Be the Alpha Male Of The Group (AMOG)

A post from mASF that I thought would be of interest to most of the guys that visit:

ExNihiloNihil writes:

"There is a pretty simple framework that I use, which I learned by having to go at it with a lot of alpha guys, which allows you to AMOG other guys or avoid getting AMOG'd fairly easily.

If an amog says ANYTHING to try and tool you, buy into it, then blow it up. "Are you tired man?" "OMG, you are so perceptive man, I haven't slept in like THREE YEARS", "Nice shirt bro, that pattern make you look all sexy" "I bet you talk to all the guys that way/Awww, you're going to make me blush man, you're so sweet/Thanks, that means a lot coming from a turbo-cool guy like you". Steal the frame, and use it back on him. You can keep bouncing back and forth with him on this sort of shit, if he's good and he's keeping up, eventually you can bust out "Oh MAN, there is just SO much love in here, I think we need a hug bro" then open your arms like you're gonna hug him - only a few guys haven't cracked on me at this point.

As far as AMOGing other guys, I'll usually compliment them in a very slightly overdone way about something they do/wear/say which I think is "unbecoming" in such a way as to draw a lot of attention to it, and I particularly mention all the little lame nuances of the thing and how that really "made the whole thing work" or what not, in order to draw attention to how lame that thing is, in a sort of under-the-radar way. Even if the thing isn't lame, if you really overdo the compliment then propose a slightly less favorable frame (EG. In response to coin snatch trick: "OMG dude you're like fucking houdini... How'd you do that... I'm MYSTEFIED! how long did it take you to learn that shit?") you can steal some of their thunder. Again it's about adopting their frame then spinning it out of control. A nice thing about this way of doing things is that often the guy won't even realize you're tooling him, and even if he does he would look fucking stupid trying to call you on it or start a fight, so you really don't have to worry about altercations in general."

Do You Know How To Meet A Woman On The Street?

Have you ever been walking down the street, minding your own business, when all of a sudden, you see a drop-dead gorgeous woman that you'd cut off your right hand to meet walking along as well?

At that moment, you're probably thinking to yourself: "I want to meet that girl! But how?"

Arguably, meeting a woman on the street, cold, is one of the hardest things to do! People are busy, they feel exposed on the open sidewalk, and their defenses are UP.

You ever have a bum accost you while walking someplace and ask for money?

Well guess what: Trying to meet a woman on the street is about equal to that!

So what's a guy to do? Just give up and let that beautiful woman pass you by?

Of course not.

I have the DEFINITIVE SOLUTION for you boys:

Trying to stop a moving target or group is POINTLESS. Even though they may only be walking to a club to meet someone, and you are good enough to meet, their moving gives them what I like to call a "false time constraint."

In other words, they are in a HURRY to get NOWHERE FAST!

Trust me when I say this...

DO NOT ATTEMPT TO STOP A MOVING TARGET.

Why? Well, I'll get to that in a bit.

See, you KNOW that girls aren't going to walk FAR. Most people you see on the street, if they're walking, they're doing so because they're on their way to someplace CLOSE. Otherwise, they'd be in their car driving. They go from the car to the location they are getting to or back.

This works to your advantage, because if you see a woman walking down the street, you can be sure of one thing:

She's going someplace CLOSE.

So here's what you do: Don't give eye contact. Look BUSY talking with your friends or on your cell phone. Don't give ANY attention to her. Don't get her to notice you.

Then ... follow her!

Now, I'm not suggesting you STALK her! That would be creepy, and I know you're not a creep. You're just doing some recon work. Girls never walk far, you're just going to tag along for a little bit.

Example: let's say you're walking down the street and you see a really hot girl walking towards you with a friend, and you think to yourself, "I want to get that girl!"

So you play it cool and IGNORE them completely as they pass you by.

When you turn to see where they were going, you see them enter one of the nearby restaurants.

So you follow them into the restaurant and notice that they're seated at a booth.

Congratulations, you are now in the type of environment where you can approach them! Moving targets SUCK. Stationary targets are like shooting Fish in a Barrel.

So from this point, you have a lot of options available to you. Usually, you want to allow the girls time to settle in first and have their waiter serve them. Just chill out at the bar or somewhere inconspicuous and wait for the opportune moment to strike.

When that moment comes, use the tactics you've learned from The Art Of Approaching and approach these woman like NORMAL. I'm sure you'll be able to get your target's number in no time. And if you're REALLY good, you may even be invited to join them for lunch! =)

So here are some general rules for approaching women on the street.

RULE: Don't stop a moving target!
RULE: Moving targets don't go far. Follow them.
RULE: Wait for the opportune time to approach.

A girl doesn't WANT to be stopped. Even if they are going NOWHERE, they still THINK they're going somewhere.

So in conclusion: DONT STOP A MOVING TARGET! WAIT FOR THE RIGHT TIME TO APPROACH AND YOU WILL WIN.

What? You don't have my ebook The Art of Approaching, where I teach tactics like this in complete detail? You don't know what to do when that opportune moment to strike presents itself? Well, it's time to get on the ball! Download your copy of my book right now to learn how to meet the most amazing women, be it on the street, in the club - wherever you may be!

To take advantage of these special teachings right now, click below:

Art of Approaching ebook Link

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

Excuses You Might Make For Asking Women Out On Dates

Hey,

I have a special report that you all might like.

It's about the asking women out, a newsletter from David D.

You can download it here.

Hope you all had a great thanksgiving.

Donovan

How To Get The First Date

See, there are a lot of guys out there who don't have any problem meeting women and talking to them. But for some reason, they just can't quite keep the conversation going to a point where they're able to ask the girl out.

Let me make something clear: THE WHOLE POINT OF YOU MEETING A GIRL IS TO ASK HER OUT!

So if you fail to do that, then you've just wasted your time.

Seriously, unless you were just bored and looking to pass the time by chatting someone up, you've accomplished nothing.

Whenever you see a girl you want to meet, your goal should be to GET HER OUT ON A DATE.

Period.

End of story.

And in order to do that, you have to build a certain amount of trust and comfort in her before she will willingly give you her (correct) phone number.

I know guys who can get a girl's number within a couple minutes of meeting her. But the quality of that number isn't always the best. About 90% of the time, it's a fake number the girl gave him just to get away from him, and the other 10% of the time, the girl isn't interested enough to go out with him.

So going for the number too soon before you've created enough trust and comfort could dramatically lower your chances of seeing her again.

So here's what I recommend...

When you first meet a girl, it is usually a good idea to have at least 3 openers and 3 stories memorized that you can talk to them about. Be sure that the openers and stories are good, open-ended, and interactive conversation pieces.

