in the room spontaneously combust. J

What are you goals now within the community, and in life?

I want to tell everyone in the world about how the Art of Attraction workshop, and everything we teach at PickUp101, can change your life. Finding happiness from your relationships with women may be the hardest thing to learn, and to teach, and I really feel we've cracked the code. We see it every weekend when guys leave our workshops, exhausted and happy, and go right out and make the very first woman they see smile.

Every man deserves that power and that happiness. We are creating a community that men can be proud of, and women will be thankful for. And the bigger it gets, the better it is.

I've heard some really great people talk about pickup, about the process of attracting women, as a great burden, like it's something you have to pscyh yourself up for and battle through. Like there are guys out there who thought like I did when I found that one great girl, like "whew, sure am glad that hard work is over. Now I can finally relax!"

I got into teaching because I know that's not true. Being an attractive man is not about putting on an act at certain times to impress people. It's about becoming that best version of yourself, that guy you wanted to be when you were 8 years old. I teach guys that this is all about finding out what is cool, what is passionate, what is already attractive about you, and then learning how to bring that out.

We are all born social. We are all born charming. The hard work is in uncovering that instinct and letting other people share in the vibe. And it can't just be something you try out. You can't just attract that great girl one day and then stop. You have to attract her every single day. And the day you stop is the day she leaves.

I have one rule for keeping my chick happy. Make her smile every day. That's it. No exceptions, no excuses. It doesn't matter where I am or what I'm doing, I make a point of doing something every single day to make her smile. And it's not even anything that clever (I usually just lift her on my shoulder and smack her ass). :-)

But I do it every day. And it's not work for me. It's effort, but it's not work. I enjoy making her happy, because she treats me like a frickin' god. And y'know what? That's what makes this all work for me... it's a circle of good. You keep putting the good energy out, and it will come back to you.

So to everyone reading, just keep it rocking and keep it cracking and just keep livin'.

This game is not that complicated. All you have to do is put a smile on her face and keep it there. It's up to you to make it happen.

Thanks Sean!

Stay tuned for more from Sean on the blog. Or even to get him as an instructor, check out the Pickup101 workshop schedule. You might have to make the trip to San Fran though!

Other Seduction Masters Interviews:

• Introducing the Seduction Masters Interviews
• Stephen Nash (Playboy)
• Thundercat
• Herbal
• Neil Strauss

Random Mystery Photo

I was bored at work... so I thought I'd just post up a random club photo of our main man Mystery.



Check out my outline of the Mystery Method, or if you've been living in a hole and are too arrogant to admit that you need help with your game even though your at a "how to seduce women site", check out the Magic Bullets ebook.