Then, you're going to STACK them.

What do I mean by that? Let's break it down scientifically...

Let's say you have Opener A + Story A. You meet the girl with Opener A, which leads into Story A. As soon as Story A runs its course, you change topics with Opener B, which then leads into Story B. Then you repeat the process with Opener C and Story C.

See how that works?

In my experience, by the end of three stories, the woman usually feels like she knows you enough and is comfortable enough with you to want to see you again. THIS is the time to get her number!

I know that some guys might find this prospect scary, because this could be where she rejects you.

The thing I want you to remember at this point is that women KNOW when a man approaches them, they're interested in them. And if you DO NOT ask her for her number, she will assume you actually AREN'T interested in her, or don't have enough balls to act on your interest, and move on.

DO NOT FALL INTO THIS TRAP!

Even if you KNOW you're going to crash and burn with this girl, ask for her number anyway! That's the whole GOAL of the interaction, so if you're going to fail, fail all the way. Don't leave the woman you were talking to feeling like you didn't cross the finish line.

Remember: You're going after the DATE. Get it or die trying!

Here's the sequence I usually follow when getting the date:

1. Invite her out right then and there. Either I'll ask her what she's doing right now and if she wants to get a drink. If that's not convenient, I'll ask her if she wants to meet up later that night.

2. If she says "Yes" to meeting up later, I'll then ask for her number. If she says "No," I'll still ask for her number because I like her and I want to see her again.

3. Finally, I'll ask her when a good time to call is.

That simple 3-step process will get you a TON of dates.

Setting up the next meeting during the initial interaction is ideal. If you can't do that, get her number and try to set it up later.

Some guys say you should go for an email address instead of a phone number. I've had mixed results with this tactic. I still think the phone number is the way to go. Email has too many variables that aren't in your favor. What if she doesn't respond to your initial email? If you keep sending emails, you run the risk of looking desperate.

If you call and she doesn't answer, you can continue to call until you catch her. Once you get her on the phone and talking, then you can set up the next date. You can also ask her about email and Instant Messaging info. Usually, you want to establish "second contact" before going that route though.

In my book, The Art Of Approaching, I give you everything you need to know to successfully ask a woman out on a date, from reading her body language, to flirting, to creating trust and comfort, it's all in there. If you haven't picked up your copy today, you can do so by clicking on the link below:

http://www.seduction-chronicles.net/artofapproaching

And remember, you must always approach every girl with the intention of getting her out with you! Unless you do that, you're just wasting your time.

Wishing you success with women,

Joseph Matthews

Why You Keep Being Unsuccessful When It Comes To Women

Think about this:

• When has a woman last cuddled up to you?
• Recently, have you kissed a woman that was considered beautiful?
• Have you walked up to a woman at a bar, and gotten her number within 3 minutes?
• When was the last time a beautiful woman called you?

Seriously, you're searching the internet for tips to help you out with women. How low is that?

Well, I have something I need to confess to you...

I admire you just a little.

It was only one year ago that I was completely UNSUCCESSFUL when it came to attracting and dating women.

I couldn't even do the simple things like:

• Know if a woman wanted to be kissed
• Get a phone number from a woman within 2 minutes
  
• Know when to hold her hand
• How to tell if she was sexually turned on
• Knowing if she was attracted to me at all

Now... I can go out, and meet and date hot girls. And it's all because I used to have what you have right now.

Desire and motivation.

I know you have it!

You believe you've sunk to a total new low with women, and you can't figure out by yourself what's going on. So you're seeking help elsewhere...

You may even ask yourself questions like:

• "Why are there some guys who just fall ass backward into the laps of beautiful woman after beautiful woman?"
  
• "Why is there a guy who I'm better looking than, always getting more women than me? (And hotties too)

Can you get the information you're looking for?

The answer is "Yes!"

I'm going to insult you. (BE WARNED!!)

The reason so many guys are USELESS when it comes to attracting, seducing and dating beautiful women, is because they don't see it through. They only are willing to do something that won't get them out of their comfort zone. In other words, THEY JUST DON'T TRY!

They might be almost to a premanent solution... then they give up!

So whats the solution?

Desire and motivation!

You already have it, otherwise you wouldn't be searching online for it. Do you have what it takes to follow-up on it?

Ok, I'm going to level with you...

You need to get professional help!

It might cost you thousands of dollars in shrink fees. You're going to sit down with a doctor, and he will keep you coming back for months, with each visit costing you hundreds.

or

You can take my advice, of someone who was in your position, and do something you'd wish you'd done a long time ago. But guess what? (It doesn't even matter what you look like, its all personality)

I'm going to give you JUST ONE SIMPLE resource that will CURE you're problem of not getting the kind of women you want.

Although, I'm alittle hesitant.

You know why?

Cause you'll probably read it and say, eh, that wouldn't do anything. Well.... YOU ARE WRONG! Get your life together, and take the advice of someone whose been where you are right now.

Here is the golden nugget:

My favorite resource is called Double Your Dating. It's written by a man named David DeAngelo.

Guess what?

Even though I'm successful NOW, I refer to it DAILY, still.... ONE YEAR LATER!

He covers everything you could possibly ever need to know. He goes through: the initial conversation, the secret to asking the proper way for a phone number, touching, conversational skills, using cocky humor, and sex. That's not it, he also goes INDEPTH into your mind, exposing weaknesses that are causing internal, negative thoughts that hurt your dating game. He makes you feel and act 110%, and for only $19.95.

When I first read the e-book, I was SHOCKED. I couldn't believe I held out buying it for over 4 months! Don't be a idoit like me, you wan't you're life handled, so HANDLE IT.

This is what he offers for the cost of a dinner and movie. (I'm NOT kidding, under $20, it's insane) He gives you bonus eBooks and audio...

1. “Double Your Dating” The reference manual for how to be successful with women
   
   
2. “Sex Secrets— How To Turn A Woman On, Satisfy Her In A Big Way, And Get Her To Do The Things You've Always Wanted”
   
   
3. “The 8 Personality Types That Naturally Attract Women”
   
   
4. “Bridges — How To Go From One Step To The Next... From The Very First Meeting To The Bedroom ”
   
   
5. A free starter kit that includes two DOUBLE interviews from my Interviews With Dating Gurus monthly interview series
   
   
6. A free month's subscription to my Monthly Interview Series

I wish I got all that when I bought mine. You lucky bastard!!

It's over $200 in value. And a limited time offer that I was made aware of.

You need to check it out, and decide by reading more about it on his official site.

I have one final thought to share with you.

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

Click here to check out the eBook

Keep it real. And come back regularly for more posts on this website. I try to post new material almost everyday. Although if you want indepth help (which you will need) click above.

To your success: you da man,

Donovan

Mystery Method (4): Qualification

UPDATE! Do you want to get Mystery to teach you every step of the way? Check out his DVD Home Course.

LEARN THE MYSTERY METHOD

ATTRACT 1:
Opening

ATTRACT 2:
Female-to-male attract phase (often called "attracting")

ATTRACT 3:
Male-to-female attract phase (or "qualifying")

COMFORT 1:
Connection

COMFORT 2:
Trust

COMFORT 3:
Intimacy

SEDUCTION 1:
Arousal

SEDUCTION 2:
Last-minute Resistance

SEDUCTION 3:
Sex

A3: Qualification is often called "Male to Female Interest". It is the inverse of A2: Attraction. By the time we've gotten to Qualification, we have already opened (A1) and made our target woman interested/attracted in us (A2). Now, and not before, we can express interest in her. As Mystery said, "the amateur will hit on a woman right away. We wait 8 minutes."

Expressing interest in a woman isn't as easy as it sounds. Some cardinal rules:
Stay away from expressing interest in her based on her looks. An attractive woman has heard it before. A less attractive woman won't believe you. Besides, "complimenting her looks" is the same boring tactic that every other guy uses. Find another reason that she has "won you over".

Use the qualification process as an opportunity to convey even more value and establish a genuine connection. Put yourself in a woman's shoes and ask yourself how you would choose between 2 guys. Guy A who tells you he likes you because you have a nice body or Guy B who tells you he likes you because you have great energy, you both love opera, and share the love of mountain biking? It works for guys too. Which woman would you choose? Woman A who says: "you're rich -- I love that" or Woman B:"you're fascinating -- I love that"?

Make her work for it. Seduction is a game and women want to play too. Don't take away her fun of seducing you. Also keep in mind that if she is able to win you over too quickly she will think that you don't have a lot of options, that you are not very choosy, or that she is of a higher quality than most women you meet. If she believes any of those things, you are no longer "the prize". You can get some women without being "the prize" but not the most desirable ones.

This all adds up to the fact that you have to make the woman attract you. Just as you spend A2 (Attract) attracting her, now you have to let her win you over.

That sounds easy, and the problem here probably isn't what you are expecting. The problem is that most women are terrible at attracting men using anything other than their looks. The more beautiful the woman (and therefore the more necessary it is to find something other than her looks to be interested in), the less she will be used to using anything else. This was one of our more frustrating discoveries over the past 13 years while developing this model.

The solution we've found is to "help" a woman attract you. We have a ton of tactics for this that we go over in our live programs, but one easy-to-use tactic to get you started is called "Bait-Hook-Reel-Release".

BAIT: Here we use universal, general questions or hoops to "bait" her into saying something that you interpret as being an attractive quality. It's like giving her a test where she'll win every time. For example, asking someone "what would you want to be if you could do anything you wanted?" is a good "bait" question, since everyone will have an answer to this and you can arbitrarily interpret her answer as being very positive.

HOOK: Let's say that she'd want to be an actress. That's the hook. You will treat her answer here as a reason why you are attracted to her.

REEL: Now we reel her in with something like "No way! You want to be an actress? That's awesome! I really respect people who have the balls to get on stage and perform for others. You know, your first impression kind of sucked; but now that I've gotten to know you, I think you're incredible."

RELEASE: After we reel her in, complimenting her, she will feel uncomfortable if you do not "release". This is the final part of the qualification. You do this by slightly disqualifying her. Continuing with our example, you might say something like "You are trouble for me, now that I know that about you. You're amazing. I can't even talk to you." And then start to turn or move away. Done correctly, and naturally (it will come off as fake the first few times you try it, don't worry, keep practicing), she will chase after you like you've never seen. In our workshops guys who have never gotten hit on by women in their lives get this glow in their eyes when, all of sudden, attractive women are pursuing them.

You may need to go through this process a couple of times with different qualities to fully accomplish A3: Qualification. Make her qualify herself based on more than one good quality that she has. Try not to make it blatantly obvious; weave the bait-hook-reel-release module into natural, normal, conversation. And don't forget the "release" step -- that's where a lot of guys make mistakes.

Once you've gone through the process, you've done the whole ATTRACTION module. Next, you'll be ready to move into Comfort. This is a lot easier, and we'll cover it in the next issue.

AMAZING NEWS!

The Magic Bullets e-book has been released, going for $68. Apparently I've heard from insiders that it literally tells you EVERYTHING. Step-by-step stuff that amateurs can master. Awesome!

(You can download a sample chapter at the website)

A Trick Most Men Never Think Of Using When Approaching Women

I was in my marketing class today. You see I’m in college. Yes, hot women are everywhere. Yet, so many guys go through college without getting laid.

Why not?

Simple.

They don’t know how to approach women properly.

So what do most do about it?

They mope around their apartment and complain about how all the women out there are shallow and “sluts”, and how they’re not into them.

We’ll, we know that’s a lie.

So what do aspiring guys like us do when we’re faced with these problems?

We learn good techniques.

So…

To approach women successfully, you need great ‘openers’.

If you’ve never heard of an ‘opener’ you need serious help. Skip my end comments, and click immediately! (I’m not joking)

However, my topic today is not on ‘openers’. I wanted to chat today about ‘time constraints’ and their importance.

Time constraints sounds boring as hell, huh?

We’ll, it’s actually the one thing that will revolutionize your game just as much as getting a 13-inch penis implant will.

The Art of Approaching book puts it this way…

“A Time Constraint is a way of telling your target that you are going to interact with them for a short period of time. What this does is bypass that resistance they would put up because you are presenting yourself as just a momentary distraction to their daily lives.

But this gives you the opportunity to capture their fancy and open them successfully.
Some examples of Time Constraints are:

1. Real quick…
2. I’ve only got a few seconds…
3. I know you’re busy, but…”

What do you immediately think when someone starts to talk to you?

When are they going to leave…

Imagine how a beautiful woman who gets approached twenty or thirty times a night must feel?

WHEN IS HE GOING TO LEAVE!

So the ‘time-constraint’ is a beautiful way to by-pass their defensive mechanisms and enables you to talk longer. Isn’t it funny how counter-intuitive things work best with attractive women?

Some more great examples of ‘time-constraints’:

“I’ve got to get back to my friends real quick but…”
“I gotta get back to my food but…”
“My friend from out of town is waiting over there for me, but…”

See what’s going on here?

Nice.

Guess what? It works wonders.

For detailed and other mind freaking examples of incorporating these and more ‘time-constraints’ into your ‘openers’ check out Thundercat’s amazing tactical guide for approaching women. It’s called Art of Approaching and you can check it out below.

Art of Approaching ebook Link

I wish you great success with women,

Donovan

How To Be A Nice Guy (And Still Get Women!)

Have you ever heard that old familiar lament:

"Nice Guys Finish Last, Jerks Get Laid?"

At first glance, it would seem that is true.

There are a lot of Jerks out there who are able to attract tons and tons of women.

And there are a lot of Nice Guys who struggle with getting girls, and feel frustrated.

After all, who wants to have to be a jerk in order to get women?

Here's the thing...

YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE A JERK TO GET WOMEN!

You just have to change a few things you tend to be "nice" about.

For instance:

1. Social Restrictions

We tend to believe that there are "acceptable" and "unacceptable" things to do around women.

And while this is true to some extent, Nice Guys are often wrong about the limits of what is acceptable.

Like being sexual around women. Many Nice Guys believe this is "inappropriate behavior."

But that's wrong!

Being sexual around a woman is a very powerful way of communicating your interest in her.

Little things like flirting and joking about sex can go a long way into making you a potential lover instead of just a potential "friend."

2. Inability To Act

Too often, "Nice Guys" wait around for the girl to make the first move to initiate romance.

This is a DEADLY mistake!

Women take their cues from the men they're with. If you want to escalate into a physical relationship, you have to be the one to make the first move.

This can be scary. It's possible to get rejected.

But if you don't do it, you won't succeed!

Actions speak louder than words, and if you allow yourself to act and go in for a kiss, or not be afraid to touch her, then you communicate all the right things...

Things like aggressiveness, confidence, and sexuality -- all things women find irresistibly attractive!

3. Diarrhea Of The Mouth

Way too many Nice Guys like to talk about boring stuff.

They do nothing to captivate the girl. Their stories don't inspire romance or attraction.

In short: Nice Guys are neutered!

The real trick with women is to be playful! Have fun with them!

Crack jokes.

Tease them.

Have a good time.

Show her a little bit of attention instead of focusing on yourself -- but don't take yourself for granted either!

If you just talk, and talk, and talk without knowing what you're saying, you're going to bore the girl you're with.

And girls who are bored with you will not be attracted to you.

If you look at the three points above, you can see that the Jerks who get all the women do these things.

BUT, Nice guys can do them too, and not have to act like a complete horses ass to do them!

You can still be the Nice Guy you've always been, but just change three simple tactics and see a drastic improvement in your success with women.

Here's a recent success story I got from a Nice Guy who followed my advice...

NICE GUY SUCCESS STORY>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Dude, your stuff works!

I went out last night and took the lead much more. Also, thinking of what you told me, I pressed forward on every sexual innuendo opening that popped up. It is amazing how quickly girls opened up.

I ended up talking to this guy and the two girls with him about hotel porn and the fact that everybody, including women watches it (something I'd never thought I'd talk to women about before).

We talked about Michael Ninn and porn with real storylines and started dreaming up porn careers for ourselves.

Anyway, long story short, when they closed the club we ended up at his place nearby; nice and big with a Japanese garden.

We joked around and the girls did stupid dances to the indian electronica that was playing and eventually at like four am we paired off.

I just got back!

That is the quickest result I have had yet and it was fun to be so open. Thanks!

R. (recovering Nice Guy)

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

If you want to have really effective successes and turn your luck around, you really need to read my book The Art Of Approaching.

This information is truly LETHAL stuff.

The Nice Guy above emailed me a few times about his problems, and I gave him the EXACT SAME information I just gave you.

And look what it got him!

Listen to Uncle Joseph, I don't steer you wrong!

If you don't start applying the strategies in my book, you'll have to be happy with what you're getting right now.

But if you can imagine going out to meet women armed with the "secret weapons" I give you that can help boost your confidence and get beautiful girl after beautiful girl to date you...

Well, I'm sure you're starting to realize the possibilities. =)

To download your book right now, click on the link below:

Click Here To Download Your Copy

Start enjoying real success with women right now.

Good luck!

Joseph Matthews

How To Get Loads Of Digits!

I hope you had a great night on dates, or out meeting new women over the weekend.

This will be a short one, but I have a technique that will get you more numbers than you can handle. Interested?

I used an technique that I wanted to pass on to you all. I know that I try to get every technique that can make my game jump to the next level. So here it is.

I call this the "Cell phone grab" which I have heard from somewhere else, but I'm not to sure where.

It goes like this...

Man: "Give me your cell phone" (Putting out your hand)
Woman: (Gives you the cell phone)
Man: (Type in your phone number, and click SEND)
Man: *Phone Rings* (Hang your phone up) Thanks, I'll give you a call sometime.
Woman: Ok, cool.
Man: I got some stuff I gotta get done. Talk to you later.

The key to this technique is confidence.

Confidence that she will agree with everything you're doing. If you have the slightest doubt, they will freak out. I did this EXACT technique last night actually.

I visited some social hot spots last night, and nothing was really going down. Yes, one of those nights.

I came back to my mates condo, and his two roommates were cuddling with two hotties on two different lovesacs, with a movie playing. The light's were off.

We came in and said a brief "Hi", and then sat down on the couch.

Then...

I looked over at this Californian girl sitting to the right of me. I said, "Can I see your cell phone?" and she said, "Sure."

I called my phone (to get her number), then I text messaged her from my phone, "Nice to meet you, let's hang out sometime. - Donovan"

I said, "Look you got a message!" (Showing the phone to her, illuminating the WHOLE room)

She said, "Huh?" (It didn't click at all!!)

I was thinking, you retard Donovan, you screwed that up.

So I cut my losses and said Goodbye to everyone and walked over to some girls in a few condo's over.

To my surprise, as I was talking to some other girls I get a text message saying: "Hey sorry I didn't get that. I swear I'm not always that slow! Have a good night!"

"Ohhh yeah! I'm the man" I thought to myself.

I think the underlying principle with this is confidence. Confidence to live in your own reality and not care what a woman thinks of you. That's the golden rule for attracting beautiful women.

How To Be The Man Women Love

I want to share an observation with you.

Have you ever noticed that too often, men are willing to go against what they think, feel, and believe because there is a woman available to them?

And the thing is, the men KNOW that what they're doing is going to turn out badly, but they do it anyhow because they want to be with a girl in some way.

By the same token, many men are willing to let the women they're with walk all over them and treat them like crap because they're getting sex out of the deal (if they're lucky, anyway).

Us boys have a name for this behavior.

It's called being "whipped."

We've all had a friend at one time or another who's suffered from this condition. He's a cool guy, a good friend, but suddenly he meets a woman and he can't go out drinking because he's gotta pick her car up from the shop or take her kid out to the park, or whatever task she has assigned him.

And it's not the fact that she needs him to do things for her, it's the fact that he gives up any sense of what his life was in order to please her.

The problem that comes from this situation is that the guy often not only loses the respect of his friends, but also the respect of the woman he's with. The very person he's trying hardest to please begins to resent him and take him for granted.

This is why having rules and standards is important.

It comes down to a matter of SELF RESPECT.

People who have no code, no rules by which they live their lives, no standards by which they hold themselves up to, are weak people. They look for others to give them an identity, to give them a purpose.

But having rules and standards allows you to define who you are and stand on your own two feet. People who know what they are, and are not willing to do, garner respect from others.

Most unhealthy relationships stem from the problem of weakness in one of the partners.

Typically, women want a dominant man in a relationship. And when I say dominant, I DON'T mean the ball-gag, chains, and leather whips kind-of dominant. I mean a guy who takes control of the relationship and is a source of strength for the woman he's with. A man who makes her feel safe and eliminates uncertainty from her life.

But the woman aside, it's more about making YOU happy. It's about having respect for yourself and what you want out of life.

If you have a certain type of woman you want to be with, don't lower your standards just to get laid or whatever. That's not respecting yourself. Go after the type of woman you want instead
of settling for what you can easily get.

You'll be happier that way.

If you have a rule where you don't want to date single moms because you don't want to take care of someone else's kids - or whatever your reason may be - then don't do it! If you meet a girl, but she's a single mom, stay true to your rule. There's a reason you made it a rule in the first place, right?

In the end, having rules and standards makes you a more attractive person, because it conveys confidence and conviction, two traits women always find attractive in a man.

And as you know, women are complicated beings, and it seems most men are clueless when it comes to dealing with them!

So let me ask you this...

If you have more questions about how to be successful in your lovelife, what would it be like to have all those questions answered and enjoy attracting the incredible women you've always
dreamed of?

Maybe there's a girl you want to meet?

Maybe there's a girl you want to take out on a date?

Maybe there's a girl you just want to sleep with?

But how do you DO all this with the women you want?

Well fear not, my friend. Because answers are here. And with answers, come hope.

Listen, we all know what it's like to struggle with women. Sometimes you're too afraid to meet them because you don't want to be rejected. Sometimes, you're afraid to ask them out because you don't know what to do on the date. And sometimes, you might even be afraid to "close the deal" because you don't know what to do in the bedroom!

All of your problems can be solved with one thing and one thing only...

Knowledge.

Knowledge and the will to apply it!

In my time learning to be successful with women, I've gotten to meet some of the best dating experts in the world! And they've taught me some amazing secrets to their success with the fairer sex.

But after a seeing how incredible this information was they were sharing with me, I started to feel guilty.

Guilty that I was privy to all this fantastic advice, and no one else was!

Can you imagine what it would be like to get EXPERT advice from EXPERIENCED ladies men who KNOW what they're talking about?

What would it feel like if you could walk up to any woman you want, without fear, and easily strike up a conversation with her?

What would it feel like if you could go out on a date, confident that it was going to end the way YOU wanted it to?

What would it feel like to be so amazing in the bedroom, you've literally got women BEATING DOWN YOUR DOOR to be your willing love slave again and again?

When you literally FEEL that kind of confidence around women, you won't even have to work at getting them! They'll be the ones trying to get YOU.

That's not a lie my friend, nor is it marketing BS. That's the truth.

The great thing is that you CAN feel that way. You can walk through life powerfully, without fear of rejection, enjoying success with beautiful women, despite your looks, social standing, or bank account.

It is possible, if you're willing to learn.

I have accumulated some amazing advice from the best seducers, dating experts, and don juans in the world, and I've made it all available to the common man.

But it's not for everyone.

Some guys just aren't ready to learn these secrets. They just simply aren't ready for them yet.

If you're afraid of hard work, are lazy, or don't want to change how your life is currently like, then take the information you recieved from my newsletters and happily store it away on your computer.

But if you're committed to changing what doesn't work, if you really, truly want to have that feeling of a supremely confident ladies man and carry that with you wherever you go, then you definitely need to check out my website by clicking below:

Art of Approaching Website

Here you will discover everything you need to change your life for the better!

Good luck, my friend.

Joseph Matthews

Giving an Effective Massage (Made Easy)

Everyone knows to amplify attraction is essential to seduction.

Well... one of the best ways to get from non-touching to touching, then intimacy is a good massage. I found this informative article on good technique with massaging on alt.seduction.

Try a few things from it, sometimes its not appropriate to use oil (maybe after a date), but experiment.

Here it is:

Start with conversation. Without even touching the person, talk to them. Get attuned to how they're feeling etc at the time of the massage. Find out how their day, week, month has been (Depending onhow often you talk to them. =) Ask them if there are any areas that are painful or sensitive that they'd like avoided or paid special attention to. Remember that if they're not comfortable with you, they won't be comfortable with the massage they're receiving from you. Ask them if they would be uncomfortable with taking their clothes off. Let them know that you won't see them completely nude, but the purpose of the removal of clothing is so that lotions or oils can be used and so that the friction between cloth and skin won't cause discomfort for either the masseur/masseuse or massee. If they're uncomfortable with taking off their clothes, let them know that it's okay to leave them on. Again, they have to be comfortable in order to enjoy the massage. If they do wear clothes, don't use lotins or oils, but instead decide (Depending on the type of clothing) if you're going to cause the friction between your skin and the cloth or the massee's skin and cloth. If the clothing is very loose, you're best to keep the cloth with your hand. If the clothing is tight, it's best to keep it with the skin of the massee.

Assuming that not everyone has a massage table available, the floor is the next best thing (In some cases, it's better, IMO). Lay out an exercise mat or similar pad if you have it. If not, a blanket or comforter will work fine. Make sure that the surface that the person is lying on won't hurt their skin. (Don't use a rough feeling blanket... The smoother, the better.) Make sure that there's room enough for the person to stretch out on and spread their arms and legs out a little on without falling off the edge. Tell the person that after you leave the room, you want them to take off their clothing and lie on their stomach on the matt, covering their butt with a towel.

Have another towel handy to cover the breasts of a female massee when she turns over. When they're lying on the floor properly covered, they should call you back into the room to begin the massage. You should have a natural oil or lotion ready. If possible, have a warm water bath that you keep the bottle in (A bowl of warm water works good). You'll want to use an organic oil or lotion rather than an animal fat-based oil or a mineral oil. These can harm some people's skins. Vegetable oils and lotions work best. Personally, I use a Keoki Papaya Aloe Lanolin lotion. You can usually find a good natural lotion or oil at GNC or any health store.

Start by rubbing the lotion between both hands to warm it up if it isn't already warm. Gently spread it across the upper back and shoulders, getting the massee used to your touch.

IMPORTANT: Once you have touched the person, never lose touch til you're done. You want to create a bonded feeling between you and your friend through touch and if you break contact, that feeling is ruined. Keep talking to the person while you spread the lotion across the upper back and shoulders. Spread the lotion in a circular motion of each hand for a few rotations, gradually moving your hands to the shoulders, cupping the hands over the tops of the shoulders, pulling down on the muscles between the neck and shoulder joints with your four fingers and
pushing up with the thumbs on the same muscles, pushing up along the back of the neck muscles. Use circular motions with the thumbs along this area while gently pulling these muscles with the fingers. Move the hands down the shoulders, pulling on the muscles with fingers and pushing with the thumbs.

IMPORTANT: Don't push on the spine! Keep the hands on either side of the spine, working down along the muscles.

Work your way back up the back with both hands cupped to the sides of the back, thumbs along either side of the spine. Pull out from the spine with the thumbs, working back to the top of the back. Return to the shoulders, again cupping the hands over the shoulders and pulling with your four fingers and pushing with the thumbs. Starting at the top of the back pull down along either side of the spine with the four fingers, pushing down with some force, being careful not to hurt the massee. Work back up the back and use both hands on each shoulder, switching from side to side. Repeat the above as nescessary.

When you get bored working on the back [kidding] move gently down the sides to the legs. Rub gently down to the ankles. Cup both hands over one ankle, moving your body around to one side of the feet. Holding both hands over the ankle, knead the legs by pulling up on one side of the leg with the thumb of one hand while pulling back with the fingers of the other hand, keeping both hands next to each other.

Move back and forth like this with both hands up and down the calf of the leg. Rotate the hands ninety degrees so that both thumbs are in the middle of the knee and the fingers are cuppping over to the sides of the thigh. Pull away from the center of the leg with the thumbs, using the fingers as leverage (but not pressing too hard so as to hurt the person). Work up and down the thigh pulling out from the center with both hands. When you reach the top of the thigh, pull down the center of the leg til you reach the bottom of the thigh and start working back up. Work back down to the ankle and swithch legs. Repeat on the other leg. Work back up the thigh to the back, cupping the hands over both thighs with the thumbs off center to the outside of the leg, pressing with the fingers. As you move your hands up, your thumbs will rub along the buttocks and the fingers along the sides. You will be cupping each hand on the side of the lower back of the massee. Work up the back repeating what you worked on before.

Move down the arms, gently rubbing lengthwise. Work back to the back and rub the neck. Rub the fingers up into the scalp, moving back and forth with all your fingers as if scratching, but without the nails of your hands. Show the person the other towel and move your body around, placing yourself above their head. Have them turn over, keeping your hands on their head. Move down their arms, rub the fronts of the legs in a similar way as to the backs of the legs, and rub the feet, if you have the knowledge. Unfortunately, it takes a lot of explanation to properly describe a foot massage, but as long as you're careful, you can't hurt the person, so experiment.

In order to maintain contact, you'll have to apply the oil or lotion with one hand, out have to warm it before you apply it. To do this, use one hand to pick up the bottle and squeeze some oil or lotion into the nape of the opposite hand, then rub the hand that held the bottle ove the nape to warm the oil, gently working the oil onto the skin. Just remember that you're free to experiment with these different techniques and don't have to follow this description exactly.

This is a great technique for kino escalation. Because when you're done: simply start holding her hand. Then you can escalate into kissing, sex, etc. She will be so relaxed that pretty much anything will go. Plus you've already touched her everywhere.

How To Ask A Girl Out

I have been getting a FLOOD of emails from avid readers of the blog. The most common question that most ask is "Whats the best way to ask a girl out for a date?" or "What is the best cocky and funny way to ask a girl out for a date?" or the funniest "How should I ask her out so I have the best chances of getting laid that night?"

Haha classic.

Anyways, David D wrote something about this that couldn't be put better. Check it out here.

Donovan

P.S. I love getting emails, they lighten up my day, please keep sending me your questions!

Reading and Using "Sexual Body Language"

I have some interesting news for you...

Attractive women know within SECONDS of seeing and/or interacting with you if you're a sexually aware, confident man.

And they make the SUBCONSCIOUS decision of whether or not you're a possible sexual partner within a maximum of a few minutes of interacting with you.

These subconscious decisions are made mostly on the basis of body language and voice tone.

And since we know that "Attraction Isn't A Choice", we can generalize the following:

1) If you don't know what types of body language communicate that you're one of these "sexy beast" guys, you're probably not doing the right things "by accident".

2) The words you say actually don't matter much. What matters is HOW you say them, both with your voice and with your body language.

3) It is possible to learn how to communicate that you're a "sexually aware, confident man" using your body language and voice tone.

Learning this skill will make attracting women MUCH easier.

Unfortunately, most men are too caught up in the idea of being macho and independent to work on this area of their life... and as a result, they waste most of their time in "quiet desperation", never seeing any real improvement because they don't seek help and use the help to improve.

In short, if you don't know whether or not you project the kind of body language and voice tone that makes women feel that emotional jolt of sexual attraction, then you can bet your last dollar that you aren't. What's a guy to do? Learn it, and then use it.

When I first started learning about how to meet women, I can remember thinking that I needed to learn pick up lines and other tricks. I had no idea that this stuff was basically useless without the all-important understanding of how body language works.

After a lot of trial and error, I started to realize that when my body language and voice tone were correct, I could say ALMOST ANYTHING to women and they would feel ATTRACTION.

Here are three things you can do to IMMEDIATELY increase your attractiveness to women:

1) LEARN HOW TO HOLD EYE CONTACT LONGER THAN HER.

If you see a woman that you find attractive, and she looks back at you, DON'T LOOK AWAY.

Most guys become very self conscious and look away as soon as a woman notices them looking.

This is a HUGE mistake.

If you want to communicate all the right things, you need to show IMMEDIATELY that you're not afraid, and that you're not at all self conscious about the fact that you are checking her out.

A good exercise is to walk through a mall for a few hours and look DIRECTLY at every woman you see.

Walk into every store, and look directly into the eyes of every single woman you encounter... and DON'T LOOK AWAY UNTIL AFTER SHE DOES.

Do yourself a huge favor, and don't open your eyes really wide and smile like a serial killer while you're doing this exercise.

Women don't tend to enjoy that.

Just learn how to hold eye contact with a woman until she looks away...

This is very important.

2) USE CONFIDENT POSTURE.

Most men I see hold themselves in a way that says "I am not very confident about myself or anything I'm saying".

And most of the guys I know who are chick MAGNETS hold themselves in a way that says "I'm the dominant male in this situation... I own this place".

Suck in your stomach, hold your head up and back, pull your shoulders back, arch your back... and generally hold yourself like you're the most powerful person you've ever seen or heard of.

Yeah, I know this sounds dorky, but do it anyway.

You'll probably feel strange and self conscious at first, but not to worry.

If you continue to practice your confident posture, you'll soon become comfortable with it.

And more important, you'll attract attention from women.

Remember, women aren't interested in finding another average Wuss Boy.

Women aren't ATTRACTED to WUSSIES.

Carry yourself like a manly man, and attractive women will notice and have INSTANT positive subconscious reactions to you.

3) USE SLOW, CALCULATED MOVEMENTS AND GESTURES.

Watch a few James Bond films. And while you're at it, check out "Dirty Rotten Scoundrels".

Have you ever noticed that James Bond never looks like he doesn't know how to act?

And that he never fidgets or behaves nervously? Everything James does is a little slower than it should be. He's just too cool.

Try learning how to turn your head slowly, how to blink slowly, how to change facial expressions slowly... and how to gesture slowly.

This makes a huge impact on how others perceive you.

This kind of body language transmits the message: "I'm so comfortable in my own skin, it hurts".

4) USE CONFIDENT VOICE TONE.

Most people speak with weak, squeaky voices that conveys the message: "I'm not confident... I have no self esteem".

This turns women off. Big time.

If you want to attract beautiful women, you're going to need to take a few lessons from Barry White.

Learn how to speak with a deeper voice.

Learn to speak from down in your chest and stomach.

Add more bass to your voice.

Also, learn how to speak slower... and how to articulate every word better. Become comfortable pausing... it creates anticipation. Most guys talk too much, too fast, and feel like they need to talk because they're nervous. Don't do it! Learn to lean back, relax, and become comfortable with the tension that comes from silence.

If you work on using your BODY AND VOICE to communicate that you're a confident, sexually aware, stud-muffin, then all the techniques you're learning from me will work TEN times better.

Really.

As you know, I really believe that it takes a DEEP understanding of how and why ATTRACTION works between men and women before you will actually begin to "GET IT" at that deep level in your GUT... which leads to ACTION.

And what's the BEST way to learn all of the most important aspects of communicating with women on this level we've been talking about?

Simple. Check out my e-book "Double Your Dating". (Link)

David D.

Real Social Dynamics Audio Gift

The team at Real Social Dynamics (Website), just released a free audio gift, to those who want to download it.

I have listened to it, and it contains a discussion with lecturer "Tyler Durden", and you can learn the following:

1. Simple and subtle strategies for meeting and seducing beautiful women!

2. How to develop the confidence and charisma necessary to properly approach gorgeous women.

3. Learn about the NEW techniques proven to work in sparking attraction..

4. Strategies and tips for getting women so stimulated that she will think about you all day long.

5. Eye-opening secrets for starting conversations with beautiful women - that you can implement today!

To start listening to this exclusive seminar, all you need to do is visit:

http://www.realsocialdynamics.com/audio.asp

The audio will automatically start playing in your browser and an audio player should appear right in front of you on your computer screen.

After a few seconds, if the audio does not start playing, or if the audio player does not display, you can download the seminar -- simply click on "Download" link and the 112-minute audio seminar will download directly to your desktop.

Check out other free stuff on Attraction Chronicles like "The Game" Free Sample Chapter, and also "Art of Approaching" Free Sample Chapter. If reading is more you're thing to do...

Till next time,

Donovan

P.S. Don't forget to get your free e-book by signing up for my bi-weekly newsletter.

Can You Approach Women Like Neil Strauss, Author of "The Game" Tonight?

Neil Strauss has just released The Game, have you gotten a chance to read it?

You haven't yet?

Bad, bad man. Especially seeing as you're interested in meeting women.

We'll I have read it. And guess what?

I want to share a secret I personally got from the writings of Neil Strauss author of "The Game".

You see, he let us all in on a little secret!

Have you ever tried to approach a woman, and just not known what to do?

Hell, YES! (Everyone says)

Well.. I have a suggestion that you can take (Or not), that has literally exploded my success with meeting and approaching women for the first time.

Would you like know what it is?

Well..

I'm not so sure.

I'll give you this tip, and then you'll run away, and not read my blog, and then who will be my friend?

Exactly. You see my point. Lucky I'm a nice guy though.

In the underground seduction community, you approach a woman with an "Opener".

An opener is just what you first say in the opening lines of talking to her. Hence, it's called an "Opener".

So I'll give you the simple and easy opener for approaching and meeting women. That can be used for a variety of situations.

Have you ever heard of Paris Hilton?

Hmmm... I'm sure you have. *Wink*

Here is a real field approach and opener taken straight from the Neil Strauss book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pick Up Artists". (From Section 7: Extract to a Seduction Location, Chapter 8, pg. 256)

"I got up, walked into the restaurant, and saw a hot blonde chick getting salsa. So I thought, "Salsa sounds good to me." I've been gearing my game up for this moment, and now it was time to take what I deserved. So I walked over to her side and pretended like I was just at the salsa bar by coincidence. I helped myself to some salsa, and then looked over my right shoulder at her and started the conversation with Style's [Neil Strauss] jealous girlfriend Opener.

Papa: Hey, I need a female opinion on something?
Girl: (Smiles and looks up) Okay.
Papa: Would you date a guy who was still friends with his ex-girlfriend?
Girl: Yeah. I think so. Sure.

I started to walk away, then turned back and continued the conversation.

Papa: Hmm. Actually, this is a two-part question.
Girl: (Smiles and giggles)
Papa: Imagine you were dating a guy who was still friends with his ex-girlfriend. And you were going to move in with him but he had a drawer with pictures of his ex-girlfriend – not nude pictures or anything, just regular pictures and some letters.
Girl: Ooh. I would so get rid of them. I would put them in a box.

I cut her off and continued with the opener.."

You were wondering who that girl was huh?

Well.. Yes, that girl was Paris Hilton.

Amazing isn't it?!

This ‘Jealous Girlfriend Opener' is common within the seduction community. And hundreds of pickup artists around the world use it now.

I can tell you are a person of originality. Someone who doesn't want to be ‘fake.'

So..

I know of a book, which gives you a specific formula on how to make your own "Openers".

This book states: (pg 100)

"Opinion Openers are, for my money, the best type of Openers out there. This is because these types of Openers are engaging, do not telegraph interest, and can lead to some really great conversations.

The best way to engage someone for the first time is by asking their opinion on something. When doing so, you are able to get them to invest their own personal thoughts and feelings into your burgeoning conversation. And once that's invested, they are more likely to commit themselves to the interaction.

A good Opinion Opener can be anything that does not telegraph interest, while presenting options to your target that helps to encourage them to give and expand upon their opinion.."

That is just one part of the explanation and he later gives you a detailed way to create your own Opinion Openers.

Alright!

So you understand the basic idea of what an Opinion Opener is, correct?

Well, what about a..

• Advice Opener
• Compliment Opener
• Direct Opener
• Drama Opener
• Insult Opener
• Joke Opener
• Online Opener
• Roleplay Opener
• Situational Opener
• Etc..

Throughout the course of his book, he breaks these Openers down for you, defines them, gives you examples of them, and even shows you the structure of each Opener so you'll know how to construct hundreds for your own personality and whichever situation you could possibly ever meet women in!

Imagine:

• Walking up to any girl and getting her number
• Creating an interesting and addictive conversation with a woman you just met
• Eliminating your fear of rejection with women

This book is a must for ANY man who has a healthy sexual appetite for beautiful women.

Is that you?? Maybe.. (I hope so..)

I have referred my best friends to this book that have come to me for advice about approaching women. It is an essential resource for a man to have in his arsenal to attract any woman.

Sorry, I forgot to tell you the name.

Art of Approaching 2nd Edition by Thundercat.

Guess what else? There are plenty of other (not just Openers) easy-to-use techniques broken down in his book "Art of Approaching".

You'll love it. I promise.

Check out it out here.

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

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Have fun, and enrich your life with options!

Donovan

WHAT! You're Afraid of Approaching Beautiful Women?

• Are you such a wussy that you can’t even go up to a girl and get her number?
• Are you so lame, that you can’t even go up to a woman, and simply start talking?
• Are you so unsuccessful with women, that you need to look up stuff on the Internet?

WHAT IS YOUR DEAL??

Guess what… I was once like that.

I had things inside my own head that stopped me from successfully approaching women.

What’s yours? (Think about it… SERIOUSLY - STOP AND THINK)

Some of mine were:

• She would say ‘No’ and it would destroy the courage I just had
• She will start yelling out to everyone that you’re trying to rape her
• She will call me a ‘loser’ and yell at me
• Her boyfriend from ‘around the corner’ will come and beat me up

So what are yours? (Write them down.)

You need to handle those exact problems now (not later), or you will be confined to getting happy with your five-fingered girl friend. (Yeah, her!)

I’m going to let you in on a secret of mine.

When I first started out reading about this sort of stuff, I wanted some quick and easy ways to fix my game.

Guess what?

It doesn’t work that way. (Which I discovered) You have to change yourself. You have to become the man a really attractive woman would even want. Otherwise, she’ll find out, and she’ll leave you.

But you say, “How can she even choose, if I don’t even know if she’s interested?” or “How can she even choose, if I can’t even get her number, or talk to her?”

We’ll…. I’m going to share the best kept secret of approaching women with confidence and charisma. It’s straight out of Thundercat’s book “Art of Approaching”. It’s called:

The Eye Contact Test
Taken from “From Section 1, The Art of Body Language, Chapter 2, page 13”

I think you're really going to like this secret, because I'm going to share a little trick with you that I've developed that really makes it easy to meet a woman.

Too often, guys are simply too nervous to approach a girl because of the extreme amount of uncertainty involved. Think about it. What runs through your head when you want to meet a woman?

• "Am I her type?"
• "Does she have a boyfriend?"
• "Will she find me attractive?"
• "Maybe she's too busy to meet anyone."
• "Will she be receptive to me talking to her?"

I'm sure you can think of a 100 more things that run through your mind when you see an approach opportunity come your way.

If you get scared or nervous when this happens, it's because of one thing:

UNCERTAINTY.

You don't know how the girl you want to approach is going to respond! So your scared because the outcome MIGHT be negative!

Well, worry about this no more, because with this little trick I'm going to share with you, you'll never have to worry about a negative reaction again.

This little trick is so simple, ANYONE can do it! And it's a 100% fear free tactic.

We all know that eye contact is important, but something funny happens when we make eye contact with another person. We become COMPELLED to respond to them in some fashion. When it comes to women, you can use eye contact to find out if she's open to meeting you. In fact, in a way, she'll be opening YOU!

So here's what you do...

The next time you see a woman you want to meet, LOCK your eyes on her! Seriously, just stare at her eyes, even if she's not looking at you.

When people are out and about, they will usually look around to keep aware of their surroundings. This is an unconscious thing we all do. Eventually, the woman you're locking onto will look around to scan the area.

When she comes to you, her eyes will invariably meet yours, and you'll be locked in eye contact.

When that happens, simply SMILE at her.

If she smiles back, guess what? She's OPEN TO YOU MEETING HER. If she doesn't, then move on to someone who is.

And when she does smile back, say "Hi!" And if she responds, you're in! Go right into your opener.

I like to use this tactic in low-key situations, like grocery stores, coffee shops, book stores, etc. Even though it can work just as well in bars (as long as the light is high enough that she can actually SEE you!).

Often times, after you smile, the girl herself will say "Hi!" and then the rest is easy.

The next time you go out, do this to every woman you see. Lock your eyes onto them and see what happens. I guarantee you, you'll be surprised by the results.”

Did you like that?

• It is easy and simple.
• It works.
• It was amazing.
• It does wonders.

I love it, and even though I’m a “veteran” at this, I still use it. It’s one of the most powerful techniques there is.

I remember I did the exact technique to this cheerleader at my college. She was a beautiful 5'6 blonde, and I simply held eye-contact, then smiled, and she said exactly what the book said she would do...

She smiled back and said "Hi!".

It was the best feeling, especially since I was just reading it the night before.

Guess what else?

There are plenty of easy-to-use techniques broken down for the real world in his book “Art of Approaching”.

You’ll love it. I promise.

Also…

After studying behavior for many years, I know one thing: If you don't make the decision to get this part of your life handled right now, there's a very very small chance that you're going to do anything about it in the future.

You know how they say that you can't tell someone how to get somewhere unless you've been there yourself? Well I've been there, and I'm going to show you the way. Think about it...

Check out his e-Book here.

Keep it real. And come back regularly for more posts on this blog. I try to post new material almost everyday. Although if you need in-depth help (which you will need) click above.

To your success, do your part and I know it will come to you,

Donovan